Community
Anonymous stories, advice, and support from people who get it.
My boyfriend left me
My boyfriend left me because he’s struggling and feels like he needs to fix his life, and to do that, he wants to be alone. I still love him very much. He left me a week ago, and ever since then, my life has been getting worse and worse. I can’t imagine starting over. I don’t want to meet someone else, and I don’t want to be alone either. I don’t want to accept that my life from now on will be without him. I’m extremely sad and still in denial. Part of me keeps hoping that one day he’ll come back, even though I know that’s probably not going to happen. I don’t know how to move forward. Right now, I don’t believe I’ll be able to get through this.
Will it get better
I broke up with my bf of nearly 6 years 4 days ago. I’ve cried every day since. It was an amicable breakup where neither of us did anything explicitly wrong or bad, it had just come to the point where I was expecting a lot of change and nothing would change really. So it wasn’t a hostile break up and I still love him so much but it wasn’t working. I wake up missing him, I go to bed yearning for his arms around me. When I’m doing things all I can think about is him and how he would react or say. I want to text him telling him about my day but I can’t. It also doesn’t seem quite real, it feels like a bad dream where in a couple of days we’ll be back to how we were, doing our weekly routines, as if nothing happened. A part of me wants that, then I remember why we broke up in the first place and I’m upset again. It’s like I’m in grieving, i’m grieving the love of my life as well as my best friend, all the while he’s still alive and just down the road. I’m scared that in a few years time I’ll look back and have regrets not staying with him. I’m scared that I’ve just lost the greatest and biggest love that I will ever have. I don’t know how I can actually go on like this, surely it gets easier, surely it gets better? Does it? If anyone has or is going through a similar situation to me, please help.
Any advice?
I just finished my freshman year of high school. All I have ever dreamed about is finding love and no boy has ever liked me or even talked to me except for him. I prayed for so long for someone like him and we started darting on September 7, 2025. We talked everyday said good morning and goodnight,face timed every night, and hung out every weekend. He wrote me love letters and got me gifts and remembered my favorite things. I loved him more than anything in the world and he was my everything. We dated for a little over 8 months then things got rocky and we went on a break for a little which crushed me bc I thought we could fix things. And then he stoped being affectionate. No more pet names, or compliments, and he never said I love you or I miss you unless I said it first and he never smiled in the snaps that he sent me, this lasted for about 3 weeks. And I pored my entire heart into him I smiled when he didn’t, I complemented him when he didn’t say thank you, I prayed about him, I gave him space, I tried to comfort and communicate with him. I constantly thought about how I could be better for him and fun little things we could do together. I loved him with everything in me and I always tried to understand where he was coming from. Then on May 28 2026 he said he wanted to break up over text and that he just didn’t love me anymore and didn’t feel the spark anymore. He said his friends have noticed he was different the last 3 weeks and that he couldn’t keep feeling like that. And so he broke up with me. He was my first love and I was so attached. Any advice?
Breakup
My boyfriend and I broke up recently. It wasn’t a mutual conversation or a huge explosive fight. He packed his things and left, and I think that’s part of why it’s been hard for me to process. We had been struggling for a while with communication, emotional distance, and intimacy issues. I felt like we were becoming more disconnected over time, and a lot of things between us started feeling unresolved. There was love there, but also a lot of tension, misunderstanding, and emotional exhaustion on both sides. I think I kept trying to hold onto the relationship even while feeling lonely inside of it. Looking back now, I can see that we were probably both unhappy in different ways, even if neither of us fully knew how to fix it. The breakup feels especially heavy because it wasn’t just losing a person it was losing routines, future plans, emotional familiarity, and the version of life I thought I was building with someone. Still trying to process everything honestly.
