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I was ready to change
I was ready to change for him beacuse I understood what all both of us did.But he lost faith and he can never trust me like he did. But how can he forget all those memories we had together we have beeen dating for years. Yes I hurt him but I genuinely loved him what about the love and loyalty??we talked about all of it and settled them several times both of us did mistakes but now I’m the only one being portrayed as the bad character..and it’s hurting me more..why can’t he just trust me??what if I really changed ..as days pass I’m starting to love him more rather than just moving but I know it’s never going to happen again because he genuinely hates me now..that one night ruined things..
Devastated
Hi feel horrendous. I ended things with him even though every bone in my body didn’t want to, and there felt like something was missing and idk what😭 and now I feel so heartbroken and just want to be with him, but I know I need to give it time as it’s only been 2 days
Hurt
I forgave this man for so much, he cheated on me twice and I still forgave him. He blamed my 5 year old for all our arguments because she’s ‘spoilt’ but she just doesn’t like him. (Red flag- she loves everyone) she is vile to him I’ve seen her spit kick punch and throw things at him which she has never done to me! He still lives with us as he has nowhere to go. I got him a dog when he first moved in nearly a year ago and he won’t take the dog with him. More stress. Found out I was pregnant and he went nuts in a bad way. Said he’d rather k*ll himself than have a baby with me- infront of my daughter on her 5th birthday last week. Not keeping the baby if that wasn’t clear. I am so stupid for still loving him, I’ve been sobbing for days and he doesn’t seem to care. After all I’ve done I’ve been nothing but good to him minus some arguments and bad reactions to his obvious infidelity. My question is Why do I love someone who is just disgusting? Why do I think so little of myself to allow this behaviour? Why am I jeopardising how my daughter sees me in the future for allowing this man to continue be having this way in my house? Why do I love a scumbag?
i feel lost
after trying to fix our relationship probably a hundred times i just couldn’t do it anymore. she didn’t change and she kept making the same mistakes over and over again and it always upset me. we talked about it we tried to change but for over a year i saw no results. she might be doing more to change now but i just can’t do it anymore. i can’t sit around getting hurt by her always and wait for her to be better.
I’m lost without her
A girl who I dated for 3 months, had an amazing time with, went away with me for my birthday and exchanged Christmas presents with decided to let me go on NYE by text because she wanted to focus on her son after he was struggling with the previous breakup. I swore at her by text that same evening when I was drunk and upset because I was hurting and now I’ve been blocked for 11 days with no contact. Does she hate me now? I want to write her a letter next week to explain that I don’t deal with rejection well because of my adoption. I just want her to know I was angry. Even if she doesn’t unblock me I want her to know I still care :(
Open wounds
I’m just venting but I guess any input could be beneficial I was in a relationship for 2 years. I loved/love this girl more than I’ve ever loved anyone in this way. During the 2 years we went long distance for a year. We started to have a lot of the same arguments because we both were insecure. It was the first long distance I’ve had so it was new to me and the first one for her as well. Anyways it was very new to me and I didn’t know how to handle my emotions. I became depressed and just sad all of the time when we were apart we would miss phone calls because of conflicting schedules. In the morning until the afternoon she was in school. We couldn’t call in the afternoon I was doing something or was about to be doing something I am a very active person so I was out of the house for a lot of the time so I would miss calls. We started to have arguments about it and when we would find a solution it would work for a week then it would be the same issue the next week. She broke up with me 4 months ago. I was getting through it by journaling therapy working out and reading. I had let go of the hope because we went no contact and I thought she hated me . Well she had to come to my house to get her belongings 2 weeks ago and it turned out she didn’t hate me I just convinced myself that she did. She also left so much hope for reconciliation in the future. Now I am going through the same heart break again after our very long conversation but this time it’s different because I know how she actually feels not what I created in my head she only had a year left is school and I don’t know if I should hold on to the hope she gave me or throw it away. Anyways this sucks a lot and I miss her and i know she misses me. I am very confused and all the self care that I do just gets met with thoughts or futures with her. I guess I’ll keep doing what I have been doing and working on myself. When we met she definitely noticed all the work that I have put in so that’s a plus I guess
Messing with my head?
