Need advice

Today it's been 36 days since my first love broke up with me and a week since he finally said he couldn't love me anymore. I can't believe it, even in March he couldn't even describe how much he loves me. I don't know what's wrong with me and what has changed over these few months that he can't even love me anymore. I can't forget about him even if I want to, I always have the impression that he'll come back and I don't know if it's because after breaking up he spoke to me a few times to try again (each time he changed his mind after a few Days) or not for no reason and our paths will connect, I just have the impression that our souls are connected. I would like to hate him for what he did after the breakup, but I can't because I love him. I don't know what to do.

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Sadponyclub17mo ago

I’m sorry my dear that you are going through a hard break up :( Less than four months ago I was broken up with by my first love too and it was so difficult bc I didn’t want the breakup and from it I started experiencing withdrawals I was on fight or flight mode almost every day in the first few weeks it was awful. All I wanted was to talk to him but I was advised not to since he was the one who’s broke up with me. I also believed we were destined to be together and that he was my one and only but through some time and trust me it took A LOT of time (almost 4 months now) I realized I deserve so much better and so do you ❤️ and guess what there is absolutely NOTHNG wrong with you! You shouldn’t need to convince the person who is meant for you why they need to stay, they should without a doubt choose you bc you are enough as you are now. I know it’s hard for you right now and I get it sometimes no words can bring comfort to the pain you are feeling right now. I would say just give yourself time and compassion. Time really does help and I myself couldn’t believe that.

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Sadponyclub17mo ago

During this time I would advice hold onto people in your life who support and loves you spend as much time with them and vent your heart out, cry as much as you need, try to journal if that is something you are interested in, and go out for nature walks. The main thing I would advice that helped me through this is to not hold back on your emotions feel everything even when it hurts so much and don’t contact him even when the urges are strong. If in the end he is meant for you he’ll come back around but make sure he does it by being the one who contacts you and not the other way around. You are stronger than you believe I wish you so much love. Good luck ❤️

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irritatingmeaning917mo ago

Thank you very much, it's damn hard, but I hope I can handle it. There are better days, but there are also those when I feel terrible, I miss him very much and I want to write to him, but I don't do it. I hope we will still find our way to each other with him. I wish you all the best!!! ❤️

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