Prioritize your relationship

I lost my relationship because I was too focused on my job and setting us up for a future. I wasn’t there for her and couldn’t take the stress so I asked her to move out. We stayed in contact for 2 months but I wasn’t there for her because I couldn’t balance my career and not having her there for me when I got home. She says she’s over me now and moved on with someone new. It’s been a week since no contact. My work is now slipping because I have no drive to work without her. Everything I was working for feels like it was for nothing.

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consciousstartx5ji13mo ago

I’m in very similar position, I mean that’s exactly what my ex did: prioritising his career and constantly ignoring my needs of attention and clarity, we also were in contact for 2 months after splitting out was brought first before officially broke up. I just didn’t move on yet and even though I was talking to someone new, it didn’t go anywhere, because I still love my ex partner even though his inactions hurt me. You know, if she moved on in 2 months already no matter what you’ve done it just says a lot. You was working for common future with her, now take it like you was working towards common future with someone else, someone you didn’t meet yet. You’ve learned your lesson and if your ex doesn’t want to see you did it - your next will ❤️

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interestingstudio7h713mo ago

I get it, I really don’t blame her for wanting to move on. Words no matter what was said just didn’t carry any meaning anymore. She had to love herself and put herself first. I just really worry because even though she’s with another guy I don’t know him and I know what she deserves. I still feel so protective even though we are no longer in contact. I just failed to show her in time and show up for her when she needed me the most, when it mattered the most. I hope that he’s everything she ever wanted and more. I really do. It does say a lot in how she chose to move on and the amount of the she was able to. We moved to a new place that was more affordable so we could get married and jumpstart our lives and family together. Now she’s with a guy who is the COMPLETE opposite of me. I’m in my early 30s and she’s 28. This guy is 21!

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interestingstudio7h713mo ago

Hence my concern. I know my goals in life haven’t changed and even so dating someone that young makes me think either she’s given up on her goal to have a marriage and family which makes me blame myself for everything I’ve put her through OR we never really shared that goal. I just need to stop worrying and focus on me. Either way now I’m alone with just my career and nothing to show for it….. Downloading a break up app and venting to strangers….. life is weird

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