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How do I move on?
I was in a relationship for 8 months. 4 of them long distance. He made me feel so special and loved for the first 4 until his work picked up and long distance got hard and suddenly me wanting to talk so often was too much. I revolved my world around him. Setting alarms to speak through his day time, planning to put a plug in my career with the intention of moving over to his country. And then he grew more and more distant. I started therapy to work on my anxious attachment he contacted my family 2 weeks ago to reassure them he would work on his avoidance tendencies. Then this time last week I called whilst he was doing chores to talk about a medical appointment of mine and he got mad at me for interrupting him. He ignored me for 2 days and then called whilst I was on the motorway driving and dumped me then proceeded to block me and my family from everything before I even had a chance to process anything. He had a flight booked for Christmas. And now all of it is gone. No contact , no closure , no answers. Just me questioning my self , my worth and what I did so wrong . I cannot get myself out of this black hole. Please help.
I’m a terrible person
We were together for almost 2 years and I am gonna be honest I was a terrible boyfriend I never bought her anything never took her out and I was too lazy to get a job as people would say I got too comfortable in the relationship and I let everything get too far and she just let it rip and it started that we were gonna just take a break and instead we broke up because I couldn’t stop messaging our mutual friend about her and she got very mad and told me if I bother her one more time she will block me and never speak to me again. Our mutual friend still believes I have a chance to get back together with her if I can fix myself and work on the things I need to ( I know I fucked up and I know what I need to work on), I jsut honestly don’t know what to feel anymore like I want the chance to get back together but then again I don’t want any of us to move on because truthly I still love her and I can’t imagine myself with anyone else even if I have to take my entire life to fix everything. If anyone has advice about what I should/could do to not only fix the relationship but better myself not only for her but for anyone else I may meet in my life I would really appreciate it.
I need advice !!!!
We were friends for years. Went out 4 years ago for a few months we were young, and I eventually broke it off, we became friends again for years. Last year he got a girlfriend and I got rlly jealous and told him we eventually got together and I was rlly happy. A few months after my feelings started changing and we got distant, I made the worst mistake of my life and cheated, I will never forgive myself for this,we went on a break and ended up breaking up. When we broke up I wasn’t very sad I was living me life talking to other people going out and having fun.A few months after I started missing him so I reached out as a friend. We eventually started being friends again , I started liking him again and told me . He was unsure about getting back together. We decided to take things slow. We eventually started going out again and it was the happiest I have ever been in my life I loved him more than anything, we don’t everything together. We knew everything about each other. our parents were from the same small island. Then the last day he told me his feelings changed over the last 2-3 weeks and he tried to carry on as normal and get his feelings back but they just didn’t. I never noticed him differently during this time he was the same as always. I’m so shocked. He told me he’s sad his feelings haven’t come back and that he hopes they do sometime,and that he will reach out if they do. He said he wants no one else and that he just lost feelings. I need advice he was my best fiend we talked for hours everyday and done everything together . We had so many plans and everything.i believe he’s my soulmate
Never met someone so crazy
Cheated on me was absuive crazy blonde girl dated her for two years found out she fucked some guy on a cruise and had a fake Snapchat account texted guys but I’m totally bad when we’re broken up and I like a reall of a girl so she comes to my house and punches me in the face like what the fuck broke up with her and the first thing she does is show me a gun pointed at her head and threatens to kill herseld if I leave her and then proceeds to cut herself like what the fuck all the girls I have ever dated have all cut themselves and brag it like it’s attention like no guys think that’s attractive and they never want to talk abt the problem so left her and I really loved her and I think she did too but she’s literally that girl in obsession
Why
Why the fuck did he have to fuck what we had up, validations from hoes when he had something real. Had the nerve to accuse me of cheating when it was him all along. How cruel everything he wanted he had so why ???
First real heartbreak
After almost a year of dating and up and down, my boyfriend broke up with me by kicking me out of this house at midnight and ghosting me and when I reached out, he basically said he can’t do it anymore no explanation or anything
I was abusive and a terrible partner
I was a terrible partner towards the man I really loved. Over time I became very jealous and also I frightened in fights with breaking up. I also was very hurtful when fighting and said things I never ment or wanted to say. At some point he couldn’t stand it anymore and left. He ignores any contact since the break up 3 weeks ago. I apologised a lot for my behaviour but he wouldn’t reply at all. What I finally learned is that I have to change! I have been in relationships and was often hiding behind the behaviour of my partner because it’s easier than facing the own duck ups. By lesson now is to work on myself to get better and a better partner. Unfortunately to learn that I lost my greatest love.
In love with an emotionally unavailable man for years
Things are over and I am so unbelievably sad. He never wanted me the way I wanted him. So painful. I never want this ever ever again. I am never going to look at another man. I can’t do this ever again.
Feeling a bit lost
Breaking up and ending a marriage. Two kids and man it is messing with my mind
The never dating
We never actually dated we only talked, but it felt so really we fell for each other fast or at least I fell for him. He said he loved me. I said I loved him too the same day he said he needed space then later that night he texted me and said he’s not sure what he wanted and then we kept talking, I should’ve known to stop. Then the very next night I woke up at around 4 AM to see a text from him. it was a long paragraph and I knew I didn’t wanna read it as I started reading it. It said that he didn’t want me and he didn’t want me to wait for him. I couldn’t sleep at all for a week because I never got to date him and I never got to actually know him and I Think that that’s why I still miss him.
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