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Confused
My ex of 7.5 years left me for someone else be just met. We broke up and went no contact a week ago and I see today that he viewed my LinkedIn. I’m so confused. Does he regret leaving? Does he miss me? Are they having issues. I’m still so mad at him but rn I do still hope he comes back.
Broke up with me on New Year’s Eve
A girl I was dating for a few months was treating me so well, doing nice things for me all the time and making an effort. I got drunk a few times when she wasn’t even with me and sent a few messages to her that she said were “off”, after that I didn’t see her for 3 weeks straight. We then went away for a night for my birthday and I gave her a ring to make her happy. She loved it. She then came to my parents place on Christmas Day and collected presents I had bought her and her son and seemed a bit off. Then a few days later on New Year’s Eve she broke up with myself by text when she was on holiday saying that her son was struggling with the previous breakup and that she needed to focus on him. I did react angrily by text and now she’s blocked me. This absolutely broke me and still does but it seemed she still had ties to her ex who I actually knew as a person when I was younger. I believe she never wanted him to find out about us and she decided to pull the trigger on me. Life is tough…
4.5 years together . 6 month marriage
We had a great Christmas vacation. Then New Year’s Day he wants to move out breakup and divorce. Saying it’s not going to workout. We had incredible compatibility. I was his first love. We had so much fun. Never fought. Today he text saying only wanted to communicate if important. No more texting. That just wrecked me so bad. It’s so stressful at work. I’m hanging by a thread. Emotions are wrecked.
I don’t know why
My boyfriend ghosted me we have been together one year and now is treating me as I don’t exist he broke up with me that I tried everything to make peace but I am only chasing a person that doesn’t want me. I have been through a lot of breakup even a divorce in the past so I feel completely stupid and ashamed of chasing him and trying everything for a person that doesn’t care about our relationship. I don’t even know what the problem really is I just know that he drastically changed and he has been completely isolated and I am so much hurt
My wife betrayed me.
We are together 12yrs and gos blessed us with 3 beautiful daughters.7,9,&12 yrs. On the 1st of December when I was randomly looking at her phone I came across a bunch of messages on Snapchat, where I saw more than 2 months she is cheating on me. And she cheated a multiple me nearly 10times. She told me she was going to do the Xmas Shopping. One time she said she is going for coffee with her work friends. But in reality, she carry her lover spurned in my car and park anywhere and have sex. Some days she had sex before coming home from work and come quietly to sleep beside me as if nothing happened. There was so much detailed dirty messages where they kept talking what did, how good was it….. wish do to something more crazy next….. like a lot. Praising each other body parts and all. After the confrontation, she says to me she is sorry and it a mistake, she depressed and got carried away after few drinks. I would convince myself if it was 1 time mistake. But what to you call when it’s been done repeatedly and fully planned. I don’t know what to do. Help please.
Letting go
Outta the blue I met the love of my life, everything flowed effortlessly and brought out a side of unconditional love I never knew existed. Despite her flaws just her presence brought me happiness. Sometimes you have to learn to let go though and walk away for your own well being. Her drinking issue had gotten worse and she had pushed away everyone in her life that cared about her. Both me and her best friend. Her parents weren’t loving or supportive people. As much as I wanted to help her I couldn’t, and only dragged myself into a dark place. I just hope she gets the helps she needs
Still need to see him every week
So he dumped me and said I am not focus on him… I feel desperate and in emotional pain. But I have to see him every week for work. What should I do ?
Asked them if they want me in their life.
It’s been a rough go but confusing. I broke it off back in October because lack of communication and another unfortunate situation where they should have shown up for me but didn’t. Since then, we have taken turns in reaching out weekly or biweekly but no real conversation. Just “good mornings or how are you”. When i try to engage in the conversation, they disengage. I was supposed to see them in December and they ended up having work. Since then, i have just felt they dont want contact with me and i have been asking but the response is always ambiguous. I also noticed they turned off their read receipts. Finally on the 26, i asked in a voice clip “do you want me in your life” and explained the confusion of feeling confident one day and then not being sure if the other person even wanted to speak to me. I hadn’t heard back so nudged again asking for a response whether good or bad. They replied saying they were away but would contact me once back. They then said they listened to my clip twice and was pondering. I am sitting on my hands at this point and would be lying to say i worry they just disappear. I guess i want some closure and them being clear with me would answer a lot and make me feel comfortable to just go.
I feel so lost and alone
So all my relationships have ended bad. I’ve been cheated on 11 times by all 11 girls I’ve dated. I told myself that I’m done dating. But then ima call her Nichole came into my life. She was amazing I feel in love with her so fast we talked 24/7 for 3 years. We got married had a son and started a life together. She ended things at the beginning of the month. I have no clue how to much on. She’s moving on just fine like nothing even happened and I just don’t know how. I can’t do no contact because we have a kid together I can’t not see her because she picks him up every weekend. Why do I feel the way I feel? Today she picked up our son and I later texted her is it hard for you to see me? She said it is and I asked do you hope the love comes back? And she said maybe but I am happier on my own. That hurt so much it’s been a month and she’s already moved on like the past 3 years ment nothing to her. Why am I so stuck why can’t I just move on like I’m even at the point of wanting to relinquish father right just so I don’t have to see her anymore this is the hardest break up I’ve ever gone through and there was no cheating every time I see her I want to hug and kiss her but she doesn’t even let me touch her how long until I feel normal again how long until I feel like myself again will I ever recover or is this just who I am? All I think about is I’m gonna be the guy that wishes he was with his ex I saw an episode of family guy and it was a dad and son at a mall the son said to the dad I wish I was with mom and the dad said me too why is that gonna be me I’ve lost everything I lost my home my stuff my wife my son my job my car I’ve lost it all and now I have to rebuild my entire life but what am I rebuilding it for am I rebuilding it for myself if so I don’t want to I don’t want to get my own place I don’t want to get more stuff I just want her I just want her back in my life but that won’t ever happen and that breaks my heart even more I have so many questions and no one to talk to about this I hate my life I just want to be home in bed with her one last time holding on and never letting go but she doesn’t want me because she sees me as a disappointment and that hurts even more what do I do
And so it’s over soon after beginning!
It had been 6 years since I’d dated anyone. And 12 years since I’d fallen in love! We met randomly in the city and he was so confident. I wanted to stay single. He perused me til I gave in! Intimacy was selfish on his side at first. I taught him how to be amazing which he always knew, he just needed to be open with me. He never really trusted me with his heart. I fell for him quickly but not really for him but who I wanted to be in love with. I think he always knew this and resented it! And so he’d abuse me. With name calling, gas lighting and eventually physical abuse. It couldn’t continue. We only lasted 4 months. Yet in the final month he talked about proposing! We were co-dependant from the start. How do I learn to be alone again?
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