Breaking Up When You Live Together
My two year relationship has just ended, tonight, and we live together. He is not physically abusive, but he lives “loudly” and makes me uncomfortable on purpose. He knows that I will make myself silent and small, and isolate myself if I feel uncomfortable, so he makes sure that’s how I feel by stomping around, slamming doors, singing and whistling loudly to himself. Talking out loud, laughing extra loud. Generally making himself known - and making a lot of mess everywhere he goes, so that the communal areas become unusable for me. How do I cope with having to live with him, and amicably separate our things to pack, while I organise moving out? I feel so uncomfortable and anxious being at home and around the behaviour, that I can’t think clearly to make the bigger decisions. It is a volatile environment- even though I don’t fear that he will physically hurt me. Any help would be much appreciated
Year after breakup and I am far better as a college student
I still think about him at times though. But that dude ghosted me never reached out again after breaking up with me over call and he said hurtful things and not one good thing, I loved him at the time. But I was broken over it for 8 months before it started getting better. But I realize now he is just a boy figuring himself out. Most guys at this age are immature and don’t know how to be a good partner. And I was able to rebuild a sense of worth in the Lord. Praying through it helped a lot. And when I didn’t feel like journaling I would type it on my phone notes instead what I felt like texting so I wouldn’t actually send it. And I look back and am so glad I didn’t send those messages. Other things I realized is that I thought about it voluntarily more than I should have. I mean even in times when I felt numb and like I could forget. I would always look back. But that has faded now and the less I look and see what he’s up to the more at peace I feel with myself. So I kept my self in heartbreak at times by rumination and comparison. So my advise would be to challenge yourself after the break up. Yes it’s going to hurt terribly at times or maybe everyday. And it’s okay to remember things at times. But try not to ruminate it. And here are some things that would’ve helped me in the times of heartbreak. 1. Go to a trusted person to talk about it everytime. 2. Journal whenever an urge comes. 3. Delete all social media for at least the first 5 months. Refuse to look at any of his things. Yes insta, YouTube, all social media. Take this time to focus on your own thoughts and search of your worth and making sense of it all. I used to go to YouTube and all these other places and watch breakup videos. They got me no where but being hopeful. (Even chat gpt). Gave temporary relief but in the long run it took me longer to get my own thoughts about what actually happened and what I think because of me waiting in the hopes or hurt of what video I would get about it. But the truth is everyone’s situation is different. Yes people do have different attachment styles but too often it is used as a label to excuse them and stay stuck. What matters is what YOU do after the breakup and how you choose to think about it. Not what HE is doing or thinking. The person who dumped you has no say in how you think about it and what you do for your own growth and to move on. 4. Remove his number/contact all together from everything and everyone. So there’s no choice to text him. If he actually wanted me he would text me himself. 5. Build your self worth up and do not look back! Especially when you finally feel times of neutrality. Celebrate the times you feel neutral! And you should be proud of the little things. You are going to be far stronger because of the breakup but the hurt comes first even if it’s many months of it. What hobbies do you enjoy or bring peace? What is something you’ve always wanted to try? It doesn’t have to be anything big. It can be as simple as doing the laundry, making a new friend, or getting through the day. 6. If you remember the good times and feel you can’t stop it… you can’t forget the things you didn’t like about the person or how you originally thought about the person before you dated him. Write down all the things you didn’t like about them. And remind yourself when you feel like your just remembering the good things. 7. Stop comparing yourself. You have your own race to run and it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s because it is unique to you. And that should be celebrated. 8. Praying helped me a lot. Just telling God how I feel. And praying everytime his name popped in my head. And remembering that God knows what is best for me and he has something better in store for me if it wasn’t this guy. I also found that months later I started building new relationships and being around those people helped me to forget him when I was with them. So just surrounding yourself with positive people who believe in you and love you is helpful. The people you surround yourself with matters so much. One thing you will not regret is taking care of yourself and being gentle with yourself throughout the breakup. Like making sure you still eat and get up. Not neglecting yourself to the couch or bed. And encouraging youself. Anyways, BELIEVE in yourself. You can get through this. You will be stronger from this. I believe you can do it. And know that you are very loved and there is always someone who is impacted by you. Anyone feel free to comment if they have any other thoughts.
It does get easier
Whatever your worst fears are regarding never being able to heal, please please believe me, chemically your brain is wired to heal
any advice ?
i’ve been with this guy for a year and i thought everything was great even though there were some red flags i was genuinely happy but then this girl reached out to me that he had been liking her pictures secretly and i kept finding out more and more about him lying and i was still talking to him but kept my distance to find out he lied about going to a strip club he’s such a bad person but i felt attached in a way but i seriously need to let go and move on but im really upset where its really starting to affect me even though it seems like he doesn’t even care any advice for moving on ?
His WIFE texted me.
His wife texted me and now I’m in the seven stages of grief all at once. Shock. Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Testing. Acceptance. He told me they were divorced. He rushed intimacy. He was supposed to be getting his new apartment next month. He told her I was his soulmate. But my soulmate wouldn’t have lied to me. I never even said goodbye. I just blocked him. No point in giving him another chance to lie but now I have no closure.
Bf broke up with me over call.
My boyfriend of almost 8 months dumped me three days ago. We met in college, our freshman year, and the day I headed home for summer break he called me and said he didn’t want a relationship anymore. Prior to breaking up he told me he was going to visit for my birthday. He was supposed to be here today. He promised me he would be there. He also acted completely normal prior to the breakup. He has tried ending the relationship before, the last time he texted me over winter break. He didn’t even call me that time, sent a text at 1 in the morning hoping I wouldn’t see it until the morning after. After this most recent breakup we called and talked. He didn’t want a relationship this summer. We were arguing, not any more than a usual relationship imo but enough where he felt it wouldn’t work. He said maybe after the summer, and once school starts we could maybe get back together. I’m heartbroken and miss him so much. Idk what to do. We’re no contact right now, for about a month, before talking about what we want and if we wanna try again. He continued to share his location, didn’t have me blocked, and has pictures of us up on insta still. What’s are the odds we get back together? Yk they say they always come back, I want him back.
Want to share your story?
Post anonymously from the app. Your words might be exactly what someone else needs to hear.
Get Breakup Buddy