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Venting
I was in a relationship for 7 years and we both had to move to different places and suddenly has to adapt to a crazy, new, and demanding schedule. Less than two months in my ex decided that it was best to break up over text. I went on a spiral because nothing had been mentioned about issues and two days before fire we were talking about Christmas gift for our families.It was so bad that it affected my professional life as well and I started having anxiety attacks. We stayed texting for a while and one day my ex just suddenly stopped after texting me the day before we would talk the next day. It was just so different from what I am used to from this person. I am just having a hard time moving on because it feels like I was betrayed in a way and I don’t even know this person. I feel blindsided and abandoned. I don’t even feel like I can talk to friends and family at times because everyone just expects me to get over it at a fast speed that I can’t even imagine. I am trying to, I have kept myself busy and make sure to work on myself. But some days are just hard on me.
Prioritize your relationship
I lost my relationship because I was too focused on my job and setting us up for a future. I wasn’t there for her and couldn’t take the stress so I asked her to move out. We stayed in contact for 2 months but I wasn’t there for her because I couldn’t balance my career and not having her there for me when I got home. She says she’s over me now and moved on with someone new. It’s been a week since no contact. My work is now slipping because I have no drive to work without her. Everything I was working for feels like it was for nothing.
Prioritize your relationship
I lost my relationship because I was too focused on my job and setting us up for a future. I wasn’t there for her and couldn’t take the stress so I asked her to move out. We stayed in contact for 2 months but I wasn’t there for her because I couldn’t balance my career and not having her there for me when I got home. She says she’s over me now and moved on with someone new. It’s been a week since no contact. My work is now slipping because I have no drive to work without her. Everything I was working for feels like it was for nothing.
toxic
me and my ex partner got together in October last year and for the 6-7 months we were together it was all a lie he was cheating constantly. I’ve been no contact for 2 weeks and will never go back but I feel disgusted and so depressed!
Cutting off
I’m fighting cancer which was diagnosed 3 months later after our breakup which I initiated, even though I loved him and still do. I was alone in a foreign country being a refugee and my ex was the only close person so I let him know. I decided to go back home for treatment and operation, everything went well, still waiting for MRI before radiotherapy, but decided to go back to UK for further treatment. He wasn’t supportive during this extremely difficult period of my life, only checked in occasionally. Now he wants to pick me up from airport. I don’t want to hurt him as I truly care for him, don’t want to block him as it’s childish, but don’t really want him in my life either a friend or partner, as he proved once more his indecision and unreliability.
grieving & letting go
hi all using this time to grieve let go and focus on me it’s so hard giving all attention and love to myself i’m familiar with giving away even 1/4 in or mm a day is still healing forward to
depressed
I miss my ex so much. we were together for almost 3 years. he was absolutely everything to me. I dropped almost everyone in my life for him so now i’m all alone. i’m not blocked on anything and i still text him everyday. he promised we would stay friends and he wouldn’t leave me but he ghosted me two weeks ago without warning. he send me a black screen everyday on snap to keep our streak alive. i’m just so sad and depressed i miss him so much. i miss litterally everything about him and our relationship
Drunk text my ex
Hello, I drink trxt my ex last night some very nasty messages, he has now blocked me. We were together for 5 years and loved together for 3. Please help me overcome the anxiety it has caused.
I don’t know what to do
Hey everyone me and my ex got together back on April 14,2023 he ended things on February 3 of this year I don’t know how to think for right now. When we were having a very long talk once he dumped me he told me he needs to fix himself not ready to commit wants to be free meet a bunch of people travel but still wants me as a friend. We lived in two places together one was his dads and the second our place together with another couple but they broke up the end of last year. It’s so confusing because he came up with our marriage timeline 3 years promise ring 5 years wedding ring and he dumped me 11 days before our 1 year 10 months which was gonna be on Valentine’s Day. It’s so hard because he still tells me he loves me and we said we would both heal and we wouldn’t get into another relationship until we try again. It’s so confusing because I treated him so good compared to all his other exs and I’m always there for him but he can’t just stay with me and heal together. I’m so scared for whatever can happen I can’t see him get into another relationship which he says he won’t he can’t be in a relationship at all but I’m so scared. Today is kinda started the no contacts and I just wanna talk to him so bad but he says I need to distance because with how hard I’ve been taking it and trying to get him back he says I’m pushing him away and it’s annoying him. I’ve never been alone I’m really scared to be. I wanna to be better independently but I’m scared if I back off too much there will never be a possibility for us again. Does anyone have any advice? I’m so lost and I just want my sweet boy back in my eyes we are soulmates and the only dude I can’t think about and want a future with. I just can’t believe how you can love someone and cry when you leave them but so hard to get them back I told him I would wait while getting myself back but he tells me he won’t be dating for a while which I’m scared for
Addiction.
I split up with my partner of almost 2 years last week. He is an alcoholic and I have recently discovered, a porn addiction. It has destroyed my self confidence thinking he just wasn’t interested in me (he would only initiate sex when he’d had a drink) and gradually became more switched off and disconnected emotionally and physically. I know this is the right decision for me but it doesn’t make it any easier. I am grieving the nice moments, the life we planned together and the person who I thought he was going to be. It is so painful right now. Anyone have any words of wisdom?
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