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Grieving
I got broken up with September 4th 2025. I was in a relationship (my first one) for almost 2 years. I have come to realize a few things. For one even though he broke up with me (and later tried to gaslight me saying it was my perspective on how the conversation went. Or that it never happened or it was ‘mutual’) in some ways I see how I contributed to the break up and some of the things I said were things I’d never thought I would say to another person. But I know how he treated me was completely unacceptable and I deserved a kind man who cared. He doesn’t have the emotional capacity to care about me in “hard” situations. I’ve been experiencing grief for a long time now due to trauma I went through back in August 2025 (he abandoned me.. in a time it should’ve been both of us he left.) . He just showed me how weak and cowardly he is. While I had to deal with the emotional labor and trauma. It’s awful. I know how you treated me was bad. I know how the situation went showed his true colors and yet I still miss him. My heart aches. My soul hurts and it feels like every day I’m more alone, but I know I shouldn’t be treated like that and I just wish it never happened, but he wasn’t a good person to me in the end. I miss him and I’m grieving not only him but the love that I had because I loved him so much. I think I still love him, but it’s definitely not the same and I think that’s really hard to accept because I loved him so much he was my first And I don’t know how to face him telling him. I don’t love him the same way anymore because that just seems cruel to do to another human however he did things to me. I would’ve never done to him and I think that shows who’s better because I don’t want to hurt someone and I don’t think he wanted to hurt me but I just think he didn’t understand Anything
he broke no contact
Me and my ex were together for two years. he texted me saying he misses being able to talk to me and asked to come over, i said no unless we like act like a talking stage and try to rebuild our relationship he agreed but i said he has to unfollow this girl who i was uncomfortable with and he said no because they are friends, and i said i don’t really want to try again if you only want to see me once a week (that’s why we broke up) and he said he only wants to see me once a week and he won’t make changes that aren’t suitable for him . so i cut him off and now i feel sad and like all my progress was destroyed
2 years wasted
we were together for two years, a week ago he broke up with me because he wanted to see his friends more than me and that made me upset. ever since we broke up he’s been out every single night til 3am with his bad friends and now he’s been talking to a new girl who i didn’t like and got upset at him ages ago because he followed her on tiktok. It’s been a day no contact. my heart feels like it’s dying because i feel so angry and jealous of that new girl but i miss the old him so much. i haven’t aten for a week, i haven’t showered for a week or cleaned my room i feel like a mess
7 years gone
I don’t exactly know what to say here, but I just needed to tell the void how bad it feels to lose a 7 year constant in your life. Hope anyone else who is struggling can breathe a little better tomorrow.
He hurt me in ways I never knew
He begged me at the beginning of our relationship to be with her and I was at my lowest said all the right things made me feel so loved and desired. And then started acting different when I started asking questions and then we would just disappear for days not answering any calls then would say I was hiding something from him about him from before we were ever together and I couldn't understand. It just got worse in person she would shut down no talking then on the phone say so many untrue things about me hurtful too n I tired to convince him for years I'm not what he claimin.and the last thing was he found someone better then me and hasn't called me since. Even through 5he night before he said that he was hold me n being nice
we broke up today
me and my bf broke up today and i can’t contain my emotions, it is killing me
He hurt me
I don’t know what to do so he broke up with me on oktober 8 And that day hunts me every day In the relationship he abused me and cheated on me. And I still love him but my parents my friends say I deserve better but I want him to be better for me but I don’t know.
In a unfamiliar space
So at the beginning of October my ex broke up with me but it wasn’t because anyone did anything wrong. It was from a place of self awareness. He had some things he had to figure about himself which ultimately mean he couldn’t give his all in the relationship. During the breakup I figured there was things I need to work on myself. It’s been hard because it all seemed sudden to me. It’s been weird cause we have seen each other twice since the breakup but it started to hurt. Seeing him made me feel like nothing ever happened but when he left I felt the loneliness and started to yearn for what we had. My routine was wrapped up so much into him that when he left I felt the loneliest I’ve ever been in my life. We decided to take a break for some time. It’s been hard because I just want him to know I still love him and care for him but I know I have to focus on my healing.
Not sure whether we are meant to be together
We’ve been together for 2 months. He always tries to keep some distance with me when we’re hanging out in a group of friends. He said he will work on that. But I still feel some distance when we’re hanging in a group. Maybe he’s not that into me? But I tried to say take a break a few times, he says we are barely started yet. Give us some time. Idk.
help me someone
I'm with my boyfriend for almost a year now. And first, like, months ago, he cheated on me with his ex. And now, I found out he was texting some other girl yesterday. And also, we had so many arguments, and it's just too much to say, but he's not treating me how I want to. And I texted him a very long message now, and saying how I feel, and please, for him to change. I don't know how he will respond, but I have bpd ,so everything I feel so much, and he doesn't understand this. For him, everything is nothing but for me. Everything is so much, I feel it so much. I wish he could be in my body and just feel how I feel. Even for one day, it's so hard for me to be normal and calm all the time when he's treating me like this. I know in the relationship, only at first, it's so perfect and everything, no arguments, but I want it all the time. He's now treating me like I'm his friend and not girlfriend. He calls me names even for fun, and just no respect sometimes. And at the start, you know, he was all sweet. I want this sweetness back, and I don't want for him to be mean or treat me like a friend. I want him to send those paragraphs and just feel that he cares and he loves me so much. I send him now the message, if he will dismiss this and say something like i’m wrong ,or you know what I mean. I'm gonna broke up, but if he will change, I'm gonna stay. I hope he will change, because I really need him. Like, I have bpd ,so it's really hard for me to leave someone. I'm so attached, I know what to do, and my bpd ,is not even helping me.
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