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wobblysettingu70
20mo ago
Seeking Advice

How can I stop loving her?

We met in 2021, when my best friend and hers started dating. We quickly became friends, and less than one year later I asked her out. She was perfec: beautiful, funny, clever and a really good person. I’m not the one saying it: she always had plenty of guys around her before, during and even now, but I never really cared: we loved each other, we were really living the dream, she was the best thing that has ever happened to me and I truly believe it was the same for her. In October 2023, however, I moved for university. Not being able to be there for each other when one of us needed it really broke us. We weren’t happy anymore, even though we really tried to make Love win. We couldn’t do it, it was too painful for the both of us. In June, after almost 2 years, we broke up. We stayed in touch, right now I’m back in town and we still hang out with the same people, but I can’t really help but still loving the girl that has brought me to life, and that I had to let go just because otherwise we’d hurt each other too much. How can I forget her?

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Anonymous20mo ago

Honestly, time. I had a similar situation happen with my first GF. Took about 5 years to get over her. But that’s because I wasn’t dating and was just wallowing in my own self pity, and building the relationship to more than it was. I would advise you to understand that chemically your brain is making you want to see / be with her. And way to help that is to meet new people, not necessarily date them, but just realize there are other great people out there and maybe at first just expand your friend group

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sandyfix85qmphq20mo ago

This is a normal part of breakups. It helps to not look at their social media or pictures of them often. If your friends that know her talk to you about her a lot, ask them to not share info about her. You will eventually heal. If it’s for sure over with her, then work on making the other areas of your life strong (career, health, friends, family) so that you’re ready for when the next person comes along. One day you’ll realize you don’t think about her anymore, and you have a new life and she’s not a part of it. That day will come for you eventually and you won’t even realize it at first.

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