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We broke up yesterday and I can’t get enough sleep tonight. Please help.
Us
We decided to break up yesterday at midnight because he doesnt want me to cry anymore, bother me anymore and overthink again. We still love each other ( ik this for pretty sure) we always argued but we awlays ended our argument by talking this through. I was the one who always brought up breaking up, and he was the one who kept holding on. This is our first break up and honestly i feel like we might get back together. What do you think?
I need advice
My boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago because he “wasn’t ready for a relationship”; I want to say it’s gotten better but I don’t know if I even believe it, I feel like he isn’t sad and doesn’t care. I’ve tried to text him he doesn’t answer; I haven’t texted him for 2 days though. Our relationship wasn’t perfect but when it was good it was good; he watched porn knowing how it made me feel, ignored my feelings, made me feel crazy for being anxious and he promised not to leave and still did. But we were each others first everything, i met his whole family and did everything with him I made as much effort as i could and i really believed we would last. I can’t let him come back but I feel like i’m fighting myself on this. how do i heal? how do i move on and get over this?
I think I should’ve left right at the start…
I’m sorry, I actually haven’t broken up with him. I can’t leave but I’m in pain and crying with him. But it’s so hard. I should leave. I cry because I should but idk if I need mental or psychological help- no matter how much he hurts me I still don’t ever go… but yes I know I should, and I complain and cry that he won’t change. Why can’t I leave. Someone help me get over him. I keep telling myself he’s a good person and he wouldn’t ignore me on purpose… wouldn’t talk to other girls… wouldn’t not care about me
Idk
We broke up yesterday, I love him and he loves me but we’re unhealthy and we need to work on ourselves That’s what he told me , he said there wouldn’t be nobody else and idk if I believe him , he said he stills sees me in his future , I just don’t know how to stop contacting him and to just focus on me for a little because it’s always been him . What do I do .. plus I hurt him
Stuck in pain.
It’s only been 3 weeks since our breakup and my ex is living the high life. He went on a holiday to Mykonos and posting it all over social media how happy and carefree he is, as if I never existed or meant anything. He’s going from beach to beach partying and enjoying his time and freedom whilst I’m stuck in the hurt and pain of having to walk away when I felt like my emotional needs weren’t being met. Sometimes I doubt myself like did I make the right decision to walk away that day, what would the outcome have been if we stayed together. I’m definitely feeling the grief more now I’ve seen him moving on so publicly on social media feels like our relationship wasn’t even real that I made it up in my head because he’s unfazed . And it’s now like I’m addicted at looking at his social media and seeing if he still cares and analysing his captions and hashtags. It’s only been 3 weeks and is still fresh. Being getting heart palpitations l, lost my appetite, feel sick and anxious, I keep getting brain fog forgetting things. I hope that I can finally heal and not feel this pain anymore.
Can’t eat can’t sleep
On June 26, I said something very stupid to my boyfriend. I have a sleep in on topaMax as well but that’s no excuse. His 18-year-old daughter wants her 18-year-old friend to move into their small little house and her friend looks like my boyfriend‘s deceased ex his child’s mother. he asked me what my opinion was, and I’ve didn’t think it through and it’s probably because I’ve never been an experience where my child has lost their parents so I was very insensitive and I wasn’t thinking and I told him that I was a little insecure about having a young girl that looked like his ex moving in where you know they have to be passing each other by towels and stuff like that and I guess I was just not thinking right and of course you know that Alicia Silverstone movie popped into mind. I was very ignorant and I’m very sorry but of course he got upset and he decided not to talk to me for a few days understandably and then last Wednesday he broke up with me. I’ve apologize so many times now I have I apologize I have went and educated myself why that could be a sensitive subject. I know I’m not the sharpest tool in the shed, but I talk to some wonderful people that helped explain why that hurt him But you know now he refuses to have anything really to do with me. Right now I’ve still have not decided if I wanted to go no contact but I’ve been watching his Snapchat score and it keeps going up and I’m pretty sure he’s talking to somebody else because here it is like three 4 AM and his scores are going up and if I send them anything, he doesn’t really open it. He has kind of talked a little bit. I wrote him a note with ChatGPT and I poured out my heart and I’m hoping to give it to him tomorrow. See if he will understand and maybe take me back but I really doubt it. I think that ship is sailed and then after that, I gotta decide whether to go no contact which makes me so sad because right before this happened. Everything was so perfect until I made that blunder and as bad as that blunder was, it seemed to erase 20 months of good memories and good times and anytime he needed me. I was there for him when his brother was homeless. I bought his brother hotel. I helped him with his Internet bill when it was out. I’ve helped him buy his car because that was his dream car I’ve done so much and I love this guy. You could just see in my face and I don’t think anybody could ever love him as much as I did and I know that sounds weird, but I really love the guy and he has put me through a lot, but I still looked at him like he was the most amazing man ever. Since June 26 I have not ate. I can’t even put myself to eat. I’m doing good at trying to at least keep some water down on me. I haven’t slept all but maybe five hours I have even gotten to the point that I don’t even really shower. My bedroom is a mess. My house is a mess. I don’t even get bed. I don’t even turn on the TV. I just sit there and watch my phone and hope he calls it sucks that he just discarded me and instead of him educating me about what was wrong with what I said because like I said, I haven’t experienced that type of thing. not making excuse for my behavior my speech. Does anybody have any suggestions how I can make this right again if I can make it right again… should I go no contact that would be probably less painful to see him chatting up with other girls but at the same time when we’ve always said, if we broke up, we will still be friends in there for each other but at this point, he doesn’t even seem to even care about me
Deleting Photos with my Ex
I’m almost 3 months out since my breakup and I’m debating on whether or not I should delete the photos with my ex. I have them in a hidden folder in my photos so that I don’t see them for right now. Some were good memories and some were bad. I’m really leaning towards deleting them, mostly because they’re just reminders of a person who does not exist anymore. He changed a lot for the worse towards the end of the relationship. Should I delete them?
Circumstantial Breakup
I am a college student living in the United States and my ex is a construction worker from England living in Australia. I met him at the start of my study abroad in Australia and we were inseparable the entire time. It was genuinely the best relationship I have ever been in, and I was the happiest I have ever been in my life. He broke up with me right before I left to go back to the United States because he was scared of doing long distance, especially since I was his first relationship. We are still talking, because we ended on good terms and I have hope that he will change his mind, but I feel like I seem a lot more bothered about this breakup than he does. Any advice??
what do i do?? i miss him already
so me and my boyfriend recently broke up and i already miss him. he was my first actual boyfriend, and we were together for almost a year. it was heartbreaking when we broke up. even though it was a mutual agreement to break up, i still am so upset and miss him. we broke up 2 days ago, and i can’t stop thinking about him. my heart hurts and i feel like no one gets me. i don’t want to get back together with him, and i don’t regret breaking up with him because it was needed to be done, i just don’t know what to do or how to cope with this. please help i need advice so if you have anything let me know. thanks.
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