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It’s been 30 days no contact
I’ve been fighting to not call him after going no contact for 30 days now. He ended things with me after nearly 2 years and after we broke up I’ve always been the one contacting him. He has said mean things post break up that hurts so much. We were each others first love and he made sure to let me know that I’m his first love but not his forever. He says we needed to break up because we are too different in lifestyle, communication style, and love languages. He seems so checked out already and never has he tried fighting for us/me. He even told me I can’t be the only one fighting. It hurts so much. We’ve done so much already together. Cared for each other when we got sick, consoled one another when we were having family issues, we have traveled together both locally and internationally. We’ve met each other‘s parents, and we’ve talked about a future together. None of that was enough to make him hold onto us ? Even in the discussion of contacting me post break up he says even when he has the urge, he’ll reach out to friends instead . And the chances of us healing and getting back in the future to him is unlikely . It hurts so much because he told me I was the love of his life. He said our love was unwavering. How could he be so cold now? Even tho he claims he’ll never, do you see a possibility of him reaching out? Is it not advisable to contact him after 30 days no contact because it’ll be me reaching out again? People say exes always reach out eventually is that true?I trusted him with all my heart. He was the last person who was suppose to hurt me. How could he be this cold even to someone he once loved. I don’t understand. I still love him and wish he’d change his mind.
I want to stop feeling like this
He broke up with me two weeks ago and instantly started talking with somebody else. They went to hoco together like three days ago and my friends were telling me they were being freaky the whole time and they were with eachother the whole night and then after the dance ended he blocked me on everything and idk why I still love him and miss him and I hate myself for that. I also hate myself for literly texting him on fucking life 360 a couple hours ago practically begging for him to give me the reason why he blocked me but ofc he jus left me on seen with no response and it hurts cause I just want a reason. I wish my brain just never worked cause now I'm having heartache again and it's killing me. Why do I care so much for somone who could give less of a fuck about me :/ how can I get over him when my mind literly thinks about him 24/7
I don’t know how to do this…
I have been in a unhealthy relationship since 2017. We have been on and off but the entirety of these years has been dedicated and focused on him and us. Yesterday was different than all the other times and there is a deep knowing it is over but I do not know how to let go, even though it brought so much pain. I tried for repair or gentle closure yet with accountability but was met with anger, frustration and gaslighting, which gets in my head and I carry the weight with me not knowing how to be kind to myself. Even in the breaking up it reflects how different we process. I don’t know how to do this… this letting go and I don’t know how to sit with the shame and feeling hated.
first ever breakup
I just got broken up with yesterday and I feel my world crushed. I’m a freshmen and I’ve been with this boy for 6 months. That may not seem like alot but he was my first everything he was best friend and honestly my only friend. I gave my all to him and I feel so alone now. He told me he was leaving me for his mental health , idk if I believe that I don’t know how people survive breakups I don’t feel alive and I can’t stop feeling nauseous idk what to do with myself and I’m having thoughts I promised myself I’d never have. I really didn’t understand how people can be so obsessed over their ex but now I get it. I’m seeking advice and older sisters to help me get through this🫤
Hopeless
This is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. Something about the dynamic between me and him has made this the hardest relationship to let go of. I truly don’t know how to accept it. But it’s clear it will never work… he is never coming back and I have no control over it. You can’t make someone love you. I’m day 3 no contact now, after a humiliating begging session…. I am also 2 1/2 months post break up and still feel as completely crushed as day 1… this is insane.
So so lost
It’s been 2 1/2 months since he broke up with me. I still can’t accept it. I can’t tell if it’s my ego, or the fact that I really truly feel like I lost my best life and love. Or definitely both. We were together for 2 years. Lived together, merged families, built a life that fulfilled me. But clearly didn’t fulfill him. I can’t understand it. I can’t accept it. I desperately want it back but logically I know I have no choice. 3 days ago we hung out and I lost it. I begged. It was pitiful and embarrassing. But at the same time a relief to get my feelings out. I left with my tail tucked and haven’t contacted him since. I feel like texting him to apologize for my behavior, but the motive for that is probably just to make myself look more redeeming in his eyes. Ugh, I just feel so desperate. I can’t seem to find it in me to move on and let go. I have had a literal pit in my stomach that only goes away when we are in contact. Why is this so hard to accept? Do you advise I stay in no contact? I know the answer… I hate this so much. Hardest thing I’ve ever been through.
Idk what to feel
I recently got dumped and i didn’t take it well, this pass month i notice he was different acting different timed me on how long we can hold each other and kiss each other which he claimed it was for his religion and thats why. Still supper weird and random we did that the whole time dating with no timer, but my relationship wasnt the greatest entertained many women also cheated and i stayed thinking i loved this man and he wouldn’t ever break up with me and he did even though I let him do whatever, I just really wanted him to stay even though ik it not the best for me I just hope to get through this.
So done
He left me after i had just delivered our new daughter…….. And started dating a new chick 2 days later
Midlife crisis
Curious if any of you have survived your spouses midlife crisis. How did you come out on the other side? How long did it last? What were the signs and symptoms. Did you separate during this time. Was there infidelity? Did you communicate during the crisis?
Almost one year
we almost made it to one year. i spent so much time, literally over a days worth of hours recording me reading a book for them, for our anniversary gift. i thought things would change but they didn’t. they’re a workaholic and it’s just not gonna stop. it’s unfortunate because i still love care and cherish them. i miss them so fucking much, yet we’ve had barely no contact for four months. idk why it’s taking this long to hit me, but here i am ig. im sorry if u see this, but i think you’re too busy to have time to process this or come to something like this anyway. It my first relationship like this and it hurts so bad and i feel numb. i hate it.
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