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Recently broke up
We broke up in the start of this year. She said she was tired in the relationship. I tried to work on myself for so long. Started surprising her more often, drove hours and hours to see her parents three weekends in a row. And last weekend she said she still feels tired and nothing changed. I feel like nothing was ever enough. Also her family was against me from the start. We broke up Friday. Saturday she texts me she misses me so much. I reply I miss you too, and she says: its better to not have any contact anymore, because it hurts too much. I’m feeling so empty
No contact
Day 1 💔
He answered the phone…im torn
I called him and he answered the phone clearly with a woman. He said its never going to be the same and said he needs to “get back to what he was doing”. And hung up. My heart is shattered… its only been 2 months. I feel like im the only one grieving while hes out doing God knows what. It makes me wonder how replaceable i really am. Ill never reach out again. guys please understand this, i know heartbreak is painful but if your ex has not reached out, do not initiate contact. I feel so much worse now
Moved my entire life for this shitbag human
I moved my entire life six states away. Waited 8 months to bring my son up, visiting back and forth twice a month until we knew it was right. He promised me the world. Then took it all away. We have been back in our home state with no stability, no real family, no job, for two weeks now. Two months ago he wrote me a letter saying he wants a thousand more years with me. Then he has a mental breakdown. Treated my young son like he didn’t even exist. I took care of his sick mom for pennies. He never backed anything up with actions. I’m almost 40. I’m starting all over again. Again. I’m sick to my stomach over it. Walked on eggshells for a year with him. Lost 50 pounds. He lives off of his mommy’s money and smokes weed all day and doesn’t have a job. Red flags everywhere that I ignored because I believed every lying word out of his mouth. He says he’s shut down and has no bandwidth. He completely disrupted and destroyed me and my son’s lives. Starting over sucks. I am so mentally drained and sad.
Personality disorder
recently went through a very painful breakup with my partner, who has been diagnosed with paranoid personality disorder (PPD). Throughout our relationship, I always tried to be understanding and supportive, but it was incredibly challenging. He often reacted to situations with mistrust, anger, and accusations, which made open communication very difficult. I admit I made mistakes, including lying to him a few times, which caused him to withdraw emotionally.This dynamic was present throughout our entire relationship. He would often put me down, seek out conflict, and insist on being right, even at my expense. I tried to fix things by giving even more of myself, but this led to me neglecting my own needs and feeling drained. In the end, I started standing up for myself, which he didn’t take well. He began to accuse me of sabotaging the relationship and blamed me for everything going wrong. I’m struggling to accept how things ended, especially knowing that he now likely resents me. I still care for him deeply, but I also realize that our dynamic became toxic for both of us. I feel torn between sadness, guilt, and the need to heal.
How to avoid pushing
I am struggling to find the right thing to do. My husband of 15 years decided to leave. Said he wants a separation and told our 10 year old daughter he wants a divorce. He moved out October and he has yet to file anything he came to an agreement to pay an amount for child support but just said last week that we have to revise it because he could barely pay his bills and rent of his new place. (He makes triple of what I make in a month) I have more responsibilities with our daughter. He is to have her every other weekend but she is wanting to spend less time with him and wants to be home with me. I’m struggling myself to make ends meet. My family has been helping me out since he moved out. I have hopes in reconciliation but I feel if he continues to push to pay less in child support I will have no option to reach out to a lawyer/mediation on how to proceed. If I do this I don’t know how to calmly communicate this to him and I really don’t want to push him further away. He is well aware of my financial responsibilities as I shared with him everything he left me with. I also just don’t understand how a husband can walk out and do this to his family.
how do i get over it?
my ex and I can't leave each other alone we have such a back and forth at the moment sometimes we are together and then we break up again but I can't leave him I don't want to be without him I don't know what to do if I'm honest he's always trying to change and I notice that he's trying but because of his past it's difficult for him and in the end we always end up at the same point. A lot has happened between us which always comes back up and you can't undo it but I don't want to lose him because of it, it feels like he is perfect for me
Im stuck
She won’t stop reaching out to me.She broke it off on Halloween we had plans to watch ghostbusters and have a fun night.It turned into a long night of drinking.But she won’t stop reaching out she says she cares but she won’t stop talking to this guy who caused us lots of troubles in our relationship.You could even say this person has caused me trauma and anxiety.Im forced to just let go of what once was but I’m slowly losing myself.Im doing things I’m not proud of.Im drinking everyday,I have a very unhealthy tolerance to alcohol,I’m pushing everyone away.I even am pushing away God the one person who was there with me through the start.I wish someone would just sit with me and tell me everything will be okay.Maybe just once
he won’t stop reaching out
we broke up 9 months ago, it was his decision even tho it should have been mine. he went through a lot of emotional issues, depression, anxiety, bpd, psychosis. i was always there supporting him because we were also best friends for more than 8 years. he made me fall in love with him, just for him to be the worst boyfriend ever. he was never there for me when i needed it, had lots of female friends which he spoke to daily, lots of emotional abuse and gaslighting. he also does cocaine while i don’t do any drugs. i had another relationship a few months ago, but ended up breaking up with him because i could’t get over the previous one. lately this past two months he’s been calling and texting me, and i have agreed to see each other a few times. i know he still loves me but he isn’t emotionally capable of having a healthy relationship and i am totally broken because of that. i can’t accept the fact that we can’t be together and he still does things that hurt me. i keep telling him to stop reaching out to me so i can forget him but he always ends up calling again and i keep falling. please help i don’t know what to do anymore
He sees no future with me
Four years ago my husband died from Covid and a friend of mine ( we were friends for over 20 years) helped me and came to my side. He broke up with his life partner and I was widowed and we began a relationship that turned into a situation ship. About 2 years in he told me he wants to continue living with his ex as a co parent but there was nothing going on ( they have two kids together) I was fine with that - last week he says he does not see a future with me he wants to devote his time and life to his kids. Not sure how to keep the friendship and move on. And never will be able to understand why someone I knew and trusted would sleep with me after my husband died then go back to his ex. I know I have to move on but it isn’t easy.
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