i
irritatingmeaning9
17mo ago
No Contact

i cant

Hey, I can't cope. he broke up with me 41 days ago and day by day it's getting worse, I swear. there are better and worse days, but for the last few days it's come to me that maybe it's actually the end and it tears me apart from the inside. he broke up with me because he lost feelings, but a few times right after the breakup he wrote to me to try again, but after a few days he thought about it. we met once, two weeks after the breakup and everything was fine, but then he said that he had mixed feelings after that meeting and to give him time. a week after that I wrote to him what's next and he wrote to me that he feels completely burned out and doesn't want to hurt me. we have no contact since then and I can't cope. I really wanted to fix it and make it like it used to be. Our relationship was not perfect, especially at the end because it changed and I felt bad then, but still I think that if we tried it we would be able to fix it. I love him so much and I can't go on I just wait for him all the time. I have a birthday in a week and I'm terribly afraid of that day, we had our first kiss. What can I do? Nothing helps me because I really think it could be fixed. after a week he added girls on Instagram and with one of them it is very possible that he talks. it hurts me a lot because I can't even imagine myself with anyone else. I've been to a psychologist twice, but so far I can't afford more visits. I just can't cope and I don't know what I can do?😭😭😭

❤️ 4💬 8 replies

8 replies

s
sandyfix85qmphq17mo ago

Also make sure you’re taking really good care of yourself. Eat enough. Eat healthy. Drink lots of water. Get enough sleep. Keep good hygiene. Exercise or go for walks. Spend time in sunlight if you can or a sun lamp. Spend time with other people like friends or family if you can. Spend time doing something you enjoy or something that can distract you. All these things can help make the emotions less intense and a little more manageable. If you can’t do the whole list start with baby tiny steps.

❤️ 3Reply
i
irritatingmeaning917mo ago

Thank you very much❤️❤️❤️

❤️ 1Reply
z
Zackmto17mo ago

Healing doesn’t happen all at once, and it’s completely normal to feel like it’s getting worse before it gets better. Just take it one step at a time. You’re not alone, and you really do deserve to be kind to yourself right now. We all are either going through it, will be, have been and it’s hard but just know you’re not alone.

❤️ 3Reply
i
irritatingmeaning917mo ago

thank you so much❤️

❤️ 1Reply
s
sandyfix85qmphq17mo ago

You could use ai therapist it’s free. Look up meditations. Name the emotions you’re feeling. Reach out for support from anyone in your life if there is someone close enough. Try to not be hard on yourself. Also, you gotta keep no contact with him—- including avoiding looking at his social media. Block if you must. This has been key for me to heal. You gotta focus on your own life and happiness right now. I’m so sorry you’re going through this heartbreak. There is life on the other side of it though.

❤️ 3Reply
a
Anonymous17mo ago

It won’t be easy but this is what helped me. Realizing that just because you want to put in the effort and make things work, doesn’t mean they want to. If he’s feeling burnt out / doesn’t want to keep trying you have to respect his decision. Instead of waiting around, at this point it’s best to assume it’s over and he’s not coming back. He may, and that’s fine but either way the next step for you is to keep no contact, get together with friends and talk it out, and start a daily walk / run to replenish the dopamine / endorphins you’ve lost since the breakup. You have to make yourself the priority now, not the relationship, since that’s what he’s done. It takes two to make a relationship work. Best of luck on your healing journey ❤️

❤️ 2Reply
i
irritatingmeaning917mo ago

But that's what hurts me the most, why doesn't he want it. until recently he loved me so much and said he couldn't live without me, and now he just gave up on me and deliberately removed me from his life. damn it hurts me. why wasn't I worth trying to feel for me. why I wasn't enough and what's wrong with me. thank you very much for your advice and I hope that when it will be better❤️

❤️ 2Reply
a
Anonymous17mo ago

I feel you. I had those exact same thoughts during my breakup. ‘What was wrong with me? Why wasn’t I good enough? Have I lost my chance at love?’ But after a while I realized that I don’t WANT to be with someone who would throw me to the wayside like that. And if one of my friends came to me and was in my place I’d say “dude, nshe just saved you a lot of time. You are a great guy who’s funny, smart, kind. You’ll find a girl out there who would never dream of leaving you and will work hard at the relationship. Because really, it’s better to be single than in a relationship where both people aren’t committed.’ And the same goes for you ❤️

❤️ 2Reply

Want to reply?

Post anonymously from the app. Your words might help someone who's going through the same thing.

Open Breakup Buddy →