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How can you gain your appetite back from the breakup?
it’s not even that i don’t want to, it’s that I have a very un easy, knots in my stomach when I just can’t eat. Even me trying to move on and distract myself texting other people, It’s not getting any better only worse.
How can I stop loving her?
We met in 2021, when my best friend and hers started dating. We quickly became friends, and less than one year later I asked her out. She was perfec: beautiful, funny, clever and a really good person. I’m not the one saying it: she always had plenty of guys around her before, during and even now, but I never really cared: we loved each other, we were really living the dream, she was the best thing that has ever happened to me and I truly believe it was the same for her. In October 2023, however, I moved for university. Not being able to be there for each other when one of us needed it really broke us. We weren’t happy anymore, even though we really tried to make Love win. We couldn’t do it, it was too painful for the both of us. In June, after almost 2 years, we broke up. We stayed in touch, right now I’m back in town and we still hang out with the same people, but I can’t really help but still loving the girl that has brought me to life, and that I had to let go just because otherwise we’d hurt each other too much. How can I forget her?
am i toxic?
I met my boyfriend in july 2024 at first he was very caring he cries when i dont want to talk to him he chase me whenever i bring up break ups but now hes okay without me he prioritize his works and i get very jealous over that i always wanted him to be with me i dont want him to socialize with other people because i get used to him being with me all the time what should i do? hes suggesting that we need a cool off 😞
healthy breakup
I’m having a hard time lately because this guy I was seeing was having financial issues and decided to end our relationship. He is the first person to show me how much I deserve and love me so deeply. However, as his life got more complicated, he pulled away from me even more until eventually he couldn’t do it. He let go. And I’m having a really hard time because I would have stuck by him but he made the decision for both of us to end the relationship. I want to get back together but idk if his life will ever get better and when. I know time heals, but I don’t want to let him go. I just want to ask for support and advice I guess
Lost
I’m currently living with my ex. I have a one year old and a newborn baby. I have no car. No job. No family members who close to me and no money. He provides for me and my babies but he is not emotionally available. He never helps me with the kids and when he does it’s for a second and he feels like he that’s good enough. He never tried to fix the relationship, just always blames me for everything. We don’t even talk, we haven’t talked for months at that. I know the love was lost many months ago. I just feel worthless and not seen. He thinks being a mom is easy and his job is harder than mine. I never would compare our duties but I would appreciate the help especially if I just had our baby. I should be resting meanwhile I’m taking care of both babies and feeding them while ignoring my own take care needs. All he does is sleep drinks till he can’t wake up and then showers to then watch tv and leave me to manage the kids alone. I have no friends and no one to talk to. I want to leave and move with my babies but how if I have nothing.
Not sure if I made the right decision
The break up happened 2 days ago so it’s still extremely fresh. We were together for 7 years but have been struggling for the last few years because we both work long hours and the communication and affection wasn’t there anymore. I’ve been going through hormone issues; so I have an extremely low libido and pretty much no desire for intimacy. I only had basic ground rules in our relationship from the beginning and one of them being no onlyfans because it’s too personal. I don’t care if he watches porn, but getting explicit messages from a specific person is not appropriate to me. I caught him using a similar website to onlyfans about 2 years ago because of an email he received, but he said the account was old and he didn’t remember using it. I caught him again two weeks ago because of his Instagram algorithm being filled with onlyfans women. He said Instagram was just being weird and bought me flowers the following day. I had a bad feeling and the last 2 weeks I had been trying to check his phone but he was super guarded with it .. which made me even more suspicious. He got a new laptop recently so I went on it when he wasn’t home. Long story short - he did have an onlyfans account. He wiped it clean so I couldn’t see what he was looking at or what he had previously paid for. He told me he did this after the Instagram thing. In the heat of the moment I broke up with him and he came clean, but his reasons have made the break up more painful. He basically admitted he didn’t think to care about my feelings in the moment; and that the curiosity and urge to look outweighed anything else. We are still living together and I cannot financially afford to leave quite yet. We talked things out and we are civil currently, but the pain I feel is deep. I moved to a new state for him in 2020 so I have no family near me, either, so I feel trapped and alone. Everyone keeps saying I need to move back home but my job is important to me and I’m still in the training stages (it’s 2 years long I have about 5 months left) so I can’t just transfer or work somewhere else. I want so badly to give him a hug and tell him I forgive him but I know in the long run it’s not sustainable because a relationship can’t function without trust. I thought once we talked the hurt would go away but I woke up at 4 am sobbing. I feel abandoned and uncared for. I feel unimportant and like I never have been a priority. I just know I don’t prioritize myself or what I truly need, I just want what’s convenient and easy. I don’t want to work through my feelings or emotions- I just want everything to reset. Maybe it would have been better if I never found out? Maybe I overreacted and shouldn’t have broken up with him…. But then I’m like he was continuously doing something he knew I was not okay with. It wasn’t a once or twice thing, he was doing this for years, and I got him to admit that he would have never told me if I didn’t find out. It’s easy for him to say he’s sorry and wants to regain my trust, but he didn’t take the steps to be honest with me in the first place. He didn’t respect me enough to tell me the truth even 2 weeks ago. Idk where I’m going with this I just don’t know what I should even do.
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I was in a abusive relationship with this boy for a year I truly loved him with everything in me I know I shouldn’t have stayed with him but I couldn’t leave him we’ve been broken up and no contact for almost a year now. I feel like I can’t move on we’ve blocked eatchother on everything but I still get upset constantly I feel like no matter what I do he’s always on my mind
I need to be okay
i need to be okay with my life, the good and the bad parts. i tend to use relationships to escape my life because i don’t know what im doing with it. i want to take this breakup and time being single to find myself and do what i want to do. but im struggling please offer advice
Ghosting or dead
So me and my boyfriend we are both teens and we are basically young not even 16 yet so yea. He told me one day when I was at a therapy session that he had 2 months left to live. I was heartbroken. After that he told me his faith could change and I was a bit hopeful about it. But there is one thing that comes in our way, he lives in Ireland I live in Austria so we can’t see each other. And on 14/6/2024 he stopped talking to me I’m scared that he might be dead or he might just ghosting me. Normally this would not be a huge problem but he was my 1 love and I was bullied my whole life about my looks, my voice, I was abused and more and now that he is gone I can’t stop crying every single night. I am going to therapy but it didn’t help so I need some advice
seeing him today
he broke up with me yesterday, he was away for nearly a month (he’s grew up in czechia before moving to England was visiting czechia for the month). anyway he was supposed to come back today and we would go off on our own little holiday on the 5th. But he broke up with me, he’s still coming back and i’m going to see him to collect all my things from his house but it still sucks it’s almost like i don’t want to see him since it’s been so long. but i have to because all my things are there.
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