Asked them if they want me in their life.

It’s been a rough go but confusing. I broke it off back in October because lack of communication and another unfortunate situation where they should have shown up for me but didn’t. Since then, we have taken turns in reaching out weekly or biweekly but no real conversation. Just “good mornings or how are you”. When i try to engage in the conversation, they disengage. I was supposed to see them in December and they ended up having work. Since then, i have just felt they dont want contact with me and i have been asking but the response is always ambiguous. I also noticed they turned off their read receipts. Finally on the 26, i asked in a voice clip “do you want me in your life” and explained the confusion of feeling confident one day and then not being sure if the other person even wanted to speak to me. I hadn’t heard back so nudged again asking for a response whether good or bad. They replied saying they were away but would contact me once back. They then said they listened to my clip twice and was pondering. I am sitting on my hands at this point and would be lying to say i worry they just disappear. I guess i want some closure and them being clear with me would answer a lot and make me feel comfortable to just go.

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Jordan1116mo ago

I definitely understand. Me and my ex were talking for a but after we broke uo as well and then i just felt like she didnt want to talk any more. She had gone a full 8 hours either nothing and then when i told her ill just leave it it was “what are you talking about” and we argued and blew off really bad. Its been 4 days. Not a word said. I texted her mother this morning while at work and was hoping she’d respond but at the same time doing it because i need closure and that would help me as well. Honestly id say talk about it as much as you can. Let it out. Feel it. Sometimes no contact is the only closure we’ll get. The rest of what we want is going to have ti come from us sadly. Try to keep your mind occupied. Write a letter to her and rip it up or burn it. I burned mine. And it might take a few letters and thats ok. Just keep track on this app and keep trying to heal and focus on you. I hoped this helped in any way it could. Stay strong!

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