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Hello everyone I started dating this guy Nov 2022 and found out he was a lier in Jan 2023. December he went jail and got him out. He lost his job, his home and I wanted to be the down girlfriend in my mind. January he had surgery help him was there with him. February his mother passed was there and helped him. March went back to jail got out. Gave him the money to move into his place. Helped him moved everything. Gave him money every week treated him really well. July we moved together due to me helping him so much I fell down. Helped him the whole time got him on his feet again. He did fraud him and his new girlfriend in my name. Throw all me and my kids stuff out. Got in a relationship the next day we broke up April 10 2024. Treated her like a queen lied and told everybody I stole money from him started saying bad things about me . They start living together the next day now she pregnant due Jan 12,2025. I don’t love him anymore I just can’t get over him a person could discard a person that was good to them. What hurts the most how could God bless them and how am I the only one crush and hurt.
Not sure if I made the right decision
The break up happened 2 days ago so it’s still extremely fresh. We were together for 7 years but have been struggling for the last few years because we both work long hours and the communication and affection wasn’t there anymore. I’ve been going through hormone issues; so I have an extremely low libido and pretty much no desire for intimacy. I only had basic ground rules in our relationship from the beginning and one of them being no onlyfans because it’s too personal. I don’t care if he watches porn, but getting explicit messages from a specific person is not appropriate to me. I caught him using a similar website to onlyfans about 2 years ago because of an email he received, but he said the account was old and he didn’t remember using it. I caught him again two weeks ago because of his Instagram algorithm being filled with onlyfans women. He said Instagram was just being weird and bought me flowers the following day. I had a bad feeling and the last 2 weeks I had been trying to check his phone but he was super guarded with it .. which made me even more suspicious. He got a new laptop recently so I went on it when he wasn’t home. Long story short - he did have an onlyfans account. He wiped it clean so I couldn’t see what he was looking at or what he had previously paid for. He told me he did this after the Instagram thing. In the heat of the moment I broke up with him and he came clean, but his reasons have made the break up more painful. He basically admitted he didn’t think to care about my feelings in the moment; and that the curiosity and urge to look outweighed anything else. We are still living together and I cannot financially afford to leave quite yet. We talked things out and we are civil currently, but the pain I feel is deep. I moved to a new state for him in 2020 so I have no family near me, either, so I feel trapped and alone. Everyone keeps saying I need to move back home but my job is important to me and I’m still in the training stages (it’s 2 years long I have about 5 months left) so I can’t just transfer or work somewhere else. I want so badly to give him a hug and tell him I forgive him but I know in the long run it’s not sustainable because a relationship can’t function without trust. I thought once we talked the hurt would go away but I woke up at 4 am sobbing. I feel abandoned and uncared for. I feel unimportant and like I never have been a priority. I just know I don’t prioritize myself or what I truly need, I just want what’s convenient and easy. I don’t want to work through my feelings or emotions- I just want everything to reset. Maybe it would have been better if I never found out? Maybe I overreacted and shouldn’t have broken up with him…. But then I’m like he was continuously doing something he knew I was not okay with. It wasn’t a once or twice thing, he was doing this for years, and I got him to admit that he would have never told me if I didn’t find out. It’s easy for him to say he’s sorry and wants to regain my trust, but he didn’t take the steps to be honest with me in the first place. He didn’t respect me enough to tell me the truth even 2 weeks ago. Idk where I’m going with this I just don’t know what I should even do.
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I was in a abusive relationship with this boy for a year I truly loved him with everything in me I know I shouldn’t have stayed with him but I couldn’t leave him we’ve been broken up and no contact for almost a year now. I feel like I can’t move on we’ve blocked eatchother on everything but I still get upset constantly I feel like no matter what I do he’s always on my mind
I need to be okay
i need to be okay with my life, the good and the bad parts. i tend to use relationships to escape my life because i don’t know what im doing with it. i want to take this breakup and time being single to find myself and do what i want to do. but im struggling please offer advice
Ghosting or dead
So me and my boyfriend we are both teens and we are basically young not even 16 yet so yea. He told me one day when I was at a therapy session that he had 2 months left to live. I was heartbroken. After that he told me his faith could change and I was a bit hopeful about it. But there is one thing that comes in our way, he lives in Ireland I live in Austria so we can’t see each other. And on 14/6/2024 he stopped talking to me I’m scared that he might be dead or he might just ghosting me. Normally this would not be a huge problem but he was my 1 love and I was bullied my whole life about my looks, my voice, I was abused and more and now that he is gone I can’t stop crying every single night. I am going to therapy but it didn’t help so I need some advice
seeing him today
he broke up with me yesterday, he was away for nearly a month (he’s grew up in czechia before moving to England was visiting czechia for the month). anyway he was supposed to come back today and we would go off on our own little holiday on the 5th. But he broke up with me, he’s still coming back and i’m going to see him to collect all my things from his house but it still sucks it’s almost like i don’t want to see him since it’s been so long. but i have to because all my things are there.
Books for those in need
I’m in a heap of pain from a recent breakup and I’ve turned to some self-help books to try to find my way. Maybe some of you can find something in them that’ll help… Good for finding and fixing yourself after a breakup: There’s a hole in my live cup - Sven Erlandson Maybe this could help stave off a breakup: Fight Right - Julie Schwartz Gottman Ph.D and John Gottman Ph.D For your next relationship: Getting the love you want - Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. Eight Dates - Julie Schwartz Gottman Ph.D and John Gottman Ph.D
Struggling
I broke who with my daughters mum in may and I’ve been destroyed since! I wasn’t the best partner and she gave me chance after chance but fuck I’m broken! I think of her everyday and every second! I wish I could take all the hurt I have given her away and make her happy and healer! I’m full of guilt and anger!
I Tried
I Tried ... So Hard To Believe He Would Change & Grow For The Better Of Us . I Tried To Handle The Mood Swings , Being The One Who Takes His Frustrations Out On . I Took All The Accusations Of Cheating To The Chin . I Took All The Disrespect . I Tried To Love Him Thru All His Trama. I Tried To Be There When His Annoying BM Did All Her BS . I Tried To Be The Woman He Needed . I Tried & Tried & Tried Until My Tried Became Tired . I love him still & probably always will . I miss him , but i dont wanna miss him. Im lonely without him but i had to let go . I wish he would have seen me for the Queen i know i am to be ... I tried , but it was never good enough
Did anyone get a reason for being dumped?
I got a reason, and I think it was an honest one, but just wondering how other people’s breakups went and if they believe the reasons given by their ex? I guess at the end of the day it doesn’t matter 🤷♂️
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