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Breakup
My ex and I were together for 8 years and the reasoning for breaking up was partially my fault (we broke up 2/9/2025) . He would constantly rub stuff in my face and make me feel terrible, all to find out he was hiding and lying about a “secret” that I would constantly ask him about and he’d call me crazy for asking and deny the thing that was brought up. Although I felt extremely betrayed, hurt, and humiliated, I was very accepting and grateful that he finally admitted to it after all those years and blocking me for 5 months with very little contact. I was so happy because I felt it was a step closer to us getting back together and working things out. Fast forward to that night he admitted, I find out that the day after he left me and moved out of state to his brothers, he had sex with a girl from Tinder and has been texting 30+ women from Tinder since. I never knew he was that kind of person. I felt and still feel like my world was shattered. He became the person that he used to make fun of… The crazy thing is is that I was willingly to forgive him even after him telling me terrible things and terrible names. So fast forward to maybe 3 weeks since I found that out. I went to church with a friend and the church posted us on their insta with his hand on my knee while praying. My ex saw that, called me, and told me that I’ll never get him back, I’ll never be a good gf/wife, and that he’ll treat his next gf soooo much better than he ever treated me… So that made me feel terrible because I stuck with him through all of his bad “stuff”, yet I won’t be able to experience the good? And another thing is he can have sex with other people and go on tinder but me going to church with somebody is where he draws the line. I don’t really get that? I’m still extremely hurt because it doesn’t make sense to me how he could do all of that and say all those mean things to me. Regardless of all the pain and betrayal, I still love him with all of my heart…
Summer break up
Me and my bf at the time got into a lot of arguments about things especially went we went to parties. He would always leave me wondering if I can trust him but that was jsut me overthinking scenarios. We both ruined the relationship from his lack of effort and communication and my anxious attachment. When he broke up with me he told me he’ll work on himself and will grow into our own selfs and then when college starts we could get back together when we’re ready. And we’ve been chatting a lot he still says he loves me but then distance himself too. I’m not sure if I should wait and trust him or move on…
Unexpected text from ex
My ex of 7 years blindsided me into a break up almost 8 months and last we spoke was 6 months ago. The relationship wasn’t bad but we were both going through career growth and had to move to different places 2 months before the break up. Which we did at one point in the past and we made it work. We didn’t have crazy fights and he never told me anything was bothering him until he broke up with me citing the workload in our life and the distance which is fair. The problem is that after all that while I was still trying to make sense to things he blocked me then and like 3 months after unfollowed me on instagram. We used WhatsApp occasionally while we were together. I realized when I was going over my documents in my computer that he had some documents with my information from one time I had to borrowed his laptop to submit some things that had a deadline for applications I was partaking in at that time. I message him on WhatsApp since i wasn’t sure if I was still blocked and wanted to see if the message got delivered. It was a straight forward text. Just asking him to delete them and said thanks. I made sure the text had no open questions because I did not want to give the idea that I wanted to talk to him or that I was trying to connect with him. Because honestly I didn’t want to reconnect in any way. He didn’t replied that message for like 2-3 weeks which was expected. But then he randomly message a “how are you”. Didn’t even mentioned the documents. I haven’t replied and I don’t plan to. I am just surprised because it was unexpected. I assume things are not going as well as he expec.
breakup
me and my boyfriend of two years just broke up two days ago. we’ve been going through a rough spot but i love that man so much and i really had hope we were going to work it out. on our anniversary, we talked and i told him i wanted to fight for us and try to make it work but he said he just couldn’t and he can’t be what i need, especially when he goes to college. it just sucks. i didn’t want this. i don’t want this. i cant sleep, i have no appetite, my heart feels numb. it sucks. i just dont know how to get through this guys.
Feeling guilty
My ex and I dated for a year and two months. I’m a 21 year old female and he’s a 23 year old male. 3 months in he calls me his exs name whom he dated for 2.5 years. He apologized and I stayed, then a few days later I find women lotion and perfume in his room he proceeds to tell me they are his then I tell him I have the same ones it’s for women don’t lie please be honest. He says yes sorry they’re my ex I forgot to throw them away. This caused so much doubt in our relationship it messed everything up I felt that he was never over her. Then he gets invited to a wedding and he’s a groomsmen. He says he’s going on a guys trip with the grooms men and fails to tell me that the bridesmaids are staying in the same Airbnb. I felt so worried lost and insecure because that sounds really bad like he’s doing something sneaky. I argue with him through messages mind you we are still dating come to find out he tells me recently that we weren’t together during that time bc I wasn’t answering his messages. Events like this continued throughout the year I became verbally abusive towards him. I threatened to cheat on him because I was so over it. I didn’t mean it but eventually June 28 I had the chance and I cheated on him with a girl. Part of me felt like he deserved it and part of me regretted it. I told him that same morning and that’s where everything fell apart. He said he wasn’t sure if we could fix things and then he eventually reached out to his ex the one I was always worried about in the middle of us trying to fix things. I can’t help to think that I deserve it but I also think it’s very unfair after everything he put me through.
me and him
we were an perfect couple, but I started arguing so much about him not finding his time for me. He was working abroad and wanted to come back to our country, but in 2 days he made an decision to not coming back. He called me and said that he doesn’t see long distance relationship for next one or two years, he even texted my mom saying I should have someone who can give me 100% of their time, and he loves me so much, and I need to chase my dreams. I know its so damn difficult for us two, because it ended all of a sudden and im the first girl ever to met his family, he cried around me etc. We have a chance to talk in few weeks (what he said we can) Do you think we can come back together?
How can someone be so cruel and have no empathy?
My partner of 3 years cheated on me, after telling me time and time again “I am not like those other guys”, “I would never do that to you”, and “I’m too old for that shit, I want to start a family” (the girl he cheated with is younger than me!!) - he knew that both my previous relationships had ended the same way, with me being cheated on and knew how much it affected my mental health and self confidence, trust issues etc. I am genuinely stumped as to how he has sat there, hid things and lied to me for the past couple of months? I could never put someone through that.
Advice
What helps to get over an ex?
New break up
Been with him for 7 years. He recently started a new job and everything changed. We’ve always had minor problems but nothing to the point that we were unhappy. Now all of a sudden, he says “some days I want to be in a relationship and some days I don’t” and he been saying that “he wants to see how it’s feels to be alone and maybe he’s missing out on things that he feels he never experienced. It’s hurts the most because he wanted this relationship. We were friends before this and I know after everything, I lost a friend and a boyfriend.. please send words of encouragement. I definitely need it
Lost best friend
I’ve lost my best friend and as a single parent it’s hard to find friendships that can offer the emotional support I need right now. I have casual friends I’d get a drink with, but not a friend I can call upset about the breakup. I don’t want to burden my casual friends with trauma dumping and I’m scared to lose the few connections I still have. I want to remain single and try to find/build those friendships but it’s so hard.
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