11 months

I had an ex that took me yearssss to move on from. I’m going to give you the advice I wish someone gave me back then. You have to go no contact with him. Block him if necessary. Every time you talk to him, see him or have hooked up with him you are resetting your healing back to day one. This includes checking his social media, unfollow, block or take a break from socials if necessary. Your brain needs space from him in order to heal. This feels really really hard, but you must remind yourself that in order to heal you have to focus on your life. The pain will slowly go away if you follow this. If you go to school or work with him it makes it more complicated. You could follow him again one day once you are healed. But these steps will help tremendously. You don’t deserve what he’s done… continuing to talk to you & stringing you along while actively trying to move on? Is that the treatment you want? You don’t deserve it. It says a lot about the kind of person he is. You can heal if you set appropriate limits with yourself. You will find someone new again, but you need to choose to fully let him go first. Ugh I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Also—- allow yourself to feel all the pain, grief and sadness. Even if it’s been almost a year… you guys have kept talking after. Try to be kind to yourself about how much love you still have for him. That only shows you love people deeply. Which is a great quality to have.