Seeking advice

Me and this girl have been together for 6 months after I was in a traumatic life with my mom after my dad left when I was 4 we did good until the overthinking and me thinking she is everyone else interfered and the last night before she ended it to say I need to be better and work on me for one month I logged into her snap and she was dancing with her friends and a guy she wasn’t with I seen and got insecure and called her and tried to see if she was okay she asked for me to wait until she got home I called her friends who hate me on her account because of what I saw and they said that I need to leave her alone and their saying if she talks to me they won’t be her friends because of mine and her situation being toxic so they said to leave me and she wants me to get better but snaps guys and says she don’t text them or see them so it shouldn’t matter because we’re not together so I got over it I just want her back what steps can I take to remember to breathe and not be toxic considering my situation it’s so much I forget and take it out how can I trust someone

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gummytransportation614mo ago

firstly its amazing that you are self aware. the first thing you can do is pause before you react to something that may have happened. for example, when you log into her snap realize that the action you did caused her to show you lack trust in her. would you want things to be said or happen to you? communicate how you feel and why you feel it, instead of being toxic and lashing out. you can journal or exercise to help your thoughts. always apologize and let her know that you are trying your best to change for her. it wont happen overnight. it doesnt matter if you arent together, what hurts you hurts you and its important to realize why it does and what you can do to take your mind off of it. maybe you should have a sit down with her.

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