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We are not compatible, but I miss you.
I feel like letting it out here would let go so much of how I am feeling right now. I feel so overwhelmed, I love you so so much. But we were so toxic. We fight everyday, but i don't want to let go even how much we have broken up and said stuff. It feels like we will get back together again, but at the same time I feel empty, hopeless and missing you. It's fresh, i remember you told me never reach out and youd just block me.. it's hurtful, it is something i want to do for you, you seem like you're suffering. At the same time, it would make me very very sad if I see you with another woman, I won't be ready for that any time soon. Which i hope u won't be I don't wanna be evil but it's to keep my self sane. I miss u so much, I don't want u back but it hurts a lot that we aren't together and even how much we tried we wouldn't work out.
3months Post Breakups
Its almost 3 months since my Ex and I broke up. He dumped me because he already gave up on us and he didn't want us to be together anymore. I couldn't get him off my mind, even though I already started going to the gym or doing other side hobbies I still always think about him. I wish I could stop. But i still stalk his social medias and kept overthinking if he already has a new girl which makes me anxious even more.
i miss us
we were dating for 9 months and he broke up with me the day after we hit 9 months. we were always the type to get jealous talking to the opposite gender it didn’t matter much. everytime something would occur i would always say sorry but to it again. i was genuinely changing this time and he never saw i did all these things like paragraphs every night or even 101 reasons why i love him. he never realized how hard i tried. until after we broke up my other ex his friend kept adding me i was hurting not thinking i texted saying how i dont want him added and i want nothing to do with other boys. he kept on texting me and comforting me i told him simply ty i js miss my ex we were tgth for nine months and now he says it was venting. i apologize continuously for trying to do smth that was bad texting him but help clear things up but it didn’t. now he wants nothing to do with me and i miss him so bad everyday because he is my first Real Love. it’s now been 7 days he moved on already found a new girl but he’s never met her b4.
I got dumped…
We were together for 8 months, and I’m now 13 days out from the breakup. I was the one who got dumped, she went Facebook dating to find a fuck buddy, then I found out she was fucking someone… A big part of what I’ve been trying to process is how confusing and inconsistent the relationship felt, especially looking back. There were good moments, which is part of why it’s been so hard to make sense of everything, but there were also patterns that left me feeling emotionally unseen, confused, and like I was giving more care than I was receiving. One of the biggest things I’ve realized is that there were times when I ended up caring for her emotionally in moments where I should have been the one getting cared for. Instead of my feelings being centered or supported, the focus often shifted back to her emotions, her reactions, or her needs. That created a dynamic where I was often the one reassuring, comforting, or managing the emotional atmosphere, even when I was hurt or when something had affected me. Over time, that made me put my own needs to the side and prioritize keeping things calm or making sure she was okay. Looking back now, that imbalance feels really important because it shows how often I was stretching emotionally while getting less support in return. Another thing that stuck with me was the mixed energy she gave off. Sometimes she could be sweet, affectionate, or make it feel like there was a real connection, but other times she came across as shallow, detached, or overly sexual in ways that made me feel reduced rather than genuinely cared for. One example that really stayed with me was when there was a cute question like ‘what’s your favorite part of my body?’ and instead of saying something playful or affectionate like my smile or hair, she just said ‘your dick.’ That moment bothered me more over time because it made me question whether she really valued me as a whole person or if a lot of her interest operated on a more surface-level or objectifying level than I wanted to admit. A lot of my pain now comes from trying to understand what felt like a switch-up in her behavior. I keep going back and forth wondering if she changed suddenly, if this side of her was always there and I just didn’t fully see it, or if I ignored certain signs because I cared
Don’t know what to do
my boyfriend broke up with me over text, he didn’t give me a reason just broke up and acted cold and ignorant. Later on that day I went out drinking, I called him and texted him telling him that i loved him and the answer I got was “stop I want to sleep, please don’t call or text”. I tried for 2 days to get an explanation and then i gave up until i got in contact with his best friend, he told me that he broke up because he felt it was to much, to much stress, to much arguing and that he wanted to spend more time with his friends. I totally understand that because we are basically all up on each other and i basically live with him. But with just a litte bit of communication it all would be fixed. So why leave me like that? Was i not worth it? I ended up seeing him yesterday, he drove to my house and we went outside, we talked and I cried he told me he was sorry and regret what he has done. Later on he told me that he did something stupid. My heart started racing.. he told me he had added a bunch of girls when he was out drinking.. i just got numb, he told me that it was only snaps and just like where you’re from and blablabla. we drove to his house, i wanted to cry when I stepped into his room i missed being there i really do, we talked and he said he will always love me but he feel we can’t just get back together now after breaking up publicly. I really miss him. I don’t know if I should wait or move on it’s too complicated, we were supposed to look after my dog in 3 days and he still wants to do it. If you guys want more information just ask.
So sad
Devastated my boyfriend broke up with me by text and couldn’t face me. My bestest friend and someone that I loved more than anything. Someone I saw everyday and slept next to every night. Just gone. Life is so empty now.😭😭😭😭
I miss him
I was seeing someone not long but in a short time became my person I was excited to talk to everyday. He said he loved me and I loved him. We became each other’s safe space, where we loved the way we made each other feel physically and mentally. He said he has a lot going on in his life and that I deserve better but I wanna continue to love him through the tough times but he won’t let me. Im scared he won’t come back to me or I’ll never be able to move on or that I won’t find this kind of love again. It’s only been 2 weeks and i feel like my world has been turn upside down
We didn’t wanna end things
We didn’t wanna end things honestly we had a really good click for each other and he was really into me and I was equally as interested in him. We had a lot of fun together. We danced and sing songs together. Cook together spend time paddle boarding walking dinner dates I met his family and his grandparents. Unfortunately, he is away pretty much all summer. I only see him like once a week until he goes to university of the school two hours away and he said he could come in on weekends for me and that we would have each other like every weekend from now until school ended and then he he already has plans to switch to my university before we even met he had that plan and we ended things because he thought it wasn’t really enough for me but it was good enough for me and I tried to tell him that maybe we will get to get her I wish I could know how he’s doing about this.
i fucked up.
me and demaurya broke up over 6 months ago but i can not let go. i stay up all night thinking of us. i cheated on her twice. i was controlling and jealous. i’ve apologized every day since. i don’t know what to do anymore.
My Experience:
Hi, my name is Chiara. I am 20 years old and from Melbourne, Australia. I broke up with my long distance ex, DH from Perth around a year ago, because he called me fat and wouldn’t apologise-also for a lot of other reasons, which I shall mention here. Instead, He was like, we are done. This year, he pops out of nowhere like it never happened. He acted overly romantic. Then he ignored most of my texts and posted an annoyed emoji. Like hot n cold. So fake. He showed lots of toxic behaviours, including being controlling, gaslighting about money / being sensitive and getting mad over little things. He also would make me pay for most of the flights and didn’t visit me in my own city as much, which wasn’t very fair. Yeah. He paid for his own petrol, but everyone does that. It’s not really a special favour. He said he was going on a 2 year holiday, around the world, which would cost 200 K. Like no one could afford that-not even Prince Harry. This year, he tells me he is living in Australia. So, he lied about his 2 year trip. Probably is with some other girl. Additionally, he sped on the wrong side of the road-showing no or little concern for my safety. Lots of other things… I kept gaslighting myself that I was to blame-not him. I said we could be friends and email each other, which we did for a short time, but then he stopped emailing me. For some reason, I still can’t stop thinking about him. I don’t want to be so depressed.
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