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Missing the one that broke me makes me a foul?
I feel guilty by missing someone who broke me in too many pieces, i feel frustrated because i loved him so sincerely that i can’t hate him not even a little bit and that hurts like hell because everyone tells me to move on, everyone it’s constantly saying to me the shame I should feel for everything that I allowed him, they’re telling me “he never felt anything for you and he never will so get over it”… but I have so many questions, if he never felt anything why does he stayed 4 years in a row searching me, writing me, apologizing, telling me that I was important to him, asking to see me, spending romantic moments with me ??? I’m so confused, because even when I blocked him he made the impossible to reach me and apologize to me after a couple months of no contact, and now suddenly he doesn’t want to know anything about me and he hates me? I know sometimes I can be sensitive and he called that “drama”, but i have spent the last 4 years trying to be enough, trying to be chosen, trying to be loved by him, justifying every hurtful moment, every hurtful word or action… and that consumed me, made me insecure and made me feel that I’m not worthy of love because no matter what I do he will never ever chose me and he will never see me as a valuable girl. I can’t stop asking myself …Will he one day regret letting me go?, does he miss me even just a little bit?, did he really felt something or it was just empty words to have me and then leave me?
Narcissist Abuse - Seeking Advice
Broke up with him after being together for 1 year - mentally and physically abused while being with him. Been in a car accident with him where I was hurt and he got nothing and the next day instead of accompanying me to the hospital, he was trying to contact his ex. Was constantly compared to his ex while being with him, was never good enough and believe me when I say he is a pro manipulator. After 1 month of break up and no contact, I still think about him every single day and it is very hard. How do you guys cope?
Cheated after 2 1/2 years
I left my boyfriend this morning after 2 1/2 years of a what I thought was a happy healthy relationship. I’m really struggling to understand the stuff I saw, I saw things on his phone after he wrestled (& yes I mean WRESTLED) me to not look at his phone (btw I never have looked at his phone) but there was LOADS of pictures of girls he knew, a girl from my home town, a few random girls that he admitted he pleasured himself to. I struggle with this due to the feeling that there was nothing wrong with the sexual side of our relationship, maybe sometimes too much. I’m so confused with the person I started to go out with as he’s lied and betrayed my trust and I’m struggling to move on. I’ve also been a credit to him, I’ve done everything and more for this boy, he was always affectionate to me in public and openly l, he spoke to me about how he’d never do anything like this, I think he has an addiction, if he gets help am I foolish to consider getting back with him?
Emptiness
I just broke up yesterday with my boyfriend of 1 year and 7 months. I always had an inside feeling that in the long run I need to be with someone with more ambition and that we have more things in common. I knew that if I would let the relationship go on longer it would just hurt me and him even more and we really did love each other so much even though I know that inside that I need more out of my partner. I feel so empty inside and broken and so much pain. Don’t know what to do.
Help
Why tf are they all posting all of the sudden, pictures everyday? In our 2 years relationship he never posted, why are they doing that? He’s a man btw
Getting back
Is there anyone here that got back with their ex in a healtier relationship? And how much time did it take?
I miss you
We broke up ? I don’t even know. A few days ago I was feeling detached from my boyfriend. We are long distance at the moment and I was missing him. He wasn’t calling me anymore, even though we text all day what I missed most was seeing his face. My previous experience in relationships haven’t been that nice so it gets me in my head and I start to over imagine and over think. So somehow I convince myself that he doesn’t want me anymore and that he doesn’t love me anymore and rather be with someone else, so I told him I want to break up cause of that. Even though we sorted the issue and my momentary sadness was subdued. Ever since that day he hasn’t contacted me (in fairness I haven’t contacted him either) it’s just been making me feel so isolated in this relationship so I decided that I am gonna not talk to him anymore and move on. I deleted all our photos, conversations, his number and even my Instagram account. I don’t know what to do or feel anymore
I just want him to reach out
We broke up and are talking until a month I miss him so much but I told him I'm not chasing him anymore therefore I'm not reaching out but I wish he would. I wish he would beg for me back and not care anyone would think. I miss him and I miss us and I fear the longer he waits the more I will be too scared to take him back because I won't want to be hurt again. HELP
Fuck this
If they wanted to they would. Close the door and the chapter and a new one will open. And if you don't want it closed do smth about it. I'm not chasing him anymore. I'm sick and tired of it.
I cant take this anymore but I keep on coming back
Our relationship is on and off. today he called me crazy saying that I created scenarios in my head that makes us fight. I only get mad because of how he treat me, for example he will do something that he knows I hate will apologize for it once I get mad and then he’ll do it again I am so tired and sick of this relationship but I cant stop coming back to him please help me
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