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Peac
Good-morning breakup buddies I want to start by thanking the firsts peoples and acknowledge I’m living respectfully on the unceded land of the Dharug People: the traditional custodians of the land belonging to the Eora Nation Firstly I want to acknowledge how painful and heartbreaking these times are. And compounded by a world this is baring the brunt of hate. Well done us for being a part of a community that is feeling the pain, the crying of humanity and all that is wrong. I hear you all, I feel you, I connect with you, and we can walk this path holding energy and universal hands 🙌 as it is our power through connection, that will hold up against this wall we are trying to climb over. We are what we surround ourselves with. I am 64 and have been growing through that lesson all my life. We shed those that do not hold the energy we give as the precious gift it is. If we do not, there energy field will start to erode ours, and even, sometimes, creep in and blur our beliefs our politics our essence . So it is so important to find like, and hold there like, as this beautiful power, is the essence of our existence. I am also shedding a human that has travelled with me for 26 years. Someone I thought would be with me for life, but we no longer hold each other as we should, and that’s painful and lonely and scary. But sometimes it is in these moments of loneliness, sadness and pain, that we see a glimpse of ourselves we need to get to know. I can hold your hand universally, for this moment, I can share your pain and reflect on how we move forward. “Yes, some goodbyes can be painful beyond words. But they are also transformative. They challenge us to let go, to grow, and to find strength in the silence. And in doing so, they reveal the quiet beauty of our own resilience—a beauty that no unanswered question or unresolved farewell can ever take away” (author unknown)
Am I wrong?
Hey, I’m a July cancer, kinda emotionally detached so hard for me to communicate my emotions. I feel I have a pure heart and soul because I always try and see the good in people and try to understand everyone’s point of view. I feel I’m a good listener, good at giving advice but not always listening to it myself. My breakup was pretty messy. It started out somewhat mutual but I think I just wanted him to be happy so I let him go even tho I still loved him. Then shortly after I started receiving hateful messages from his friends and he didn’t defend me in the slightest. Weird? Then it came to me going back to our apartment to get my belongings. He had his 2 friends and one of their girlfriends at my apartment waiting for me to get back to verbally harassing me and my family and they wouldn’t leave MY apartment and kept talking about me the whole time I was packing up my stuff. My ex didn’t say a single word the whole time. He just let his friends talk for him and say all this false shit about me and he sat there 2ft away from me and looked down and couldn’t even look at me because he knows he did so wrong. That’s where it left off and I’ve been no contact since. Am I valid for crashing out on his friends? Am I valid for hating him or am i crazy lol
Group me
Hi everyone. I just got out of a 2 year relationship. We lived together for 2 years as well and shared 2 cats and a dog. The last few months have been super toxic and unhealthy I can’t help to wonder if he’s talking bad about me. I also feel bad for all the pain I put him through. I made a groupchat on GroupMe so we can get together and talk. I need someone to talk to. Here’s the link if anyone would like to join https://groupme.com/join_group/106748972/KmRfFkGh
How do you get off the Couch?
It was a 5 year relationship so my nervous system is completely attached to him. How do you get the motivation and energy to want to do something… anything ? I feel like all I want to do is hide.
Still living together
Broke up with my ex two weeks ago now, he left me as he realised he saw me as a room-mate and not romantically which came as a total shock How am I supposed to not blame myself? My actions? He says he’s bored and just needs something new, but how do I not compare myself? Everytime I see him on his phone my brain immediately feels betrayed.
Girls support and friends
Hello everyone! I was broken up with at the start of November and when he left I realised I had no friends. The past few months have been the darkest and scariest months of my life and I have been leaning on my family very heavily. But some times you just want some girls. Would anyone be interested in becoming friends or maybe even being added to a group chat of some sort? We can help each other and be a bit of emotional support for each other xx
Missing him
We broke up on the 20th of march because they were dealing with mental issues and they blocked me on everything, I haven’t been able to sleep properly or eat properly without feeling sick. My eyes burn from crying all day, I’ve developed a cold from crying and I’ve been feeling like am going to throw up half the time, Ive lost the motivation to do anything, Ive even lost the motivation to play games or get out of bed. All i want is for them to come back. All i keep dreaming of is them coming back to me, They were my absolute joy. And now they are gone.
I broke up with him but my heart hurts so badly
We had been together for nearly 2 years and I loved him we lived together and have a cat. He never cheated physically but emotionally was abusive and cheated online he said he didn’t like kissing or more really so we didn’t have a relationship that made me feel secure or loved but I still want him in my life and I feel like my heart has been ripped out even though I did it and know it’s for the best. Advice please ♥️
My Top Break Up Resources
The book “Its Called a Break Up Because it’s Broken”. The literal ONLY thing that kept me sane for the first 6 months after the break up…. The “Just Break Up” podcast. It’s therapeutic and affirming relationship advice, where listeners can write in about their problems. The other thing that kept me sane haha.
Will he reach out?
I had a really rocky situationship type thing with a guy last year and I am struggling to let go of the anger that I am holding onto based upon his actions. It was me that stopped contacting him around Christmas time but I can’t stop hoping that he will reach out to me. I can’t contact him as I’m blocked on socials and I have deleted his number so I physically can’t contact him and it is only making things worse as I’m just wondering everyday if he will reach out! Do they come back?
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