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u can judge lol
i’m really avoidant so it explains the dynamic between me and my ex, adam. We meet in a game called among us 7 months ago and i blocked him on the first day then we found each other again and kept talking after that we met another girl and we became a trio after that we had made many gc in tt or an dc it was fun he was flirting w me only and we both fell in love after that we ended up in a situationship i did severe mistakes as in called another men my obsession and self sabotaged the relationship often with lies or leaving him this lead to him being hurt and i also lied about my whole life and it was severe i lied about having a coma or that i relapse often genuinely lied about ANYTHING either ways i told him and he stayed wtv this went on for 7 months until we finally were in a relationship and that ended up toxic cause i’m avoidant and he’s anxious i tried breaking up but would always go back to adam he was really sweet he is also from egypt so we had a long distance relationship with 12 hours distance we talked every day and whatsoever it went to a point that i even missed school cause we fought and i lost friends over it the lies didn’t stop i still lied about some stuff and he doesn’t know after all we would be on off and this time it was about control again he was basically always making me feel guilty about normal stuff such as talking to makes or clothes shows or books and i was jealous too in that way but not that severe hence i broke up w him and made a fake account which is my ex and basically there’s a lot of drama but it’s genuinely js me lying either ways he told me he is done too and wtv so it’s really done this time and for the first time i’m actually crying cause i used to fill this void which i did this time too but it’s different i deleted apps and i’m mostly crying or grieving and i hate it but i’m glad cause this is a part of moving on he also told me he broke promises and went to lust which breaks me but i wasn’t better he also doesn’t know that but ya that’s the situation i need to get out this depression tho it hurts
In a relationship with an Alcoholic
I dated a woman I loved more than anything in the world. I gave her chance after chance after chance to choose me over the drinking. The drinking was wrecking our relationship. She would come home drunk and peed the bed, and hit her head on things because she couldn’t walk. She would drive drunk all the time. I begged her to get help but she said she couldn’t afford to get help. I got her a therapist and she went twice, but that’s the only help she tried to get. She didn’t think her problem was that bad, but it was. Her friends thought I was controlling for telling her I’d leave if she continues drinking. I told her I wouldn’t be around the drinking and she tried to come over when she was drunk anyways. Being in love with an alcoholic is torture.
How do I move on?
I was in a relationship for 8 months. 4 of them long distance. He made me feel so special and loved for the first 4 until his work picked up and long distance got hard and suddenly me wanting to talk so often was too much. I revolved my world around him. Setting alarms to speak through his day time, planning to put a plug in my career with the intention of moving over to his country. And then he grew more and more distant. I started therapy to work on my anxious attachment he contacted my family 2 weeks ago to reassure them he would work on his avoidance tendencies. Then this time last week I called whilst he was doing chores to talk about a medical appointment of mine and he got mad at me for interrupting him. He ignored me for 2 days and then called whilst I was on the motorway driving and dumped me then proceeded to block me and my family from everything before I even had a chance to process anything. He had a flight booked for Christmas. And now all of it is gone. No contact , no closure , no answers. Just me questioning my self , my worth and what I did so wrong . I cannot get myself out of this black hole. Please help.
I’m a terrible person
We were together for almost 2 years and I am gonna be honest I was a terrible boyfriend I never bought her anything never took her out and I was too lazy to get a job as people would say I got too comfortable in the relationship and I let everything get too far and she just let it rip and it started that we were gonna just take a break and instead we broke up because I couldn’t stop messaging our mutual friend about her and she got very mad and told me if I bother her one more time she will block me and never speak to me again. Our mutual friend still believes I have a chance to get back together with her if I can fix myself and work on the things I need to ( I know I fucked up and I know what I need to work on), I jsut honestly don’t know what to feel anymore like I want the chance to get back together but then again I don’t want any of us to move on because truthly I still love her and I can’t imagine myself with anyone else even if I have to take my entire life to fix everything. If anyone has advice about what I should/could do to not only fix the relationship but better myself not only for her but for anyone else I may meet in my life I would really appreciate it.
I need advice !!!!
We were friends for years. Went out 4 years ago for a few months we were young, and I eventually broke it off, we became friends again for years. Last year he got a girlfriend and I got rlly jealous and told him we eventually got together and I was rlly happy. A few months after my feelings started changing and we got distant, I made the worst mistake of my life and cheated, I will never forgive myself for this,we went on a break and ended up breaking up. When we broke up I wasn’t very sad I was living me life talking to other people going out and having fun.A few months after I started missing him so I reached out as a friend. We eventually started being friends again , I started liking him again and told me . He was unsure about getting back together. We decided to take things slow. We eventually started going out again and it was the happiest I have ever been in my life I loved him more than anything, we don’t everything together. We knew everything about each other. our parents were from the same small island. Then the last day he told me his feelings changed over the last 2-3 weeks and he tried to carry on as normal and get his feelings back but they just didn’t. I never noticed him differently during this time he was the same as always. I’m so shocked. He told me he’s sad his feelings haven’t come back and that he hopes they do sometime,and that he will reach out if they do. He said he wants no one else and that he just lost feelings. I need advice he was my best fiend we talked for hours everyday and done everything together . We had so many plans and everything.i believe he’s my soulmate
Never met someone so crazy
Cheated on me was absuive crazy blonde girl dated her for two years found out she fucked some guy on a cruise and had a fake Snapchat account texted guys but I’m totally bad when we’re broken up and I like a reall of a girl so she comes to my house and punches me in the face like what the fuck broke up with her and the first thing she does is show me a gun pointed at her head and threatens to kill herseld if I leave her and then proceeds to cut herself like what the fuck all the girls I have ever dated have all cut themselves and brag it like it’s attention like no guys think that’s attractive and they never want to talk abt the problem so left her and I really loved her and I think she did too but she’s literally that girl in obsession
Why
Why the fuck did he have to fuck what we had up, validations from hoes when he had something real. Had the nerve to accuse me of cheating when it was him all along. How cruel everything he wanted he had so why ???
First real heartbreak
After almost a year of dating and up and down, my boyfriend broke up with me by kicking me out of this house at midnight and ghosting me and when I reached out, he basically said he can’t do it anymore no explanation or anything
I was abusive and a terrible partner
I was a terrible partner towards the man I really loved. Over time I became very jealous and also I frightened in fights with breaking up. I also was very hurtful when fighting and said things I never ment or wanted to say. At some point he couldn’t stand it anymore and left. He ignores any contact since the break up 3 weeks ago. I apologised a lot for my behaviour but he wouldn’t reply at all. What I finally learned is that I have to change! I have been in relationships and was often hiding behind the behaviour of my partner because it’s easier than facing the own duck ups. By lesson now is to work on myself to get better and a better partner. Unfortunately to learn that I lost my greatest love.
In love with an emotionally unavailable man for years
Things are over and I am so unbelievably sad. He never wanted me the way I wanted him. So painful. I never want this ever ever again. I am never going to look at another man. I can’t do this ever again.
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