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Betrayal
I was with a guy that I loved very deeply. We broke up yesterday. He left me. He was everything I wanted in the beginning of our relationship. When we first got together 10 months ago he was so good to me his communication was consistent he was affectionate caring and just everything I wanted. He owns his own business and lives 2 hours from me so he is very busy. After about 5 months his great uncle died and he was very very upset about it so I did my very best to comfort him and after that bad things just kept happening to him like wrongfully going to jail, his grandpa getting cancer and more. He began pulling away from me little by little. His replies got shorter and he took longer to answer and stopped seeing me as much. It didn’t take me long to realize he wasn’t good with talking about his feelings and he was extremely emotionally unintelligent and unavailable. I asked him so many times to call me more or just send a few more texts checking in just so I knew he loved me cause I overthink a lot and have bad anxiety. For a while he made an effort and changed. Then he stopped and the whole time I was being neglected I was nothing but nice. What was really confusing was when I would see him in person he was so loving and nice to me and then he’d leave and his communication would just suck. These past two weeks were tearing me apart he would barely speak to me dodge saying I love you back avoid talking about why he was acting this way and then last night he sent a text saying he still really liked me but it wasn’t fair to me that he was putting his business before me and it would be best if we just parted ways. He also said he still loves me and maybe down the road we could try again. I wish he had never said those two things if it’s over I just wanna move on but all I can think about is how he still loves me apparently but couldn’t give me what I wanted. I blocked him on everything. Everything I see reminds me of him. I thought he was going to be my husband. He would reassure me so much before this saying he will never leave and he wants me forever we would always talk about our future. And he just threw me away like I was nothing. I know what I have to do and that’s heal and never take him back. I don’t really know what I’m looking for from sharing this maybe someone who can relate? If you’ve made it this far thank you for reading. I am so hurt.
First love break up
My ex and I have been together for 6 years, our relationship was rocky at first because we were long distance but in the end we made it. I’ve made mistakes in the past that I regret. But I thought we moved past them. He let his hurt go on for 3/4 years. We’ve been in and out of long distance to in person. He broke up with me last month because he felt like he just couldn’t forget, he said he forgives me but can’t forget. And that he loves me dearly but he’s not in love with me. And he doesn’t know if he’ll ever fall in love with me again. But always says only time can tell. He loved our relationship and won’t take it for granted it’s just he’s hurt. I owned up to my mistakes plenty of times and loved him and grown through our relationship and was the best girlfriend I could be. He said that I was an amazing girlfriend it’s just something he can’t forget. I do want us to get back together but I want it to be for us and not anyone else. How do I let go without letting go fully?
breakup.
hey guys. so me and my ex dated for 2 years, and been in love with each other since 7th grade. on monday i found out he cheated on me. he had told me and my mom he didnt know the girl. tuesday comes around & the girls friend texted me asking me to take his name out of my bio. i asked her why, she makes a gc with the girl. Abbi. she begins to tell me her and my ex had been talking for 3 weeks, she sends me ss. they had hung out, and were touchy. he even sajd i love you in 3 weeks. i texted the ss to him and asked him to never speak to me again. to this girl he cheated with I was just the crazy ex from 5th and 7th grade that wanted him back. his excuse to me was that the whole time he was texting her he was pretending it was me. and that we were fighting a lot and wasnt feeling appreciated and loved. the whole relationship was toxic to everyone else, and me at some points. we couldnt go a week without over 5 arguments a day. i wasnt allowed to wear what i want, be around my friends. i know it was toxic but he keeps reposting tiktoks about me. and i miss him but i have to come to terms that what he did wasnt ok. and it’s unforgivable because i wouldnt have ever done that to him.
Ex
Hi so my ex has been stringing me along for awhile so I didn't talk to him for a 4 days after he just told me he wants to just be friends when he told me I don't need to move on yet. His mom works at the college as a dinner lady so I explained the situation to her today because apparently he told her what was going on but he didn't tell her the whole of it that he kept me waiting for ages and not telling her that he told me not to move on yet when he already knew the answer ages ago and the answer was no so she was cross that he strung me along like that which I'm not happy about either. She did tell him that he should have been honest with me at the start of it all. He just didn't want to hurt me but that isn't the point it hurts more now because his left it for so long. His mom said he thinks I hate him but I don't he just hurt me I did say to her I'll still be his friend but now I said that it's going to be harder for me to move on because I'm his friend and his probably going to come up to me to talk most of the time now.
Heartbreak without even speaking
I finally felt ready to be open with someone. I met who I thought was an amazing guy - shared goals and values. We could speak easily about anything. Until I learned that he’s not so good speaking about conflicts. We became official 3 months after dating. Two months in the relationship, I could see his effort was waning. I expressed that I felt like I wasn’t a priority and he withdrew entirely. Despite numerous attempts to speak, he went into a shell. Didn’t even try to call me. Then he broke up via text. Then made promises to meet in person and hasn’t even followed through. I had no agency. He treated me like we had just been on the first date and he realised he didn’t want to continue. I’ve been emotionally and physically weak for 3 weeks.
5 years and his exhaustion
I am a very anxious person and unfortunately it ruined our relationship. A week ago, my boyfriend, with whom we had been together for almost 5 years, said that he did not want to be with me and wanted to break up. I'm broken, badly. He said he wasn't sure if he was going to marry me, that he was tired. He's not interested in how I'm doing, he doesn't want me to touch him, he doesn't want to spend time with me. I'm very tired of this relationship too. We've been living together for the last few days and then I'm going to another city. I understand that I'll get better with time, but for now, the only one I want is him. He said he loves me, but he's lying. After all, when you love, you don't let go.
3 years over in 3 days
My bf of 3 years whom I thought I had a great and solid relationship with just broke up with me. This was the best relationship I’ve ever been in. I truly thought he was the one. He’s just been very unsure about the future for a while and came to the realization that he didn’t know if he could ever really commit to me. So he decided to end it. And it all makes sense etc, I just really never imagined that would ever happen. I think we both just brushed it off to his anxiety and thought it would get better. It’s also cliche but I’ve never been loved like that, and I see why we’re here and that it’s for the best but that’s still a tough one to swallow. Anyone been though something similar?
Seeking Advice…
I just recently started dating this guy after getting out of a two year relationship. At the beginning everything was great then he became controlling not letting me have access to my phone, money our even my clothes. If I say something to upset him he’ll leave me stranded with no phone.. Id our money. The other day he got so mad at me n punch me the head four times… I was using his phone to check my emails and he punch me in the chest. He apologized and promise not to do it again. I hate having to walk on eggshells
We broke up
Me and my fiance of five years broke up on the 21st I’m really devastated and finding it hard to believe it’s real but we’ve got a one year old son together and he hasn’t seen him in over a week I don’t know what to do or say but one thing I know is my son needs me
New girl
I was on my school bus today and a new girl asked to sit next to me and we talked for a little bit and she fell asleep leaning against me and that’s the happiest I’ve felt in so long. I cant grasp at the situation of being in another relationship after my recent abusive one.
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