We split after a really bad argument, I asked him to drive me to the airport 5 hours earlier than I had to be there, I got out the car didn’t say a word. Instantly regretted it, begged him to drive the 20 minutes back so we could fix things. He didn’t. Horrible messages exchanged between us both after that. Then when things had calmed down-He offered to help me start a new life abroad where he lives with his help as a friend & me staying with him, he changed his mind within 24 hours and I’m no longer welcome. He still messages me good morning and good night every day and checks in at least once throughout. But as ‘friends’ but still hasn’t put the offer of help back on the table. He’s started calling me by name instead of the usual ‘babe’ but says things like he needs me to know he’s thinking about me and my new profile pic is beautiful, he hopes I’m ok, have a good day all that kind of stuff. Is he just keeping me dangling or is he confused and going to change his mind? I’m soooo confused. Any thoughts gratefully received! x
idk
It's been a little over two months since he broke up with me and he already has a new girlfriend. Our year meant nothing to him. I feel terrible.
Break up
So my boyfriend of almost 2 years started acting weird last summer and at first I thought it was just because he was stressed with school and sports. (He plays baseball and fball and is an honor student) so I gave him his space fast forward a few months and we both ended up going to separate camps so we didn’t talk for three weeks and that was kind of our “break” but before he left for his camp we didn’t end on the best of terms.. fast forward after his camp he called me and told me all the things and stuff he did and was super nice. But what he didn’t know is while he was gone I almost moved and of course I would have told him sooner but I didn’t know for sure so I decided to keep it a secret. (We NEVER keep secrets from each other) so it was hard but once he came back from camp I filled him in on everything and I ended up not moving. Fast-forward a few weeks and he invites me on a family trip with his parents. After thinking about it for a few days I decided to go and I had a great time with him and his parents the day I got back from that trip was the day I had to leave for my camp so as soon as I got home, I called him while I was packing told him goodbye and we ended on good terms and he told me he would talk to me as soon as I was done with my camp fast-forward my camp. Everything was great. I had fun. I called him And he was just kind of acting like he didn’t really wanna talk. He was saying he was busy, so I was kind of mad about that, but I didn’t really care fast-forward quite a few months and everything was fine. It was just kind of off and his contact would go on and off sometimes I wouldn’t hear for him for days. Sometimes it be hours he’d read my messages and never respond back or say he was busy that day and have a bunch of lame excuses well fast-forward a week before my birthday, and he came over and ended up spending the weekend. We had a great time he got me flowers. It was very, very sweet. We celebrated my early birthday together and then on my real birthday he had football practice and so he called me after football practice after I begged him to call me and when we finally dig it on the car, he was making up a bunch of excuses, saying he was tired and he literally said that he didn’t wanna be on the call and he would rather be asleep so I hung up on himbecause I was pretty upset, but it was my birthday so I wasn’t gonna let it get me down and I just hung out with my friends instead well about the next day after my birthday he texted me good morning and I was just still kind of upset about what happened in the previous night so I didn’t respond back to him and I guess that got him upset because we didn’t talk for about a week after that and I was more upset by the fact that he didn’t call me or text me to make sure I was OK since we hadn’t talked for a week so by the end of the week, I decided to send him a breakup text because I knew I wouldn’t be able to break up with him overall and all my friends told me I should break up with him so I sent him a text and he never responded back to it and then after I texted him, I decided to text his mom because I had a really close relationship with his mom doing the whole relationship and so I just wanted her to hear what happened from me before he could say anything bad about me and she responded back almost immediately. She was sad but understood and told me that she still loved me and all this stuff and she was just very sweet about it fast-forward a few days and he never ever responded back to my message or call me or anything and he knew what happened he knew I broke up with him. He never said anything exactly a week after I sent him that write up text. He calls me at seven in the morning and basically was like I’m sorry I never texted you. I wanted to but like I just couldn’t. I was so busy and just like a bunch of excuses just like how it was in the relationship He’s like please take me back. I promise I’ll be better. I promise and I was like please don’t make Don’t make promises. You couldn’t keep while we were in a relationship and I just kind of shut him up and then I hung up on him fast-forward a few weeks and he kept calling me and he just kept staying very diligent and I finally answered his call and he was like I’ve really been working on myself like I want to try again and I ended up taking him back and not even a week. He was still doing the same stuff so I broke up with him for good. He asked if we could be friends. I said I don’t know if I can do that and proceeded to block him on everything help what should I do and did I make the right decision?
Heartbroken
My husband left me while I was seeking treatment for my mental health. Took my kids and everything from my house while I was in a hospital. I feel so stupid and angry but on the same hand desparately in love and wish everyday he would come back to me. I’ve even begged and pleaded. Yesterday told me he was hurt I was on a dating site and today has cut all communication with me
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