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I need help

About a month ago, I got out of a mess relationship where I never really got appreciated. Then about a week ago, I met this girl that blew my mind and won over my heart in an instant. We talked really good for this week and we had common morals and beliefs, and it seemed that she was perfect for me. But today her brother told her that I was still talking to my ex, which wasn’t true. And she has a past relationship which the guy was still talking to his ex. I’m not sure if that is what is going on or if she just didn’t want to be with me, or even if her brother didn’t want to accept me. This literally happened to me an hour ago and I can’t stop overthinking or crying. I know it was only a week of talking but I was so attached to this girl that it’s killing me. She told me that she wanted to be alone and she feels iffy about our relationship, I need a girl to give me some advice about this situation because I don’t want to give up on this yet. I really want to call her and text her but idk if she just wants to get over me or something else. Please help me

Together after breakup

I am curious to read your experiences on getting back together after breakup? Did it work out at the end? If not, do you know why? How much time is needed between breakup and getting back together? What did you do differently the second time around to make it work? How to deal with forgiveness or trust issues? All that you know. Thank you!

Idk

I’m hurt, like truly but today is his birthday idk if I should wish him cause he did the same for me, but after everything that went down idk if it’s worth it. I don’t think I should have any sort of contact with him until I am fully healed but a part of me really wants to wish him happy birthday

Idk

The break up itself at the time was painful but bare-able seeing the cause was the long distance, although memories would kick in from time to time I was fine. What hurt me was that this summer someone I trusted that I called my “friend” went behind my back and is now dating him. Them dating isn’t the hurtful part, the hurtful part is that when everything went down I was humiliated, I don’t think I deserve it, I mean what could I have possibly done to deserve it ? Everyone would ask me about my relationship with him, I wouldn’t talk of it cause it wasn’t anyone’s business plus for respect of our relationship I would only talk good about him and our relationship. Everything went to shit when I found out not only did he talk shit about me but the person I considered my friend didn’t consider me to the point she told everyone we aren’t even friends. I just wish that she could’ve told me sooner and I would’ve just accepted it and that he didn’t go around making me look like a monster and acting like a literal angel when we broke up. Now I have to deal with not only pain but shame.

Do men ever reconcile with their wife after they decided on a separation/divorce?

Marriage ended

My husband of almost 15 years decided after an interaction we had how I didn’t feel emotional connection or acknowledgement from him lately. He got defensive that I approached him with these feelings which led to an argument of he has been unhappy for the last 5 years and worries about his mental health and would like a separation. I tried to tell him I didn’t want the separation and I felt our relationship and our daughter was worth doing everything possible to turn this around. He has continued with wanting the separation with his plan to lead to a divorce and moves out on October 1st. I struggle because the two reasons he gave I can not control or “fix” I have for the last 2 months been working on myself - quit drinking, managing my emotions reflecting and working on the things that I did that contributed to his feelings in hopes to save it. However I feel in his mind because he has so much support in his life that have gone the divorce route that this he sees as a better option. He is keeping “peace” while we live under the same roof but coming and going as he pleases without being honest with me or my daughter what/where he is going. Part of me thinks things will be better for me when he moves out because maybe I will start to feel relief. But the other part feels I have lost him for good when that day comes. I just feel sad because if he was so unhappy in our marriage and worried about his mental health he would reach out for help. I can make him be happy. I can’t make him want to seek help. But I thought I would have been worth the effort. I feel like I am causing myself more damage emotionally to be hopeful of a reconnection and recommitment after time apart when he makes it clear he wants this separation and divorce. I have to give it to him because I can’t change the way he feels.

Idk

Never done anything like this before usually I’ll drink a lot or make other mistakes that just prolongs the pain. I’m told to keep my mind busy and don’t contact and everything will be ok. Most of the time it feels impossible. I’ll humiliate myself by I guess begging. Losing this girl feels like losing myself.

What do i do

He broke up with me bc his mom didnt like me bc she cought us sneaking out tg and she wanted us to break up and he did after a week or two of not listening to her and he told me after highschools over he would come back and he would be waiting for me and i said ok and he told me he loved me. Two days later i get a notification (im logged into his insta) and hes texting this girl saying hey ma you mad pretty and I confronted him but he blocked me and took me off his account and everyibe but his bsf blocked me so i texted his bsf and my ex went on his bsfs phone and started saying “you dont control me” when all i was doing is asking whats going on which is crazy because either waited for him and i told him id wait for him however long it takes but he coupdnt even wait more then 2 days he also doesnt have his phone so he uses his friends phone so i send him tiktoks and other stuff on snapchat but what should i do?

How can you gain your appetite back from the breakup?

it’s not even that i don’t want to, it’s that I have a very un easy, knots in my stomach when I just can’t eat. Even me trying to move on and distract myself texting other people, It’s not getting any better only worse.

How can I stop loving her?

We met in 2021, when my best friend and hers started dating. We quickly became friends, and less than one year later I asked her out. She was perfec: beautiful, funny, clever and a really good person. I’m not the one saying it: she always had plenty of guys around her before, during and even now, but I never really cared: we loved each other, we were really living the dream, she was the best thing that has ever happened to me and I truly believe it was the same for her. In October 2023, however, I moved for university. Not being able to be there for each other when one of us needed it really broke us. We weren’t happy anymore, even though we really tried to make Love win. We couldn’t do it, it was too painful for the both of us. In June, after almost 2 years, we broke up. We stayed in touch, right now I’m back in town and we still hang out with the same people, but I can’t really help but still loving the girl that has brought me to life, and that I had to let go just because otherwise we’d hurt each other too much. How can I forget her?