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I met this guy about 9-10 months ago threw my ex but didn’t talk until the 18th of march and started developing a really strong connection and realizing how much we liked each other we would hang out and talk everyday sometimes even FaceTime but recently about a week ago we went to a party and I had a bit too much to drink and as expected got drunk and started throwing up in front of him my parents picked me up and the next day I got grounded for drinking we would still talk but it was like everything changed he said I was the one changing but I noticed it was him until the 21st of this month he told me that he really wanted to be with me but wasn’t in the right position to be in a relationship and that he was insecure about his future and needed time to think about his studies and make his mom happy and how his mom wasn’t so supportive of him being with someone younger and how he wanted to avoid anymore problems with his mother and how he wanted me to know that he loves me and that he’s always going to be there for me but I still don’t believe that’s the reason he left please give me your option
Please give advice
Ive known this kid since the beginning of last year. We had a few conversations but didnt leave too close so never saw him. We started a talking stage in may 2025 and then started dating. Everything was perfect he treated me better than any of my other exes i got so attached and we were so in love. I had no friends so he gave me his as my own and i finally wasn’t lonley and we had so many plans for the summer. Fast foward to the second week (this week) everything was fine until friday he started arguing w me about how i was overthinking too much and was controlling (i wasnt or didnt mean too) it was my time of the month (tmi sorry) so i was obvi a little moody. Time goes by after that and he says he needs a break, i have trauma from that bc my first love said the same thing and never came back and blocked me on everything. So i started getting scared bc i didnt know what i did wrong and i stayed up all night without any sleep. It was the next morning and i asked if we can talk it out. He said no im done and unadded me. I tried to text him on messages throughout the day and he ignored me. It then came today and he himself and many other ppl said hes done with me forever hes never talking to me again and never being my friend or anything. Ofc since he doesnt live nearby(25 mins) i dont expect to ever see him again. His ex is posting “quotes” of their convo on her story and its hurting me. Please, how do i get him back, hes the only reason im alive ill do anything for him to give me another chance.
my story please read i need help
me and my boyfriend got together in july 2024 but we were best friends before that. i felt like i could tell him anything but i always had feelings for him. when we got together things were so good. he was my person. the only issue was my parents hated him. i didnt care tho. i went against them so many times just to be with him and he knows that. in October he started to get distant and i confronted him about it and he brushed it off. because i loved him i let it go but then it got to a point where we didnt speak at all. we had an argument and i ended up breaking up with him. i instantly regretted it and messaged him about how much i wanted it to work. he messaged my friend and told her he still lived me but he just had stuff going on in his life which he needed to focus on. At this point we were still in contact. He then blocked me on snap and i messaged him on imessage and we had another argument but two hours layer he came back and apologised. Ever since then we have been speaking once a month and he comes back to give me hope but then leaves again. its like he wants to check im still attached to him and idk what to do bcs i still love him. please support me
April 2025
We actually broke up in the end of may. She has already been deceiving me for months and now it’s been two months since we broke up. She broke up with me when i found out from someone else that she’s been lying to me about other people and what she has been doing. She’s always been lying about something but i couldn’t help but still love her and love the moments she gave me. She was my best friend and lover. I poured everything into her and she left me in the dust. She kept telling me that she found someone cute and then now she likes someone else. She has a crush on him but she still wants to be special in my life, or be the only girl i love or choose . I went through the worst time in april, my body was traumatized and i couldn’t do anything. The worst part was that i didn’t feel depressed, i felt everything. I slept and woke up with the heaviest heart everyday. I had no one to talk to and i still can’t help but feel the sting in my chest. Today i told her that if it brings her peace of mind that leave, that i will. But she said she doesn’t want that and she can be normal with me. She gets mad when she thinks there is someone else but tells me she has nothing for me anymore, no love, just a form of respect left. But when something rubs off on her even a bit; she blows up on me tells me the craziest things and then she tells me that the guy asked her on a date or that he likes her back. It still makes my heart sting even after all i’ve been through. The only reassurance i have is that i survived last month and it isn’t as bad. I don’t know what to do because i don’t want to let her go. Please help.
break up
so basically we broke up bc im 3months older than him (he broke up w me) and we broke up then got back tg and broke up again and we broke up again 3 days ago and I’ve been crying every night about him and nothing is helping me I’ve started cvtting again and I was slowely getting better but I’ve gotten worse so ya
Breaking up with a narcissist
I need help so I’m been with this narcissist for so long for almost 10 years on and off. Today I build the courage to let go and say no more to the mental abuse I experienced later on in the relationship. It started off well I feel like he was the one I couldn’t let go. I feel like I was inside a hole and I felt like I was never gonna find someone like him. But my mental help was in jeopardy my mental health was falling apart. Then I realize that my mental health and myself meant more than him. It hasn’t been easy but deep inside I knew I had to do what I needed to do and that was to let him go.
I need help
He basically broke up with me three weeks ago because he was tired and didn’t want a relationship anymore after we had been together for almost a year. He was my first love and we experienced all our firsts together. We have started to go no contact about two weeks ago and it’s honestly the worst thing ever because he was my best friend. I constantly check his social media and he keeps following more girls which is making me question if he didn’t want a relationship because he wanted to explore. However when we were breaking up we both cried and he did tell me he loves me and how this is really hard on him. He also said that if he ever wants a relationship again in the future he wants it to be with me. Is it silly that I have hope of us getting back together and should I just try and move on. Please tell me what you think as it would be much appreciated
First Love- make this make sense!
