Unsettling

I have been trying with the guy for about three years it started as friends with benefits then with in the last 6 months he started calling me his lady. And the last time we messed around he didn’t finish and he was okay with that. But same situation happened like a month ago n I had stopped him and he didn’t talk to me for weeks. So now it’s been twos weeks I haven’t seen him I was gonna to get a room for us but he stood me up . N haven’t heard anything idk how to move on . To me there was no closure n and it’s killing my self esteem.