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I’ve been taking care of my dad for 14 years. He ended up like a baby, unable to communicate and not even aware that we are his children. Because of that, it was difficult for me to find a partner—I felt like I couldn’t divide myself between work, love, and taking care of my father. Three years ago, I met a girl, we became a couple, and we ended up living in my dad’s house so we could support each other. In February, my dad was diagnosed with cancer in his lymph nodes, but he recovered. Now he has stomach cancer and was given two months to live. My girlfriend decided to leave me, saying she didn’t want this anymore, that she felt overwhelmed, and that she needed to learn how to love herself. I accepted it, but days later I found out she was involved with another guy—someone who already has a girlfriend, too. Yesterday, she gave me hope that maybe we could try again, especially since she’s moving just a few blocks from my house. I’m deeply hurt because I gave her everything—she never lacked anything—and this is how she repays me. On top of that, I have to stay strong for my dad, but I feel like I can’t. I feel like she broke my heart, and I don’t know how to overcome it. I’ve even gone to therapy, but I don’t feel like it has helped.
Idk
So 7 years, down the drain on August 24th. I’ve been busy with family since that day. Tomorrow I have to go house sit another family members house for a week. In which I will be all alone. I honestly don’t think it’s hit me fully yet. Should I keep busy ? Should I sit it what I’m feeling ? Idk what to do .. I think my head is just so confused.
New here
Ai said something to me that sent a lightbulb off in my head. It told me that i am grieving the relationship of what could have been instead of my reality. That blew me away because it is absolutely right and I don’t know why I didn’t think of that in the first place. This app is great
To My First Love… (a poem)
I hate that you made me love you. I hate that you said you loved me too. I hate that I believed it— That silly little lie. Well… now it’s over. And I can’t seem to forget. Forget your kisses, And arms that made me feel safe. Safe… until you started to let go. You always denied it. Always said it wasn’t true. But then why did you sleep peacefully While I was crying so much that it hurt? Pain. That seemed to be a constant theme. I cared more about you than I cared about myself. And it drained me— every single day. Staying up all night just to make sure you got home safe. But you couldn’t stay awake long enough to say goodnight. Calling you because I missed your voice. Just for you to hang up without a word. Counting down the minutes until it was finally your birthday. Well I guess you forgot the day starts at twelve, because it took you until one to remember mine. Spending hours picking out the perfect gift. I’m still waiting for mine… Posting you for everyone to see. Well I don’t think you liked that very much. You told me to take it down. Calling other girls fine and baddies. Then calling me crazy when I spoke up. But of course you were just joking. It was just your humor. But you know what else is funny? The fact that after everything you put me through… You still claimed that you cared. Baby… you don’t know what caring is. And now I’m over here looking stupid. Because I wanted to believe every lie you told me. Every lie that made me feel like I meant something to you. I didn’t. Because now, One week after going our separate ways, You found another girl. Maybe one. Maybe two. Maybe three. But you seem to be doing pretty well. You seem to be getting all of that female affirmation, That you so desperately needed while we were together. So congratulations. You broke the one girl that loved you more than anything. And now… you get to break another. I wish I could say I’m over you. Just like I know you’re over me. But I’m not. Everything reminds me of you. And I can’t help but wonder if you ever miss me. Miss the way we laughed. The way we held each other like nothing else mattered. The way we understood each other. Unfortunately… I understood you too well. I understood that you’d never love me as much as I love you. Your pride, your ego— They’ll get in the way Of ever finding a healthy relationship. So unless you’re finally ready to grow up and commit… I have to let you go. Because if I don’t, I will never find that healthy love that I had to leave you for. Not because I don’t love you. I do. I really do. And I always will. But I deserve to be loved too. I deserve to get all of those things that I gave you. I gave you so much, and I don’t think you realize that yet. One day you will. But by then, I’ll already be gone. And you’ll sit with the thought that you might never find someone like me ever again. And honestly… you might not. But that won’t be my problem anymore. I hate that you made me love you. I hate that I still do. And I hate that I could never hate you. Not even a little bit. Not even at all. But even if I never hate you, I will find a way to love me too.
Break up or well idk
Hey there so uhhh I broke up with him because of reasons like he got jealous I had a guy friend he thought something was between us like if we were together and one day a guy pretended to be a girl in text and told him “I like you” and I started crying and for more reasons and well I got in contact with him again but now I regret it and I’m sad again I wanna go back with him but he has a girl best friend so we were playing Roblox and well he was playing w her and I said is that a boy? He was like “what if it is? Will you be happy?” I said yes but he told me it was a girl and well I got jealous and now I feel there both dating and he’s ignoring my texts even tho I see him play Roblox and well I want him back but I feel there together and there’s teasing why yes and no I wanna get back with him but yeah…(help you’re girl out pls) oh and sorry I forgot sth so I used to do sth on his neck so sorry and well his dad dosent like me now bc I have a guy friend and well bc of that and well his mom did not like me now and one day we went to eat and his mom left us alone and well I cried bc I was planing to break up but I don’t wanna bc he was like my whole world I said “why do you like me? I’m so ugly fat and not pretty” why not get someone else that is like that and more things and well that day I don’t want remember but it was on a Sunday we broke up that day
30 days of no contact
I removed myself from all social medias. This removed the appetite to impress anyone, especially her. I have no desire to contact anymore! Im firm with this decision! I returned to my core. I started doing morning devotion to calm and give myself direction for the day! I am focusing now on my self. I stopped exercising for 5 hours to numb the pain. I started focusing on other matters like my health by cooking healthy foods, my work, and finding new passion like studying a new language. All the best to otgers out there who were dunped! We do not deserve crumbs! Self love!!
Seeking advice
I broke up with him and he keeps texting me and saying that he loves me a lot and wants to get back together even though the reason we broke up was because of his actions and then he’s talking someone else and he keeps telling me how he thinks am more prettier then her and how he wants to be with me and using her to get over me but i feel bad for the girl .
he won’t stop talking to me
we broke up a few days ago and now he is acting like everything is normal and still telling me he loves me and everything. i’ve asked him if he wants to get back together and he always says no and reminds me of everything i didn’t wrong in the relationship. after i asked him that, i told him if he saw no future with me right now to stop texting me and he is still finding ways to reach out. what should i do?
Asexual advice
My gf of a year said they might be asexual, that might be a deal breaker for me so we’re on a break rn but idk what to do or how to feel, I love them so much but intimacy is a big deal for me
Tough break up
We weren’t talking for long but I gained a strong attachment because of my anxiety the breakup was because she is going through a lot mentally not because she doesn’t like me or want me but because she can’t mentally be that for me. We decided to be friends as there is no bad blood at all. I’m just hoping sometime in the future we find our way back. Replies are very welcomed as I’m not sure on how to handle all this
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