how do i get over it?

my ex and I can't leave each other alone we have such a back and forth at the moment sometimes we are together and then we break up again but I can't leave him I don't want to be without him I don't know what to do if I'm honest he's always trying to change and I notice that he's trying but because of his past it's difficult for him and in the end we always end up at the same point. A lot has happened between us which always comes back up and you can't undo it but I don't want to lose him because of it, it feels like he is perfect for me

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concernedestateg5s117mo ago

you need to tell yourself you aren’t losing him, he isn’t right for you at this moment and you need to give each other storage to grow separately

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sandyfix85qmphq16mo ago

Focus on you. Is this relationship and what has happened acceptable to you? Do you want the ups and downs to keep happening? What if life on your own is more peaceful?

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sandyfix85qmphq16mo ago

It sounds like you may be in a trauma bond with him. You also get chemically bonded with people over time. You need to go no contact in my opinion. I was in a similar situation… I didn’t want to experience the pain of fully losing him. But I ended things, blocked him on social media and have been in no contact ever sense. That desperation for it to work ended. I felt all the pain. And now I’m much much happier and can clearly see it wasn’t working for either of us.

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HaplessRomanticist7816mo ago

If he was perfect for you then you guys would be walking down the aisle honey. Is there abuse!?

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