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8 days no contact
I’m on 8th day of no contact and pregnant with my ex. I ended things 9 days ago and said I didn’t want a family with him due to his issues. He didn’t like that and got super nasty with me and I haven’t heard from him since. What’s more heartbreaking is he hasn’t even bothered to call me to check in or text, I know I’m the one who ended things but still, it’s not like this situation is as cut and dry as a normal break up. I just need to know he still cares
wtf
Yesterday it was my birthday, he didn't even wish for me. He broke up a month ago and said that I would always be the most important person for him. I think he was lying.
Letting go!
I knew a girl who in the end was a dismissive avoidant and I’ve known her for 3 years when she needed help understanding court duty! It was random how I helped her! Because after we both started to talk non stop! Fast forward January 1st we finally became a couple! But there was so much hurt in the relationship! Her avoidant attachment made it hard for me to love her! Every time I would get close she founds ways to push away! And it hurts to see her go! We broke up a month ago November! Her telling me she didn’t feel the same and didn’t want a future with me hurt me! Even if we dated for 10 months it felt like those 3 years I dated her and took a lot of my time too understand her for her flaws how she felt! Yet she gave up and avoided any conflict or deep conversations to try to fix the relationship and most of the time she would trigger me. I’ve been hurting but at the same time healing! Learning to love myself! And understanding this person needs to heal first and become emotionally available for herself! I wish her the best! I remember the good times and it hurts remember what we had! But healing will help me become the best version of myself!
untold. (1 year)
He was supposed to marry me. I supported him from quite literally rags to riches; only for it to never be me in the first place. I only shared resemblance to his real interest; only she was prettier. How do I cope with realizing every moment we shared was only for her? Now we’re over and she’s benefitting from all of the money, style and lessons I taught. I can’t even have a good talking stage, and he’s moved on so quickly. I keep finding out worse and worse information and connections I ignored. “Heal” but this was my first real love, I never had to heal before…I never had a chance? Everyone says skincare and stuff but… it’s deeper than that? How will I ever get over this when I’m living out our entire relationship timeline BY MYSELF (Oct 2023-2024)
help
He observed another girl on Instagram. this girl has photos in bikinis and other controversial ones. it hurts. very much. I haven't entered his accounts since the last time and I don't know why I did it today, I hurts herself. it's been a month since the breakup, what if he broke up and lost feelings because I didn't have enough for him? It hurts so much. why do I still have to love him so much despite everything he does? How to stop waiting for him? When will it pass?
i cant
Hey, I can't cope. he broke up with me 41 days ago and day by day it's getting worse, I swear. there are better and worse days, but for the last few days it's come to me that maybe it's actually the end and it tears me apart from the inside. he broke up with me because he lost feelings, but a few times right after the breakup he wrote to me to try again, but after a few days he thought about it. we met once, two weeks after the breakup and everything was fine, but then he said that he had mixed feelings after that meeting and to give him time. a week after that I wrote to him what's next and he wrote to me that he feels completely burned out and doesn't want to hurt me. we have no contact since then and I can't cope. I really wanted to fix it and make it like it used to be. Our relationship was not perfect, especially at the end because it changed and I felt bad then, but still I think that if we tried it we would be able to fix it. I love him so much and I can't go on I just wait for him all the time. I have a birthday in a week and I'm terribly afraid of that day, we had our first kiss. What can I do? Nothing helps me because I really think it could be fixed. after a week he added girls on Instagram and with one of them it is very possible that he talks. it hurts me a lot because I can't even imagine myself with anyone else. I've been to a psychologist twice, but so far I can't afford more visits. I just can't cope and I don't know what I can do?😭😭😭
nonchalant babydaddy
Okay so I’ve been on and off with my bd for almost 3 years, we have a 1 year old together. He has cheated and possibly have other children due to cheating. He’s such a narcissist! Like I’ve literally left so many times because my stupid self always believes him when he says he’s gonna change and he really wants his family. I’ve left so many times resulting to me going to friends, family, shelters etc and now all my resources I had I no longer have cause I keep going back to him. Like I know I don’t wanna be with him. He’s a imbecile! I’m so angry with myself that this is my sons father. I live with him cause again I have no where to go now, which i know a narcissist LOVES but I’m just really sick of his crap. Anyone can give me advice on not letting his behaviors bother me while I live with him n can hopefully get my own soon.
11 months
me and my ex have been broken up 11 months yet i still feel the same as i did the day it happened. i also just found out today that he has a new girlfriend ts hurts so bad but it’s been so long, idk how im still stuck on him after all this time but i love him and ive never loved anyone more than i did him. we were always happy and laughing whenever we were together, im just not sure where it went wrong. we’ve seen each other after the breakup a few times and messaged quite a lot but both of those things were only because he wanted to see me for one thing if ykyk. i let him because i love him and i would do anything to see him, and when we did see each other it was like we had never even broken up, he was the same as when we were dating. (just want to clarify this hasn’t happened since he got with his new girlfriend) although we was messaging but i didn’t know he was with someone until today, they’ve been together around 3 weeks and we last spoke yesterday??? (he messaged me first). not sure what to do about that situation but the point of this is how do i stop feeling this way all the time after so long. always hearing people saying “it gets better” and “you’ll be fine” but WHEN. nothing is changing except from the time of how long it has been, i still feel the exact same.
Missing Him
My relationship with my ex was very unhealthy. He cheated and I struggled to end things for a long time. I have started dating other people now. But it has been really difficult. My ex and I had sooo much fun together and had so much in common. I miss hanging out with him and spending time together. But, I'm not going to put myself through the cheating again. The grief and emptiness of losing my best friend has been very difficult to deal with. I'm so sad he wouldn't do the work to change and stop cheating. I miss you and I hope you find a better fit for you ❤️
Need advice
Today it's been 36 days since my first love broke up with me and a week since he finally said he couldn't love me anymore. I can't believe it, even in March he couldn't even describe how much he loves me. I don't know what's wrong with me and what has changed over these few months that he can't even love me anymore. I can't forget about him even if I want to, I always have the impression that he'll come back and I don't know if it's because after breaking up he spoke to me a few times to try again (each time he changed his mind after a few Days) or not for no reason and our paths will connect, I just have the impression that our souls are connected. I would like to hate him for what he did after the breakup, but I can't because I love him. I don't know what to do.
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