I think I should’ve left right at the start…

alright, from experience— “break his heart” before he breaks yours, you’re hurting yourself by staying with this man, and really think; what are you getting out of this relationship? there are many many men out there who would die for a chance with you, who will treat you with love and will never ever make you second guess if rheir intentions are pure. breaking up with someone is hard, especially when you think they’re capable of changing; let me break you here , they don’t. things will get worse if you enable it, leave him. work on yourself and show him what he could’ve had if he picked up his game. i don’t know you or your relationship but i know that your body physically will reject something that isn’t meant for you, crying all the time, over thinking? don’t pass that off as anxiety. trust your gut and make the decision, even if it short term hurts you and him. sending love and i hope you get through this!

You are on here for a reason. What is it? And what’s holding you back?

Before doing anything, you need to slowly just start giving yourself permission to think of a life without him. I broke up with a guy I love two days back because I was crying and hurting all the time - there was no sharing of emotional labour and understanding and efforts - even after starting couples therapy. I left, I’m devastated, but I’m also so relieved.