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Done for good
throughout our one and a half year relationship he’s left me many times but this time when I confronted him for his behavior it was the last time he said we would ever be together and I don’t wanna be hurt over it because I should be happy to be out of it, but I’m hurt because I wanted it to be him and I don’t have any more tries left in me for anyone else.
Just got dumped again yesterday
Over the past 9 years he’s dumped me over a dozen times. Then he asks me to come back and I do. I don’t even know what I did this time, he just ghosted me out of the blue. The pain is so debilitating. I’ve been to counselors begging for help but they can’t help me because I can’t help myself. I feel so alone, everyone around me is happy - or at least normal and I’m in the bell jar
Rejected 😩
I’m sad today and yesterday I attempted to text or call and it backfired.
6 years gone
I just got out a 6 year relationship 6 months ago and I’ve been in no contact for at least 4 months it hurts to know that she’s not apart of my life right now and I miss her and still love her I know I must move on and upgrade my life I just wish I could of provided better for her and maybe our future would of been secure she was my best friend and I love her. It gets easier sometimes but other times I keep replaying the break up in my mind and my body gets shocked all over again. It hurts to think maybe she wasn’t the one, I’ve had many regrets and I just wish for the strength to let this situation go I tried to talk to her again but she doesn’t want to talk and she is already talking to someone only after a month of being broken up with that’s not to demonize her but it hurt and I was no angel either I cheated she never found out but it haunts me as that’s time I should I spent with her
Can't stop obsessing
So, my ex and I broke up at the end of January through text. I confronted him about saying he doesn’t want to have kids with me because he doesn’t want multiple baby mothers. I was hurt, so I texted him to express my feelings, which led to him saying he no longer wanted any interaction with me. I don’t know why, but I’ve been going completely insane. I’ve always been anxiously attached to him, and I want to let go—I have to let go. But I keep getting sudden urges to text him, and I can’t stop thinking about him. I even get headaches from it. It got so bad that I sent him an intimate photo and started texting him about how much I missed being close to him. The thing is, I crave genuine intimacy with someone, which is making me feel completely out of control. It’s crazy because I have moments of peace and clarity, but then I go right back to reaching out to my ex, acting irrationally. I just don’t know what to do. I know it’s desperate, but I can’t seem to talk to anyone about it because I’m embarrassed. I don’t like my behavior and really want to stop. I’ve never felt so crazy and sad at the same time. I wonder if anyone else is having a similar experience—being 22 and craving real intimacy while feeling completely lost when being ghosted.
Confused & Hurt
She told me a week ago that she lost interest after talking for several months. Leading up to this moment was nothing but great times… she told me also that I shouldn’t be upset and that our relationship was nothing but positives. Texted her off and on for a couple days after that convo but I just stopped because I was the one initiating everything. Now I find myself waiting and hoping she will reach out to me. Also find myself worrying about her and how she’s doing.
Hurt
I forgave this man for so much, he cheated on me twice and I still forgave him. He blamed my 5 year old for all our arguments because she’s ‘spoilt’ but she just doesn’t like him. (Red flag- she loves everyone) she is vile to him I’ve seen her spit kick punch and throw things at him which she has never done to me! He still lives with us as he has nowhere to go. I got him a dog when he first moved in nearly a year ago and he won’t take the dog with him. More stress. Found out I was pregnant and he went nuts in a bad way. Said he’d rather k*ll himself than have a baby with me- infront of my daughter on her 5th birthday last week. Not keeping the baby if that wasn’t clear. I am so stupid for still loving him, I’ve been sobbing for days and he doesn’t seem to care. After all I’ve done I’ve been nothing but good to him minus some arguments and bad reactions to his obvious infidelity. My question is Why do I love someone who is just disgusting? Why do I think so little of myself to allow this behaviour? Why am I jeopardising how my daughter sees me in the future for allowing this man to continue be having this way in my house? Why do I love a scumbag?
Open wounds
I’m just venting but I guess any input could be beneficial I was in a relationship for 2 years. I loved/love this girl more than I’ve ever loved anyone in this way. During the 2 years we went long distance for a year. We started to have a lot of the same arguments because we both were insecure. It was the first long distance I’ve had so it was new to me and the first one for her as well. Anyways it was very new to me and I didn’t know how to handle my emotions. I became depressed and just sad all of the time when we were apart we would miss phone calls because of conflicting schedules. In the morning until the afternoon she was in school. We couldn’t call in the afternoon I was doing something or was about to be doing something I am a very active person so I was out of the house for a lot of the time so I would miss calls. We started to have arguments about it and when we would find a solution it would work for a week then it would be the same issue the next week. She broke up with me 4 months ago. I was getting through it by journaling therapy working out and reading. I had let go of the hope because we went no contact and I thought she hated me . Well she had to come to my house to get her belongings 2 weeks ago and it turned out she didn’t hate me I just convinced myself that she did. She also left so much hope for reconciliation in the future. Now I am going through the same heart break again after our very long conversation but this time it’s different because I know how she actually feels not what I created in my head she only had a year left is school and I don’t know if I should hold on to the hope she gave me or throw it away. Anyways this sucks a lot and I miss her and i know she misses me. I am very confused and all the self care that I do just gets met with thoughts or futures with her. I guess I’ll keep doing what I have been doing and working on myself. When we met she definitely noticed all the work that I have put in so that’s a plus I guess
Broke up with me on New Year’s Eve
A girl I was dating for a few months was treating me so well, doing nice things for me all the time and making an effort. I got drunk a few times when she wasn’t even with me and sent a few messages to her that she said were “off”, after that I didn’t see her for 3 weeks straight. We then went away for a night for my birthday and I gave her a ring to make her happy. She loved it. She then came to my parents place on Christmas Day and collected presents I had bought her and her son and seemed a bit off. Then a few days later on New Year’s Eve she broke up with myself by text when she was on holiday saying that her son was struggling with the previous breakup and that she needed to focus on him. I did react angrily by text and now she’s blocked me. This absolutely broke me and still does but it seemed she still had ties to her ex who I actually knew as a person when I was younger. I believe she never wanted him to find out about us and she decided to pull the trigger on me. Life is tough…
Moved my entire life for this shitbag human
I moved my entire life six states away. Waited 8 months to bring my son up, visiting back and forth twice a month until we knew it was right. He promised me the world. Then took it all away. We have been back in our home state with no stability, no real family, no job, for two weeks now. Two months ago he wrote me a letter saying he wants a thousand more years with me. Then he has a mental breakdown. Treated my young son like he didn’t even exist. I took care of his sick mom for pennies. He never backed anything up with actions. I’m almost 40. I’m starting all over again. Again. I’m sick to my stomach over it. Walked on eggshells for a year with him. Lost 50 pounds. He lives off of his mommy’s money and smokes weed all day and doesn’t have a job. Red flags everywhere that I ignored because I believed every lying word out of his mouth. He says he’s shut down and has no bandwidth. He completely disrupted and destroyed me and my son’s lives. Starting over sucks. I am so mentally drained and sad.
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