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My first love.
So basically me and him were on and off from october all the way til june our last and final time being together was from may 21 to june 21 and i put all my heart and soul and tears into that relationship i tried so hard to get him to be good to me because it was clear he loved me but he wasn’t in love with me like i was in love with him in the end we both agreed we just needed to stop getting back together and we don’t have that same spark. but i always always ALWAYS felt a spark with him i loved him so much he was my first love and i can’t get over him i never have when we broke up the first second third fourth fifth and finally the sixth time every single time i still knew i loved him. but he didn’t love me. we haven’t talked in 15 days but we have school on august 8th and im scared ill see him and instantly just like fall back in love the type of love you get butterflies when you talk to them and knees get weak and you get that look. i don’t think ill ever be fully over him.
Unusual break up
My ex ended our relationship after she abruptly hung up on me to answer another call. When I asked who it was she went silent and said her mom and got off the phone. She then called back and said I had no right to ask who was calling her and ended things. I have no idea what this means and I can’t get over the thought she’s not being truthful.. Today she blocked me from everything after asking me not to co tact her again. She says me trying to reconcile is too clingy and she doesn’t want anything with me. Yet more confusion..
Married for 20 years to a toxic man
I been married for 20 Years to a man who said he loved me. For 20 Years I been with him through his alcohol and abusive behaviors and dealt with so much . In one of my efforts to get him to get help . He thinks is a better and on a high horse saying that I am the problem. He is healing and he is better off without me . What hurts is that he destroyed every sense of self I had and now that he “feels better” he won’t help me or support me the way I did him. He wants a divorce and I was not ready for that. Living alone now . He moved out our home .
Day 1
It’s day 1 no contact after a 2.5 year relationship with a narcissist. I realized how much emotionally abused I was in this, but I never had the courage to walk away. He left me yesterday shockingly. I blocked him on all platforms. But my heart is broken into pieces. I can feel it burning and hurting. I don’t know how to navigate a breakup after an abusive relationship. I need so much help.
Ahhhhh
I broke up with my ex and went straight into a rebound 😅 I feel like I have no respect for myself and I don’t know what to do !
what do i do (narc abuse)?
it’s been a few weeks since we last talked but we have been together on and off for a year now. this last breakup he blocked me on everything possible and i don’t think there is any way to reach him again, he made it clear that we were over. my problem is, i don’t feel like myself without him. it’s like all meaning in life is gone anytime i have free time to sit with myself and think. i am generally unhappy in moments that used to make me so happy. i can’t get him out of my head, but i know i need to because i think he was a narcissist? sometimes i feel like i am the narcissist? i know i have been abused, but i don’t seem to care and i can’t seem to find happiness and peace without him…. he always turns the breakup on me and i think he is right sometimes, but other times i am confused about who is in the wrong… is this normal for narc abuse?
Day 1
I dated someone for 4 years. I was deeply in love and invested. They asked to go on a break june 21st however i already know they dont want to be with me. I have broken no contact many times and regret it every time. Im hoping this app helps. I need help…
day 5 – i made it worse today, but i’m still here.
today hurt. not because something new happened. but because i went back. i listened to his voice again. i read our old chats. i let myself fall back into that world where i believed everything was fine. i don’t even know why i did it. maybe because i hoped it would make me feel closer to something real again. or maybe because i still want answers. but all it did was reopen the wound. i realized today that when i’m outside, busy, around people – he fades a little. but the moment i’m home, alone with my thoughts, he comes back. in memories. in imagined conversations. in dreams about things that never happened. and it’s hard because what we had didn’t end with a bang – it just vanished. one minute there was something between us, and the next… silence. but there was no warning, no shift, no “this doesn’t feel right” moment. just quiet. and now all that’s left are my questions echoing into nothing. and i know deep down: i don’t even want to talk to him to heal. i want to talk to him to feel again. to get some sort of reaction. to matter. but that’s not healing. that’s chasing. and i don’t want to chase someone who runs. so today i hurt. but i’m still here. and tomorrow is a new chance to choose better.
Introvert with few friends - loneliness sucks
I think part of my pain is that I don’t have a circle of friends or even very supportive family. It’s basically just me and my kids against the world. I’m a bit estranged from my parents and I have little contact with my siblings who all live far. I had friends before but they all moved away, went on their own journeys and it’s honestly lonely. Making friends in your 40s is a bit challenging imo due to work and kids (plus I’m in school 🙃) so it’s limited the amount of free time I have. Just wanted to throw that out there and see if anyone can relate!
Heart sank
Struggling to stay afloat. My ex and I share a circle. We had a secret romance. He moved on. Is currently dating someone. I’m trying to stay positive and mind my own business. But information about them just finds itself to me. They’ll be going on a trip this weekend. Like why do I need to know that? I didn’t even ask for that. The universe just has it out for me. I’d do anything to wake up one day and not give a fuck about what he’s doing. I feel so lost.
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