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Missing them
Me and ex recently broke up- he advised he’s going to try and do no contact, he’s been in Miami and traveling following new people, other women, and I’m crushed. He was so loving and so affectionate, pros - affection, constant gifts, what felt like support such as saying things like he will always be there for me and my kids, intimacy. Cons- cheated, when we started dating I didn’t know but he was in a long distance relationship, controlling, didn’t want me to go out with friends, made comments like nobody is going to want you with 4 Hispanic kids with different men, broke my ring doorbell off my house, broke my phone. I’m in therapy, on medication, I am very successful in my career so very self sufficient, I would say I am attractive, but I feel so low!! I would love to hear from someone who is further along in their healing journey from an abusive relationship. My hyper fixation is I’ll never move on or feel those high of emotions
Taking it day by day
Dated my best friend for 1 year and 3 months. Got engaged at the 1 year mark. Things started going backwards very fast from the engagement. She first postponed the wedding, then withdrew the engagement and then finally broke up with me just over a month ago. She started using words like “she’s loosing her identity” and “she doesn’t feel safe around me”. The more I wanted to chat about these things with her the more she just withdrew. Lil bit over a month since the breakup and missing my best friend tremendously. Connections like that don’t come around often. Think the thing that hurts the most is that this is the first and only person i wanted to commit my life to and they just ended up discarding of me.
Seeking advice
Me and this girl have been together for 6 months after I was in a traumatic life with my mom after my dad left when I was 4 we did good until the overthinking and me thinking she is everyone else interfered and the last night before she ended it to say I need to be better and work on me for one month I logged into her snap and she was dancing with her friends and a guy she wasn’t with I seen and got insecure and called her and tried to see if she was okay she asked for me to wait until she got home I called her friends who hate me on her account because of what I saw and they said that I need to leave her alone and their saying if she talks to me they won’t be her friends because of mine and her situation being toxic so they said to leave me and she wants me to get better but snaps guys and says she don’t text them or see them so it shouldn’t matter because we’re not together so I got over it I just want her back what steps can I take to remember to breathe and not be toxic considering my situation it’s so much I forget and take it out how can I trust someone
Need advice please
I’ll try make this quick but me and my ex boyfriend now had been speaking for a year and had been together since december and at the start he cheated on me but we worked on that, we have broken up a few times for certain reasons as him hurting me etc. We broke up the other day as apparently i do not pay any interest at all to anything he likes,which i do, and now he is moving across the world. I knew from the start that he could have potentially been moving but it’s now for definite and I was meant to go with him but now we aren’t really speaking. He wants to stay in contact for a while whilst we both get over the breakup but it’s just hurting me even more
Pls give me some advice
my boyfriend and i have been together for a little over 2 years our relationship was so good in the beginning and we were both so in love then i found out he cheated on me and a lot changed i have fought him lying to me and lusting over girls so many times i cried in his arms about how badly he hurt me and he promised he would change but then did it again this hurt me so much and it made me such an angry person all the time we always fight over things because i can’t trust him no matter how hard i tried to i just couldn’t do it because i was too jealous and worried i have become so insecure about myself and i lost a lot of my friends he is the only person i talk to and i still love him so much despite everything he did a few months later i haven’t fought him doing anything bad but it just feels like he doesn’t care about me as much and i don’t feel like im getting treated how i wanted to be treated so i told him that and he ghosted me then i ended up going to his house and we were on good terms again but then we got into a huge argument a few days ago and he hasn’t responded to me for 5 days i can’t stop crying because i told him i wanted to end things because i wasn’t happy with how i was being treated but now i regret it and im so sad but i told him and he won’t even respond i genuinely don’t know what to do i love him so much.
I still love him though
I have been talking to this boy for over 15 months and I will say everything happened fast. After a while I got attached to him and began tolerating and forgiving a lot of his bad character. He apologizes always (repeats the same thing over again) and, for a while now I have known that he is in a relationship with another girl I know, like and respect a lot. I can’t take it anymore and, I’m ready to let go of him. He brings more uncertainty to me than peace, and although he can be nice and kind I don’t feel loved by him, not respected, I don’t admire how he chooses to live his life generally and instead of waiting for him to change and I’m ready to let him go to allow myself be loved by myself and by someone else who sees me as “enough “. Day 1 of letting go of what’s not mine.
Vent
So was seeing her for almost a year. Friends and family told me she was using me I didn’t want to see it. Two weekends ago after planning a vacation and buying more concert tickets told were down and ghosted. Got her to see me Saturday and she said we’re still exclusive in a relationship. Only reason she met me I think was the purse I promised her. I gave her a different one and she got mad. Sunday night argument over the purse and don. I did give her money for vacation Saturday as well. I’m m so stupid and need to not give her any space on my head.
Day one of No Contact #trauma bond
We have been together for 3 years. Give or take. He has cheated on me, 7 times. Give or take. He has lied countless times. He has over 25g worth of debt from cars and food and alcohol. He goes to booby bars for fun. He accidentally OD when he was given laced Coke and they 5150 him for an attempt. I call him to check on him in the facility and he won’t take my calls, straight up tells them to hang up on me. Whatever I got a new phone number, I will be moving forward from now on so thank you. Day 1 🐍❤️
Bbsf
So basically I have this friend and he used to like I used to like him then we stopped talking for a bit then recently got back cool during this time we both liked each other still more him then me honestly and he was inviting me to his house ivnviting em to do things with him like watch movies and all that stuff anyway fast forward this girl I hated since fifth grade started liking him then they started calling and he slowly stopped calling me then now recently we don’t talk at all we still share locations but I blocked him and her and don’t socialize with them and don’t plan on it.
I’m done
So I’ve been with my bf for almost two years and he still refers to me as his hangout buddy. Even though he lives with me, I have not met his family or friends. I’m not invited to his family gatherings or asked to accompany him to family events. He states that he’ll never love anyone like his exwife so I’ve accepted it. If I ever talk about the future together or make plans, he shuts me down and says we only need to live for the day. I’m 61 years old want to make future plans with a partner who loves me. I told him that we’re done, but then he always says what I want to hear and we’re back together. I’m wasting more and more time and wasting my life.
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