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when does it stop hurting
one day overnight he just completely changed, ghosted me for a month saying he was going through stuff. i was patient, didn’t pressure him and just checked in sometimes, i felt so lonely and cried all the time because of how much i missed him. after a while i saw he was hanging out with everyone in his life except me, i eventually broke and that’s when he told me he thinks he might be gay. it made zero sense to me, i could think he was bi but gay?… it changed everything that i had lived with him, was all of it fake? did he ever even care? or love me at all? all the intimate stuff felt so fake all of a sudden. i sent a last message ending things, telling him id leave him alone. and that i was sorry and i loved him and was grateful. im moving countries soon, to where he is so it hurt a lot more. he never responded, not a single thing to let me know that he was at least grateful to me or that he did love me in the slightest. after a month of ghosting i got one message saying that and then nothing. it’s been a week and it feels like im the only one hurting. i miss him so much. everyday i can’t stop crying and thinking about him.
ADHD
I was just broken up with someone I was dating for 2.5 months. It is a short amount of time but I am devastated. I was blind-sided. He said he had trouble forming a deep connection with me. The ironic thing is everyone I know thinks this is insane, since I have a deep sense of self, am empathetic and easy to connect with and have several stable deep connections in my life with family and friends. He has ADHD and would forget things we talked about, would be inconsistent with plans and always was seeking a dopamine rush. My therapist just told me people with ADHD struggle to form connections with romantic partners because their brain is constantly jumping from place to place. It’s definitely possible that he just lost interest in me but I am wondering if anyone else had dealt with this.
How to know when to let go - help!
Me and my ex have been on and off for months now, since last year. I know it’s right to let go, and go no contact. I have tried it a few times. He always messages me and then I fall into the trap of replying. He really hurt me and cheated on me in multiple ways. Micro cheating and actual cheating & at the time a lot of gaslighting. Now he is very guilty and messages me, sad messages and I end up replying. I know I need to let go, but I love him it’s hard and I feel trauma bonded. What could help?
Newly broken up with
It’s been 2 weeks since our breakup, we haven’t seen or communicated with each other and the sucky part is that he lives literally around the block from me. How is it easy for a guy to be okay and move on with his life? While I’m hurting and missing him so much!
Too late
I’m not about to use this app anymore, as after 94 days he is begging me for second chance. I went through hell during those 3 months and after emotional and physical pain and many people leaving my side I was lucky enough to still have those who stayed. Sometimes we desperately want someone to be back in our life, because we are suffering, thinking we’re suffocating without them, only time shows whom that place belongs to. But as it’s too late now when seeing things in true colours
He ghosted after making promises
Cried so hard today. My heart literally broke It’s so many things in life I’m able to face and overcome , but when it comes to him I feel so weak and sad , I loved him and he just broke my heart. I poured out all my love for him in a cup and he just threw it in the trash.
I dont know what to do
I dont know how to move on, everything was so perfect. I feel stupid, but at the same time he promised that we would speak again in some months. He needed to focus on himself and school. How im i supposed to move on now?
Hard to get out of bed
Procrastinating getting out of bed…sighs
Embracing life
Today I had a date, not a date-date, but I met a girl in a queue while waiting for appointment with my oncologist. We were talking, then had a coffee. She mentioned she liked me, asked me if I’m single and asked me out. I said she’s lovely but it’s wrong time as I’m still getting over painful break up and undergoing cancer treatment, and then she said she’s her diagnosis, triple negative breast cancer, she is terminally ill, but it doesn’t stop her from taking the most out of time she still has. To say it hit me hard is nothing. I’ve suddenly realised I was thinking I can’t go over a guy I was in serious relationship with, whom I had to plead to take me on a normal proper date 🤦🏼♀️ A complete stranger (beautiful, heartwarming, positive and adorable lady) in few hours taught me more about myself then I could ever imagine. I will remember her I think till the rest of my life, I will clearly remember her every time someone will fail to show up for me, or being there for me, or not making an effort. I mean every one knows that those who want are looking for opportunities and those who don’t are looking for excuses. I feel like I don’t care at all anymore about my ex 🥳
Please Update App Message
Just in case anyone else is wondering about the “update app” message. I just got an email back from the support team and they’re saying it is a bug and a new version of the app is being reviewed by Apple right now so hopefully it will be fixed soon. Not ideal given I’m going through cheating trauma but in case anyone else is wondering what’s up there it is 🤷♂️
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