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The never dating
We never actually dated we only talked, but it felt so really we fell for each other fast or at least I fell for him. He said he loved me. I said I loved him too the same day he said he needed space then later that night he texted me and said he’s not sure what he wanted and then we kept talking, I should’ve known to stop. Then the very next night I woke up at around 4 AM to see a text from him. it was a long paragraph and I knew I didn’t wanna read it as I started reading it. It said that he didn’t want me and he didn’t want me to wait for him. I couldn’t sleep at all for a week because I never got to date him and I never got to actually know him and I Think that that’s why I still miss him.
Abrupt breakup
My ex ended things with me a week ago in a way that felt very out of the blue. We wanted different things for our future. We were together for 2 years almost. I am having such a hard time accepting that he wanted to end it. I loved him so much. I want him to come back and change his mind so badly. I can’t believe this was what he wanted, but I’m choosing to respect it. I don’t know how I’m going to pick the pieces back up from this one 💔
Ex
. I’m a very nice and forgiving person but I know I had made big mistakes. Me and my ex started dating April 2024 . We broke up at 11 months in because I coudnt handle the fact he would watch other girls and jerk off to them. Or look at girls asses infront me. This made me very insecure and made me want to go to the gym made me hate my self I would always be crying begging him to change and i remember one time he even laughed at me. I felt like it was such a bug thing bc we would have yk and he had pictures of me yet he would look at girls with big sss and curves. After that we where on and off bc I didn’t want to be with him if he was going to do that and I would take him bc he said he’d change for me but I would always find stuff. On TikTok, YouTube, TikTok shop, safari. He would get better at hiding stuff and honestly I hated that so much. He even called me flat one day and my boobs arnt big enough. At thag time I took it very very deeply since I already hated my body from what he would do. I remember his cousin would also bring her friends over to his house the whole year we was tg to just be there bc she gets along with his mom. But he just never told me abt this until his sister told me and he had told her not to tell me. I didn’t think much of it until I went through his phone and he texted his cousin that we broke up and she said dw u still got genisis . And he had told her give me her number and tell her I said good night. He then said it was a joke. After all that around June 2025 I had talked to another boy and I felt really guilty so I told him. After that we was never the same. He stopped begging he stopped trying and i understood him. And ever since then we would just see eachother in the low we wasn’t even tg. We would do what we would always do but just not tg. And at some point we stopped seeing eachother for 3 months. And now I want to just stop this.
Break up after 4 years
I am having such a hard time my ex broke up with me I did everything for him after 4 years he says he just deeply cares for me. I can’t get over this pain.
Me and my ex.
I met this guy who ill call ‘A’ I broke up with him this morning because i went through his messages and found out he didn’t want to be in a relationship with me anymore and said that he was losing interest. We met through a friend and Its only been 20 days and i don’t know what i did wrong. Ive stalked his socials, cried all day, and had the urge to text him so much today. someone please help and send tips to get over an ex thanks.
My ex
How can girls have people so far up they asses, I did everything for this girl I was there in the hardest times, when she broke up with me I got back together, when she blocked me for a bit over a week and randomly texted me like nothing ever happened, when I opened up and she got angry. She often got angry at me for the smallest things. I never ever threw my anger on her, was always nice and was like a angel to her, and she has me so far up the ass like I just slaughtered her family, I cannot understand how girls can be like this it's like she never knew me, she is soooo cold. And still after everything I think about her often and miss her, she's to only person I ever opened up to Like that and really talked to, I have a really closed sircle and don't really like meeting new people and talking about feelings, but with her it's different but what she thinks about that, that I don't know. How can girls be like this?? I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy
Please tell me your thoughts
My partner went to Cambridge university for a week, she once said to me that she likes it when she sees all of my texts about my day when she gets home so I thought it would be ok if I did that, she can home a week later after i texted her, she barely text me back, which I understand but as a bf, it feels like I should at least be able to know if she’s ok so I don’t worry right? Anyways, she met a guy, added him in Snapchat, I got a bit funny about it because it the pictures she sent me, they were very close, she told me that he was gay, so I believed her, when she told me at the end of the week, today, she said that she feels suffocated, which I also understand, but he wasn’t gay and she lied to me, I feel lost, I don’t think I can do life if it’s like this, I can’t go on if it’s this shit, my whole purpose for a year and a half was to make her happy but now I have no purpose in life, please tell me your thoughts
I finally got my spark back!✨
I used to write, produce and even play music for a girl that discarded me after 6+ years of being together. I had a ring for her, reservations at the place she dreamed of, and I used to work tons of overtime hours to save up for our future. After I was discarded randomly, I lost my spark, couldn’t eat, couldn’t go to work, and touching the piano pained me more than anything. Nothing reminded of me the years I spent working on music for her that she’d only listen to for mere of a second. But a week ago, I played her theme song one last time, and the only things I could remember of was great things we’ve done together. After then, I started making music about myself, and eventually, I could finally touch the piano without aching. I know this is different compared to the people who actually need advice and help in this app. But I’m telling you, there is always a brighter side. People who’ve been dumped and trashed, ya’ll are stronger than you know. I love you all! Stay safe.
He couldn’t commit to marriage and kids
My partner and I broke up last week. I initiated the conversation with the hope that he would realise he is about to lose me and get his shit together. Instead, he gave up. He let me go. Even though I really didn’t want to go. I have been with him for three years. He was my first boyfriend. I had so much hopes for us. I knew he wasn’t eager about marriage and kids in general but I gave him time and space. We initially broke up a few times in the first year of dating. The last time he wrote me letters promising he has changed and sees a future with me. Two years went by and slowly he changed back to his old self. It hurts so much but I am so disappointed that he gave up. I know I should be grateful that he finally let me go. However, I am still thinking whether it was me. Whether I should have tried harder. Whether I could have done something to change his mind. But he let me go. Damn him.
We are not compatible, but I miss you.
I feel like letting it out here would let go so much of how I am feeling right now. I feel so overwhelmed, I love you so so much. But we were so toxic. We fight everyday, but i don't want to let go even how much we have broken up and said stuff. It feels like we will get back together again, but at the same time I feel empty, hopeless and missing you. It's fresh, i remember you told me never reach out and youd just block me.. it's hurtful, it is something i want to do for you, you seem like you're suffering. At the same time, it would make me very very sad if I see you with another woman, I won't be ready for that any time soon. Which i hope u won't be I don't wanna be evil but it's to keep my self sane. I miss u so much, I don't want u back but it hurts a lot that we aren't together and even how much we tried we wouldn't work out.
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