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My husband abandoned me on our wedding anniversary
My husband just up and left. It’s been 83 days. He has completely ghosted me and changed his phone number. I’m just in disbelief how someone can do this to their wife. I’ve been hospitalized over my depression from all this and I’m in intensive therapy. But I can’t get over the abandonment. I am struggling to function everyday. There were no signs he was going to leave, no fights. He just up and left. His stuff was gone when I got home from work, no note or anything. But I found an unopened anniversary card he got for me sitting on a shelf.
1 day
I believed in us. I truly thought we were meant to be. I was in a toxic relationship where I lost all my friends because he wouldn’t let me spend time with them, wear makeup, or put on jewelry. He didn’t allow me to do anything. All I ever wanted was peace. We broke up after a lot of harsh words, and I know there’s no going back. He was even aggressive towards me, and yet I still feel sorry for him — because I know he loved me. And the worst part of all is that I still love him. How do I make myself hate him?
Idk what to do
I (female ) met this girl at a party i went with my friend and my cousin, said girl was with a bunch of her friends. My cousin knew all of the girls including the girl, they started talking i just watched from a distance after the party we headed back to our town which was only about 30 minutes away and they came along, when we arrived back in town we headed to another party. Said girl was already very intoxicated and when we sat on the couch she asked to rest her head on my shoulder i said of course and she did so later in the night she moved into the kitchen with everyone else she sat next to my cousin ( female ) they got told they looked cute together and ended up making out i just moved into another room and i ended up driving said girl and her best friend home that night and the night ended, i thought i’d never see said girl again but she added me on snap chat. ( i met said girl in april ), in the middle of may we were already just snapping eachother and i told her how i felt and she felt the same so we started talking we talked for a while and everything was perfect. On July 8th i asked her to be my girlfriend, she said yes and we started being official, we became inseparable. Until one night when i was spending the night at her house and she fell asleep i suddenly got a gut feeling to look at her phone and i found multiple messages between her and her exs who i was already worried about multiple times before. The morning after i found everything we talked about it and she said she was sorry and so i just left it at that but it lingered in my head. August 28th 2025 i ended up breaking up with her because i felt like i was already mentally exhausted from what was going on inside and outside of the relationship. When we broke up i told her i wanted to stay friends she said that was fine, 5 days after the break up she asked to talk in person so she came over we talked for hours, we talked, we cried, we even laughed and then she said she had to go so i walked her to her moms car and gave her a hug the hug lasted at least 5 minutes it was the longest and tightest hug we gave eachother and when she got in the car i gave her a kiss on the forehead we said we’d wait and fix it. Not to long after i found out her and one of the exs that was texting her were talking and i told her not to speak to me anymore out of anger about finding out this was happening not meaning it, we unadded each other off of all social, shortly after she started dating this ex girlfriend, it broke me inside fully. the other day i seen her for the first time since the last talk and we kept looking at each other and even tho we said no actual words it felt like we said everything with our eyes. October 28th we have now been broken up for 2 months and no matter how much i try to force myself to stop thinking about her and move on i can’t because when i try i catch myself comparing everyone to her. My chest feels like someone is physically being beaten in while i am without her. i can’t seem to let her go and i don’t know what i should do because being without her feels like someone has taken my breath away and i’m im just suffocating, i cant catch my breath because she was my oxygen if that makes sense. What do i do?
I cheated and lost her. Please help :(
We had two years and me constantly treating her wrong and when I finally fixed my ways, it was too late 😞she wants to stay friends and stay in touch, and I can tell she still has feelings for me. But she’s already choosing to try and move on by talking to someone else. How can I get her to see my change? How can i prove that it won’t be the same if she takes me back :(
help
Why can’t i stop crying and thinking about him after two months? I am at this point where i want to go back to his house beg for him back. I know i shouldn’t but i dont care anymore. I need him to see how much i love him still. I cant be without him!
Support please
We broke ip, i was secret. I gave him support while he was divorcing because we were friends but we fell in love. I gave him support my time and even worked for him because i wanted him to have profit as much as possible and i was very good at selling. I even put on the second plan my work, life everything. I gave everything. He decide to come back to his wife. I accepted to be no.2 even though it is painful just because it is so hard without him. He told me he will cut the contact because it is good for both. I called him to today and he still is with his decision. I am devastated. I am very successful at my job, look very attractive but i want him. I want to get over him, and survive
How to get over the guilt
I had to leave, had to get out. 6 years of never improving arguing… I’m only just coming to terms with the abuse I experienced as well. I’m in a constant state of anxiety and guilt and I don’t know how to make it go away. Any advice would be appreciated.
No contact
Both 41 🔄 and I’ve broken no contact once but I’ve finally gave up with him and realised that we ain’t ever gonna get back together I wished him well and told him to be safe we both said our goodbyes and blocked eachother on everything we were together for 1month ovbs not a long time but as a 41 🔄 year old you fall inlove so easily and that boy was my rock the loml but it’s always for the best it’s been 1 month no contact and I’m happier than ever
ache
i can’t help but look through our old conversations. we were together almost 3 years and it’s october which is the month we fell in love. everyday is another “one year ago today” of us so in love. i never could have imagined that by the next october we would be done. im still so in love with him and my heart is so achey. when i read our old messages i cant help but think none of it was real. because how could he say so many loving and vulnerable and deep and intimate, beautiful things just to leave me. if you’re going through this too just know you’re not alone 💕
No contact
both 71 🔄,first serious relationship on both sides, lasted 11 months, mostly eachothers first time for everything, she broke up with me 9 days ago, i promised i would change something but i didnt change it which led her to leaving me, she said she finally wont stress anymore, wont go to sleep sad etc. She said she needs AT LEAST 6 months before she starts dating anyone again, she kept my stuff so she wont forget about me, clothes, plushies, gifts, i promised i would wait for her because i dont want to look for love with anyone else, i wanted a future with her, she said she cant promise me anything about us trying again, she did say this “I hope, that maybe in the future we fund eachother again and try again” ive been having alot of thoughts about this, her instagram is also “You cant re read a book and expect a different ending” idk if shes giving me false hope or not, she said she isnt but it could just be that shes doing it for me. Im blocked on snapchat and instagram, maybe my phonenumber but im not sure, i think im not but like i said im not sure, im not blocked on tiktok though, idk why. I want to stop checking her socials every 30 minutes and having these thoughts and “what ifs” i know it would destroy me if some of them came to reality but where do i start and how?
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