I’m done

So I’ve been with my bf for almost two years and he still refers to me as his hangout buddy. Even though he lives with me, I have not met his family or friends. I’m not invited to his family gatherings or asked to accompany him to family events. He states that he’ll never love anyone like his exwife so I’ve accepted it. If I ever talk about the future together or make plans, he shuts me down and says we only need to live for the day. I’m 61 years old want to make future plans with a partner who loves me. I told him that we’re done, but then he always says what I want to hear and we’re back together. I’m wasting more and more time and wasting my life.