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Thought he was the love of my life
1 year 2 months down the drain I guess… will time heal? My best friend, he was my everything and the best boyfriend. Loving, caring, consistent, respectful, generous, everything. Until one day I kept bringing up for a few days about the future and how it’s unstable financially and not fair to me… due to family pressure and he said your right it’s not fair to you maybe it’s best for us to not be together and he was crying to me. I didn’t want this… I tried to reassure him for a bit but nothing he didn’t think he could make me happy and that he doesn’t want to loose me but still didn’t choose the relationship. Now I just said I wished him the best. It’s been a week now
Male Best Friend Breakup
From the beginning, me and him became really close through this whole “bestie” thing like genuinely close. We talked a lot, had routines, inside jokes, emotional comfort, checking on each other e.t.c At some point he confessed feelings for me but I told him I wanted staying friends, we still stayed close after and the friendship continued normally. The issue started sometime in April, when he randomly became colder and more withdrawn. At the time when I brought it up, he said it was family-related and eventually the warmth came back, so I moved on from it. Fast forward to now, last week we were literally fine, then suddenly this week the energy changed again. Shorter replies, less warmth, less reciprocity, barely texting me first, not asking much about me anymore, conversations feeling surface-level and emotionally flat compared to before. What hurt me most is not even the texting itself, it’s the inconsistency. It started making me feel emotionally unsafe in the friendship because I never knew what version of him I was getting. So today I finally asked him calmly if everything was okay because I genuinely felt something was off. He said he’s just been really busy lately, reassured me that everything’s okay and apologized. But the conversations still feel flatter/shorter than before. I want to know if anything is up so I can adjust to the new boundaries; someone new. I value our friendship so this hurts
It does get easier
Whatever your worst fears are regarding never being able to heal, please please believe me, chemically your brain is wired to heal
any advice ?
i’ve been with this guy for a year and i thought everything was great even though there were some red flags i was genuinely happy but then this girl reached out to me that he had been liking her pictures secretly and i kept finding out more and more about him lying and i was still talking to him but kept my distance to find out he lied about going to a strip club he’s such a bad person but i felt attached in a way but i seriously need to let go and move on but im really upset where its really starting to affect me even though it seems like he doesn’t even care any advice for moving on ?
His WIFE texted me.
His wife texted me and now I’m in the seven stages of grief all at once. Shock. Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Testing. Acceptance. He told me they were divorced. He rushed intimacy. He was supposed to be getting his new apartment next month. He told her I was his soulmate. But my soulmate wouldn’t have lied to me. I never even said goodbye. I just blocked him. No point in giving him another chance to lie but now I have no closure.
Bf broke up with me over call.
My boyfriend of almost 8 months dumped me three days ago. We met in college, our freshman year, and the day I headed home for summer break he called me and said he didn’t want a relationship anymore. Prior to breaking up he told me he was going to visit for my birthday. He was supposed to be here today. He promised me he would be there. He also acted completely normal prior to the breakup. He has tried ending the relationship before, the last time he texted me over winter break. He didn’t even call me that time, sent a text at 1 in the morning hoping I wouldn’t see it until the morning after. After this most recent breakup we called and talked. He didn’t want a relationship this summer. We were arguing, not any more than a usual relationship imo but enough where he felt it wouldn’t work. He said maybe after the summer, and once school starts we could maybe get back together. I’m heartbroken and miss him so much. Idk what to do. We’re no contact right now, for about a month, before talking about what we want and if we wanna try again. He continued to share his location, didn’t have me blocked, and has pictures of us up on insta still. What’s are the odds we get back together? Yk they say they always come back, I want him back.
I got left
I’ve been with the father of my kid since I was 16 now 19 2022 recently before my kid was born in 2024 he went to jail we were okay but I found out he’s been talking to another girl a day ago I confronted him about it and he basically took her side and gave her his social media accounts the girl told me she will do anything to keep him and be with him she has a kid too now I’m heartbroken just because of the principle of him crossing her and her kid over his own family and feel humiliated by this girl and never want to hear about him ever again then again we have a kid together I don’t know what to do but he’s already blocked
First love
I like this guy. We’ve been dating for a year and a couple of months. I love him so much, but he cheated on me two times. The first time I forgave him. The second time, I was willing to forgive him, but I can’t. He was my first everything, so it’s hard. He picked the other girl over me, and they were talking for a week while we had been dating for a year. I feel like he likes attention. He lied to me a lot, and I just want to move on, but I can’t. I’m really close to his family. I’m best friends with his older sister. He wants to be friends, but how do I tell him I’m not ready? Every time I say I forgive you, just try for me, he says “I don’t know” or “I don’t know what to say.” He says he doesn’t know how to explain his feelings. I understand, and for a year I tried to help him explain, and he was doing good. Now, out of nowhere, he says he doesn’t know how to anymore.
Narcissistic abuse breakup experience
So I’m healing from this long distance narcissistic abuse relationship breakup with a individual from Morocco who manipulated me, love bombed me, tried to use me for visa purposes, threatening me saying that if I intended to leave, he was gonna hurt himself. He was very possessive, and controlling. He always controlled me where I was at, he isolated me from friends and family, his friend even told me to be careful not to trust in him bc he’s a fraud and manipulator trying to use foreign women and has bunch of several women and when I told him this he gaslighted me and said “how can I trust in a stranger and not him and he said “do not believe in anybody else only me do u understand. And saying “ I love you, no one else. Do u understand. I saw all of his narcissistic signs and he was gaslighting me, making me feel trapped and pressured so I said “no we are done, I will never trust in u ever again, this is not love this is emotional abuse and manipulation and that I felt trapped in this relationship and that I was gonna block him everywhere and the only response he said was “okay. I will never trust in him ever again. He is a narcissist. Love is someone who fights for you and fixes everything not manipulation. That is my lesson I learned.
Just broke up and he wants to be friends
I just had a break up today, it wasn’t bad or terrible, but it still hurt. I knew it was coming but I still wasn’t anywhere near prepared. He still wants to be friends and even mentioned that we can do everything that we’ve done together, just without the label. It sounds like he just wants someone to have, but has no commitment to them. These last few weeks, he’s been distant, not talking as much, etc. We’re long distance, so I know we can get busy, but it was different. I think him just wanting to do all the couple stuff without the label is him wanting to just do whatever he wants and I can’t call him out for not answering for hours on end for it because we’re “not dating” anymore.
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