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Letting it out
Ex left me almost a month ago, he’s talking to someone else he previously knew. They’ve known each other for 11 years and have never met once. Due to her anxiety or at least that’s what she tells him but I feel like you would meet someone you are into no matter what. I still love him a lot. We live together as we signed a lease 3 months ago. But we do sleep separately. Not in no contact yet. Well the past few days he’s been talking to me very sexually and talking about stuff we use to. Well last night things took a turn and he was tub in my back and things happened. He waned it to happen and was planing on doing it well when we were doing he said we shouldn’t have done that. And proceeded to say this girl told him to do it for closure…. But like who would really tell someone go do it with your ex for closure if you were serious about them
Any advice?
So, my ex-boyfriend and I broke up yesterday, which is still really fresh. To clarify, we were together for 6 months, and I was literally planning to see him this month for his birthday, but of course that didn’t happen. Around the second month, I had to move to California, and that really took a toll on us. At first, we were so happy and in love, but that’s when things started going downhill. He was controlling and insecure at times, which I didn’t mind at first because I was okay with reassuring him. But then it kept getting worse. He would say hurtful things, and then I would respond with hurtful things too. It was really draining. I know that’s not an excuse, and I’m not going to act like I was an angel, but despite everything, we still really loved each other. He used to say he would never leave me—but he did. And now I feel so stupid for trying so hard, because he gave up so easily. I thought he truly cared, and it feels like I wasted my time. Now I keep wondering if he’ll come back, or if it’s really over. I don’t know what to do. I really miss him, but at the end of the day, it was his decision, not mine. I know I need to move forward, but I just don’t know how.
3rd break up but I think he will likely be back
The first time we broke up, it was out of nowhere. He just disappeared and then came back into my life a week later it was probably the coldest and coolest thing he could’ve done, but regardless because I was so in love with him I decided to get back with him. Throughout the entirety of our second trial, it was me essentially chasing him, but I had to hit a point where I could no longer do it and so I decided to break up with him, even though he tried flipping it and making it seem like he broke up with me. after that, I didn’t reach out to him for three weeks around which he decided to come back and try to talk to me. I kept things casual and wished him the best and told him that was right. However, he would reach out and then out in person finally realized how much we missed each other. At that point I told him that I still didn’t trust him and they we can talk if he fixes 2 things. After a month of fixing it he reached out and I tell him that our relationship with be slow. I finally started letting my guard down and he tells me that he is unhappy. Mind u the second time we’re together he was struggling financially and said that was the reason he ran away. This time too he’s in a similar situation where he lost his promotion at work and was too broke to buy anything for his new apartment. I told him that it might be other stress and to think about it but he broke up still. I think like the other 2 times before he will be back but I am officially done with this man child. On another notes when breaking up he said “sometimes I just want to be consumed by u and at other times I want to be left alone” as we broke up
Unsettling
I have been trying with the guy for about three years it started as friends with benefits then with in the last 6 months he started calling me his lady. And the last time we messed around he didn’t finish and he was okay with that. But same situation happened like a month ago n I had stopped him and he didn’t talk to me for weeks. So now it’s been twos weeks I haven’t seen him I was gonna to get a room for us but he stood me up . N haven’t heard anything idk how to move on . To me there was no closure n and it’s killing my self esteem.
30 days since I said I was done
After 6 years of being married we are in the same house right now I feel like I have to hide upstairs while he plays the Stupid games kinda gonna be glad when I never have to hear loud ass anime and video game sounds playing at the same time .. hate having to hide upstairs but I can’t handle him being around like I have to be on gaurd
Love with a Psychopath
Has anyone experienced falling inlove with a manipulative, selfish, psychopath?
It really hurts
I don’t know if he was abusive or not but it sure felt like it sometimes. I even got a book about how to tell the difference between emotional abuse and a normal relationship. I can relate to the book quite a bit but I’m still confused. My mind is full of moment he belittled me and they cross my mind here and there and it hurts when they do
First love first break up at 20.
He broke up with me a month ago. Said he lift feelings after a year and four months. Logically I get it, people are allowed to want what they want and he did want me. But from an emotional standpoint point, I’m broken. My first bf at 19 had a year of good memories. But I blame myself. He broke up with me the first time In January 2025 saying he didn’t love me anymore, and he wants to love me forever he just didn’t know if he could. We got back together the same day. Why didn’t I take that for face value? Now six months later..here we are. I knew this was coming, he ignored seven of my FaceTimes, dodged me through text pushing off what he and I knew what was gonna happen. And the day before removed me off Xbox. Some words he said drying the breakup haunts me. Right now I’m just trying to survive, but I cry so much more now. I miss him, and I jsut know he’s probably sleeping like a baby. There so much more I can say but I have work tomorrow, I’ve been crying all day and I’m just mentally and emotionally exhausted.
Why not me
He left because he figured out he’s gay, we talked about kids, he proposed, he was my first time, my first love. he wants to be my best friend and cant stand seeing me talk to more guys, he has a new bf, why cant it just be me.
help
I’m 18 and just got out of a two-year relationship with someone I truly thought I’d marry. He broke up with me right before we both left for university — different cities, different lives. He said he loved me, but not the way I loved him. That it didn’t feel like a rollercoaster - a feeling he wanted and that my love was warm and gentle, but he wanted that rollercoaster feeling. The hardest part is knowing he felt like this for months and still stayed. I don’t know if I was led on, or if he just didn’t know how to leave. He said it was also because of his own commitment and attachment issues, and that he wished it was me. I don’t know how to move forward. I keep reading into things — his music taste, his social media, everything. I’ve changed so much in this relationship. I miss him. But I’m scared I wasn’t enough. That maybe I’ll never be enough for anyone. Was I led on? How do I stop hoping he’ll come back? And how do I move on without trying to become someone else entirely?
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