So the breakup happened in August last year.. and I have been through hell the past 9 months. To explain, it was his first relationship and I had had two short terms and a situationship before him, so I was experienced (ish) and he was not at all. We were together 18 months and we did a lot of firsts together. Things at the start were perfect, he put in the effort, he made plans, he was caring, supportive, funny, charming. Really the person I needed. I had never felt this way about someone before and at 3 months, I knew how I felt. But around then, when i started to hint how i felt, he started to withdraw- not completely, just in little things. I thought this was us getting comfortable and the honeymoon phase waring off. I was cautious that because this was his first relationship and i knew he wasn’t open with his family, that he, like me, struggled witb feelings and pressure. So eventually I said I loved him in a card- nothing cringey, just honest. And this was around 11 months in. He said he didn’t know how he felt- and I believed (still do) he looked so scared and vulnerable. But we both agreed we wanted to stay together because we had so much planned. This is where it went downhill His best online friend, who we met a few times and played games with, started to poke holes when we met up, saying we didn’t do pda and we always seemed two feet apart- she has a partner and a child with them and didn’t like it if he played games with me on our own. But he showed me the texts between them (i never asked) he said she was just a friend and I believed him. He started to withdraw again, saying that the distance was effecting us- and it was he lives in the city- 50 min drive and i live in a small town, he has to get the train and i usually drove up so we could only see eachother on weekends. He said we were both on different points in life- he had more savings to move out- i do not, but i changed that for him. But whenever we were alone- trips away- he was himself, we loved eachother’s company and he did the small things, never let me go without a brew, always looked after me- bought me thoughtful gifts for my birthday, spoke to me softly when we were alone- and when friends and family saw us together they could see how much he cared and how well we fit. In the end he withdrew again and I couldn’t deal with it- i got upset- we both were and he couldn’t bring himself to break up with me because he genuinley didn’t know. In the end i had to call him out over Snapchat of all places and we called and he said he didn’t know his own feelings, didn’t know what he was doing with his job or life and that I deserved someone that could say they loved me. He wanted to be friends and i said i needed space, we both cried and we said goodbye. I removed him off most things and kept gaming with our mutual friend but she got caught in the middle of us both wanting to game with her at the same time, so we fell out. when i tried to reach out a few months later he pushed me away and said he wasn’t ready and i removed and re added him. A few times, eventually i sent him a text say why i did that and that i still had feelings for him. And how the fallout with his friend made me feel. He left me on read It’s been 9 months and im still questioning why? Why did he not come back? I would love to be friends with them both again but I tried to reach out to him a few months ago and he just declined it. Everyone says its best to move on and “let it go” but its like I physically can’t and I am trying everything- exercise, hobbies, new friends and no one is scratching that itch or filling that hole that he left. So yeah help me make sense of what on earth changed and why he doesn’t want anything to do with me now. 👍🏻
Venting
I had been with this guys for 7 years. We were practically living together at one point and had a healthy relationship. We had to move to a different city for our professional growth for some time, there was no other way to do so while being in the same city. The 1st month it was good we talked almost every day unless something came up and texted all the time. The 2nd month both our schedules were packed and we had different availability plus there was a time zone difference. We still try staying in contact but it was hard. I was concern about this and though we could talk about it when we saw each other (we were supposed to meet soon). However, right as I was getting ready for a big event in my career he broke up with me over text. we spoke on the phone later and he was crying and saying it will be the best for us in the long run. We ended up meeting in person and talking about but I had to insist for this to happen. There were some things I had to say and I wanted that to be in person. He then said we should meet again after a month when we were both going to be in the same city due to personal reasons. After this meeting he texted me at one point during the holidays to said he missed me and loved me. When the time for the second meeting came up there was an issue with his job and he couldn’t go there but he didn’t tell me about it until I asked. He said he really believed we should just move on. He made comments that made it seem like he was also having a hard time but I told him at this point I also didn’t feel like I could be with him considering his treatment in the last month. He refused to talk about how he felt and just kept saying it was best for both of us and that he wouldn’t be able to give me the things I want and deserve because of how demanding his job is. (Just to give context he has a very sheltered life. Didn’t struggle a lot and never had to handle more than 2-3 responds at the same time.) He said to stay in contact but blocked me in a matter of second after having regular communication with me for weeks. I feel like I was blindsided and like he didn’t respect me enough to act more mature about the whole situation. I honestly didn’t even have time to react. Needless to say it affected my professional and daily life as I was under so much stress I started having anxiety attacks and insomnia. I am in a better place and things are getting better but I still feel stuck. He recently unfollowed me on instagram, like 4-5 months after the break up. We had not been in contact for more than 3 months at that point and neither of us uses instagram to post things. Mostly use it to share memes and such. Which just reopened a lot of wound for me that I was working hard to heal from. This is just me venting because I honestly feel like my family and friends are tired of this whole topic and I just need to put it somewhere to let it go and stop overthinking about it.
breakup
i think i might have bpd but i kept putting him through a cycle of my insecurities and accusing him of cheating. on monday we had gotten in another fight after i had been doing super good and as i usually do i say”let’s break up then. we’re done.” expecting him to chase after me and he didn’t. he left.
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