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First love first break up at 20.
He broke up with me a month ago. Said he lift feelings after a year and four months. Logically I get it, people are allowed to want what they want and he did want me. But from an emotional standpoint point, I’m broken. My first bf at 19 had a year of good memories. But I blame myself. He broke up with me the first time In January 2025 saying he didn’t love me anymore, and he wants to love me forever he just didn’t know if he could. We got back together the same day. Why didn’t I take that for face value? Now six months later..here we are. I knew this was coming, he ignored seven of my FaceTimes, dodged me through text pushing off what he and I knew what was gonna happen. And the day before removed me off Xbox. Some words he said drying the breakup haunts me. Right now I’m just trying to survive, but I cry so much more now. I miss him, and I jsut know he’s probably sleeping like a baby. There so much more I can say but I have work tomorrow, I’ve been crying all day and I’m just mentally and emotionally exhausted.
Struggling
He left bcos his mental health is overpowering his thoughts and he feels as though he can’t be there for me right now when he can’t even be there for himself. I said I’d wait for him and he said it wouldn’t be fair on me but he never said no. His love for me was so genuine and real and I know he’s scared due to his abusive previous relationship. I’m really struggling and I need advice
Why not me
He left because he figured out he’s gay, we talked about kids, he proposed, he was my first time, my first love. he wants to be my best friend and cant stand seeing me talk to more guys, he has a new bf, why cant it just be me.
Blocked My Ex on Social Media
It’s been a little over three months since my breakup with my ex but I was finally able to block him on my last bit of social media. I’m actually really proud of myself because this was very hard for me to do but I knew that by still following him and allowing him to have access to me, it was as if I was okay with the way he disrespected me and treated me so poorly and that he was allowed to do that again. Well, no more. I’m letting go of the past and finally moving forward. I’m giving myself the respect I deserve.
No contact
I feel so isolated. My grandmother who raised me is in the hospital and I’m trying so hard not to reach out to my ex, but Journaling and talking to an AI doesn’t provide the feeling of love that sustains a human . 😥. I’m k just so depressed.
Stop fantasizing
The more i fantasize and romaticize that what we had was special, the more i waste my time. It wasn’t! In reality, you never cared! We did not have anything! You are just ordinary and nothing special!
help
I’m 18 and just got out of a two-year relationship with someone I truly thought I’d marry. He broke up with me right before we both left for university — different cities, different lives. He said he loved me, but not the way I loved him. That it didn’t feel like a rollercoaster - a feeling he wanted and that my love was warm and gentle, but he wanted that rollercoaster feeling. The hardest part is knowing he felt like this for months and still stayed. I don’t know if I was led on, or if he just didn’t know how to leave. He said it was also because of his own commitment and attachment issues, and that he wished it was me. I don’t know how to move forward. I keep reading into things — his music taste, his social media, everything. I’ve changed so much in this relationship. I miss him. But I’m scared I wasn’t enough. That maybe I’ll never be enough for anyone. Was I led on? How do I stop hoping he’ll come back? And how do I move on without trying to become someone else entirely?
Totally agree
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Is he leaving me???
My husband kicked me out of the house over two weeks ago. He changed the locks and told me he needed space. He said he was afraid because he was getting old and some of my adult kids don’t like him. He said one day when he’s at his weakest, they will put a pillow over his face and rob him. Even though they never come to his house. He’s worried I would let them in which I’ve never given him a reason to believe I would do so. They all live 2 hours away. He says he loves me very much but that our relationship has changed. Do you guys think this means he’s leaving me? I’ve been very hurt and crying!! He doesn’t call me or text me except sparingly. I’ve been evicted from my home. I bought him the house and it is 100% in his name.
Breakeup
I was building dreams with him and suddenly everything changed. He left me and let me down and now I am broken and very hurt. I cannot stop thinking about him. I cannot imagine myself without him. He loved me madly and could not stop talking to me. Suddenly everything changed. He disappears for hours and gives more than one excuse. My feeling tells me that he is lying. Sometimes he’s active and I send him messages and does not answer me until after a while Please, someone help me. I am very hurt. Someone help me. How do I get over this person? Frankly speaking, the reason for the breakup was that I posted pictures of his cousin on a fake account and impersonated her. I didn't intend to cause problems.
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