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roughexams0
18mo ago
Seeking Advice

Cheated after 2 1/2 years

I left my boyfriend this morning after 2 1/2 years of a what I thought was a happy healthy relationship. I’m really struggling to understand the stuff I saw, I saw things on his phone after he wrestled (& yes I mean WRESTLED) me to not look at his phone (btw I never have looked at his phone) but there was LOADS of pictures of girls he knew, a girl from my home town, a few random girls that he admitted he pleasured himself to. I struggle with this due to the feeling that there was nothing wrong with the sexual side of our relationship, maybe sometimes too much. I’m so confused with the person I started to go out with as he’s lied and betrayed my trust and I’m struggling to move on. I’ve also been a credit to him, I’ve done everything and more for this boy, he was always affectionate to me in public and openly l, he spoke to me about how he’d never do anything like this, I think he has an addiction, if he gets help am I foolish to consider getting back with him?

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Aminaakkhan18mo ago

He can get help but you shouldn’t be the one pushing him to seek help. I feel we deserve to have a good relationship that doesn’t come with issues that he has done for 2 years with you. The lies, the disrespect.. I wouldn’t be able to forget no matter how much I love him.

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sandyfix85qmphq18mo ago

Wow this is very relatable for me. I recommend reading leave a cheater gain a life and joining a support group. Also the activities in this app can be helpful. Infidelity is really hard to heal from. I’d also learn about narcissism, because the putting on a facade and then hiding these aspects of yourself can be signs of narcissistic traits. I like mental healness on YouTube for that. It gets easier every day of no contact. When I broke up with my cheater I thought I’d never be able to do it. But now it’s been two months of no contact and I know I deserve better.

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sandyfix85qmphq18mo ago

You may be trauma bonded to him, also. I’d try to educate yourself on trauma bonds.

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