help
I’m 18 and just got out of a two-year relationship with someone I truly thought I’d marry. He broke up with me right before we both left for university — different cities, different lives. He said he loved me, but not the way I loved him. That it didn’t feel like a rollercoaster - a feeling he wanted and that my love was warm and gentle, but he wanted that rollercoaster feeling. The hardest part is knowing he felt like this for months and still stayed. I don’t know if I was led on, or if he just didn’t know how to leave. He said it was also because of his own commitment and attachment issues, and that he wished it was me. I don’t know how to move forward. I keep reading into things — his music taste, his social media, everything. I’ve changed so much in this relationship. I miss him. But I’m scared I wasn’t enough. That maybe I’ll never be enough for anyone. Was I led on? How do I stop hoping he’ll come back? And how do I move on without trying to become someone else entirely?