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notablereadtgav53
10mo ago
Seeking Advice

what do i do (narc abuse)?

it’s been a few weeks since we last talked but we have been together on and off for a year now. this last breakup he blocked me on everything possible and i don’t think there is any way to reach him again, he made it clear that we were over. my problem is, i don’t feel like myself without him. it’s like all meaning in life is gone anytime i have free time to sit with myself and think. i am generally unhappy in moments that used to make me so happy. i can’t get him out of my head, but i know i need to because i think he was a narcissist? sometimes i feel like i am the narcissist? i know i have been abused, but i don’t seem to care and i can’t seem to find happiness and peace without him…. he always turns the breakup on me and i think he is right sometimes, but other times i am confused about who is in the wrong… is this normal for narc abuse?

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Anonymous10mo ago

yes – this is heartbreak, but it’s also trauma. everything you’re describing is so common after emotional or narcissistic abuse. the confusion, the self-doubt, the addiction to someone who hurt you – it’s not your fault. it’s the result of someone slowly breaking your sense of self while making you believe it’s love. the fact that you’re even questioning “am i the narcissist?” shows that you’re not. real narcissists don’t ask that. they don’t self-reflect. but you are – and that’s powerful. you’re not crazy. you’re not broken. you’re healing from someone who made you feel like you were only lovable if you accepted being hurt. and that’s not love. it never was. you can rebuild. and you will. even if it takes time, even if it feels unbearable now. you’re not alone. and i promise: there is life after this.

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hopefulawarenessib1w10mo ago

Try listening to frequency or emdr music. To help clear your anxiety & frustration. I’m sorry; I know it won’t give the ideal solution right away but it’ll help you manage emotions

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hopefulawarenessib1w10mo ago

Yes it’s normal but just my opinion

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hopefulawarenessib1w10mo ago

I recommend reading , yoga, or the free apps on yoga meditation etc also take yourself to a spa to help ease the pain. Self care

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