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hey everyone, i'm going through a really tough breakup and could use some outside perspective. my ex and i were in a situationship, and almost a month ago he told me he didn't love me anymore and left me for someone else. he blocked me on everything right after. i've been doing no contact since then, but he's been the one breaking it. he's texted me a few times late at night (like 3am), asking about my dog and sending stickers, even though he's the one who said he never wanted to talk to me again. now i have an unread message sitting in my archived chats. i searched through every contact i have in my archives and nothing else came up, so it's almost certainly him. i've been too scared to open it for days. does it seem like he still has feelings, or do you think it's really him sitting in my archives trying to reach out again?
He broke no contact
After 15 days of no contact. He sent me a message with a random sticker at 3am… what does it mean? 15 days ago he said to me that he would not have spoken to me anymore and that he’s done with me and he said “i said that i don’t want to talk with you when you said that we can’t be friends, but i wanted to check if you’re alive”
alone
i have this feeling that my life is not complete without them i fee really alone. dis anyone got some advice for me? he was my first boyfriend and we were together for 1 year. he broke up with me because he wanted to be “alone” again and needed space. He did tell me we could maybe be together later but idk.
Venting
She was my first girlfriend, first one I felt comfortable with to explore and even show the world too. I don’t think she realized the risk I took alone with just letting her inside with my vulnerability in that area . Simply just being hurt before coming out of a toxic relationship previously. I thought I healed from , however I learned she helped trigger alot of those old wounds as well as I allowed her too and myself . I can’t believe how foolish I was for love from her and the things I allowed . Things Ik others wouldn’t even had room to do. Some how I kept trying and searching because if I seen the good in her . In what we had 2 days no contact and I doubt we ever talk again and I’m learning to be okay with that . I refused too let another person hurt me again .
do i move on and heal, or heal and hope that he will return
my boyfriend has been struggling with depression for a few months now. he’s been in inpatient hospitals twice already and he just recently got out of the last one. when he came back, he was acting different. once we finally called to talk about it, he told me that this was the last time i would be able to talk to him until i don’t know when. he told me that he’s getting his phone taken so that he can start healing and taking time for himself, and that he’ll possibly go to a residential hospital for maybe a few months where i won’t be able to talk to him. the last time we talked he told me how much he loved me and said that he’ll never forget me, and to not forget him, along with a few voice notes for me to listen to. so i don’t know if i should just leave him in this year and move on, or heal during this time and have faith that he’ll come back to me. the only thing upsetting me is that he won’t come back like he said he would and will just leave me when he gets back.
5 months down the drain :/
We didn’t even date… He pursed me FIRST. I guess this is the classic tale of our generation with dating. I feel pathetic. He told me that he likes me, but he didn’t know if he could ever love me. We spent 5 months building a foundation and led me to think that we were going to date eventually. There was no build up as to how he magically woke up one day and decided to end things. It’s only been 4 days but it still feels heavy. I’ve gotten my heart broken so many times in the past and I really thought this was going to be different. I told him this is what I was scared of, and he still managed to string me along. I’m just not sure how to stop expecting a message from him. I blocked him on everything once he ended things with me, out of respect for myself, but he still has my phone number accessible, and I just don’t know if it’s silly to expect him to reach out. Mind you, we had built a routine of talking everyday, hanging out every week, falling asleep every night on the phone together. And in just 4 days my nervous system has just been all over the place. :( I just feel numb and don’t know what to do.
Lost soul
I don’t know what to do anymore because i’m so lost. I miss him and i just can’t do it anymore. I can’t reach out because i blocked him and every one says to be done but no one knows how hard it is to be done with someone u planned on being with for a while. He made me happy. I loved him and i love when i was with him but i’m lost now and i don’t want to date anymore because i’m always the one who gets hurt all the time because i give people chance after chance to change and they never do. I hate this feeling i’ve been having missing him and wanting to talk to him sucks. i don’t want him again but i do miss him and it’s embarrassing to even say that. every one of my friends says he treated u like shit but it wasn’t all him it was me too. we both did. I don’t know what to do anymore i’m losing myself again and i just don’t want to be around anyone anymore. It’s definitely not easy moving on at all. I thought we were finally in a good space and doing good. then we started fighting and then it just went downhill from there. i want to cry every day. but i don’t because i’m strong and i know crying is good but i just don’t know anymore. it’s so embarrassing twllinf ur friends u miss someone who doesn’t even care about you. he made me feel like i was doing something wrong all the time. idk
Trying to find myself while dealing with a break up.
i and my ex were on and off for a long time. I feel hurt and i’m sad that we couldn’t work it out together because i really do love him and i really do miss him and i don’t think he will ever come back because i feel like i just messed it all up. it’s really hard trying to choose yourself after a break up when all i want to do is text him and at least try to talk. I don’t know now i have to start over with someone new. I’m not ready for a relationship and i don’t know when i will be ready for one. I’m so lost and depressed right now. i have no energy for anything anymore. i don’t think anyone understands how i feel. I want to text him every day but i can’t because i kmow i deserve better then that but it’s hard.
he broke no contact
Me and my ex were together for two years. he texted me saying he misses being able to talk to me and asked to come over, i said no unless we like act like a talking stage and try to rebuild our relationship he agreed but i said he has to unfollow this girl who i was uncomfortable with and he said no because they are friends, and i said i don’t really want to try again if you only want to see me once a week (that’s why we broke up) and he said he only wants to see me once a week and he won’t make changes that aren’t suitable for him . so i cut him off and now i feel sad and like all my progress was destroyed
2 years wasted
we were together for two years, a week ago he broke up with me because he wanted to see his friends more than me and that made me upset. ever since we broke up he’s been out every single night til 3am with his bad friends and now he’s been talking to a new girl who i didn’t like and got upset at him ages ago because he followed her on tiktok. It’s been a day no contact. my heart feels like it’s dying because i feel so angry and jealous of that new girl but i miss the old him so much. i haven’t aten for a week, i haven’t showered for a week or cleaned my room i feel like a mess
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