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Just got my heart broken for the first time
I’ve been in many relationships before but most being because people liked me and I didn’t say no but that’s not important. My SO just broke up with me for no reason. She just randomly tossed me to the side and I didn’t even find out from them! She sent me a video of her best friend laughing that she’s ditching me. This hurt and still does. I’m beginning to question if love can ever happen to me again. I feel stupid for giving someone my heat just for them to stop on it.
My husband left me at the hospital
We got engaged , then married. We got pregnant on purpose & unfortunately lost our baby girl to preterm labour loss. I birthed her & he was with me the whole time & was so supportive. Month after got my gallbladder removed also. By a month later we were pregnant again , fast fwd to March 30, I go into preterm labour (loss) again & as I’m birthing my boy. A second boy pops out. We lost twins :( except this time he wasn’t there for me. He wasn’t sweet or supportive. I lost so much blood I almost died. Had to have a D&C right away. 6 bags of blood. & he just wasn’t being supportive emotionally for all I was experiencing. I could feel him off and he only wanted to stay the first night cuz of work so I said, you can leave now if you want. And he did. I haven’t seen him since. He hasn’t asked how I’m doing. Doesn’t talk about our babies urns being made. He didn’t even check up on my two older sons who were at home while I was in the hospital. He just. Vanished and ghosted us all. Next day he asked for a divorce. Now he’s making it like I was a terrible wife and no one would want to be married to me. Like I’m a liar about my entire past and everything that ever happened between us. He only text he’d never call. And then Saturday he came to get his deer meat and leave the house key. Didn’t leave his wedding ring which is something he’d do. Didn’t even take his personal items or his hats which he loves. I just don’t get it. Now we’re no contact and. I don’t know what to feel or what to do. I’m So lost. And heartbroken.
7 years..
me and my fiancé of 7 years broke up last night..I’m devastated. I’ve been crying all day, and trying to figure out what I could do to save our relationship. I’ve spoken with her and she’s told me she loves me but isn’t in love with me anymore. She resents me for things I couldn’t control (I have adhd and can’t focus well, I’ve bounced between jobs a lot due to bad bosses or just not liking it so that was my fault, among other things) and she also said she’s grown (we met when she was 18, and I was 21) and isn’t emotionally connected to me anymore. She wants to heal her own mental distress and give her younger self the love she deserved before she met me, and I’m at a loss. I don’t know what to do. My best friend want me to move across the country to live with him so I have some kind of support cuz where I currently live it’s just me and her, and she’s the only one I have. I wanted to marry this woman, I wanted to grow old with this woman, and I can no longer have a future with her. And frankly I just need some advice, I’ve never in my life felt pain like this…I’ve downloaded journal apps to keep track of what I’m feeling and thinking, and I’m seeing a therapist as well to help with things but I just don’t know what to do
still attached
hi, i've broken up with my ex about a week ago due to his agressive side when he drinks alcohol, and his disrespectiveness he gave me during the relationship. i keep thinking back and speaking to people about all the bad things he had done to me, but i still miss him and talking to him and living with him and everything, i can't seem to take my mind off even if he was terrible. Any advice on what you guys do to help not miss them? i don't see why i should be missing them because he didn't always treat me right and i hope he realises it but i don't want to give in due to the fact that i miss him
5 years gone
My ex partner who I thought I was going to be marrying and moving in soon left me. It’s my fault I would say I was very honest and safe and Great but so ehweee down the line I started yelling and I couldn’t stop She finally had enough and left Now I’m here alone full of regrets and self hatred I hate the next day the next minute of this existence She says she’s happier and relieved now that we aren’t together and I believe her. I want to let her go in happiness but I don’t want to loose her forever. I want to stay but I know it would kill me to see her with anyone else.
Can’t let go
My ex cheated on me, we were together for 4 years. We even lived together last year. I felt like everything was going perfect until he started getting more and more distant and no effort or attention was given to the relationship anymore. It’s been 6 months since we broke up now. But only 2 of those months was without a contact. I always reach out to him, because I get so sad and he was like a friend to me too. I feel so bonded, like a part of me is gone with him. I just want to let him go, I know he doesn’t appreciate me. But how do I close this chapter and look forward. How do I stop thinking or letting my self get disrespected time after time. I know I have to stop hurting my self by reaching out, but in a way I am already hurting just, alone now.
Venting
My ex broke up with me randomly after being in a long distance for almost two months. We did have a hard time communicating because our schedules would not match up. My whole family and friends believe there is someone else. Some times I do too, however other times I doubt it because it doesn’t match with some of the things we talked throughout the break up. I just don’t know if knowing the facts would make it harder or easier to move on. However thinking the possibility of there being someone else and him not being honest makes me feel disrespected by him and his family in a way (his mom checks in me sometimes and she know I was concerned there was someone else when the break up happened initially, I know she doesn’t owe me to tell me tho) Not just by the possible cheating but the lack of honesty. I’m just conflicted because I also know that it won’t make a difference on the outcome.
Ex moved on
Hello me and my friend Forrest started our relationship two years ago and I broke up with him in October that year because we didn’t feel the same way. I thought of him as more of a friend. Now he was moved on and found someone new and I feel he is spending less time with me and my friend. I understand but at the same time I am upset. Any advice?
Rage and hate
I was with him for 8 years. We had different life goals and showed love in different ways. I understood his reason for breaking up with me. I did. But he moved on so fast. We still own a house together and I was dropping off my dog for him to watch while I was away and her stuff is there. Her toothbrush in my cup. Her tampons in my drawer. I’ve never felt so betrayed and angry in my life. I understand the split and his need to move on. But why did it have to be so fast and why couldn’t he wait until the house was sold and we never had to see each other again. It’s such a slap in my face. I’ve only been moved out three weeks.
A time and a place?
Is there ever a time when getting back together is a good idea?
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