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Need an objective view
Today, I decided to go no contact with my ex fiancé. I seriously thought this guy was my soulmate. I have never felt so emotionally connected with somebody, but the relationship was so toxic towards the end. We were in a long distance relationship, I was in Illinois and he was in Tennessee. We’ve been together for four years and we’re basically engaged and started to plan our wedding for winter next year. when he came to visit me a few weeks ago, I found proof that he had downloaded dating apps at some point and paid for premium. He did not have any messages in these apps and said that he would just download it and delete as soon as he downloaded them because he felt so guilty. He would download it after big fights. He stated that he felt he used the likes from these apps for validation because he never felt appreciated.i have anger issues in the relationship, and we used to fight about things like him not giving me enough time or attention, him calling or smoking when he had a health condition, etc. he’d never complain about me and later said he felt he never had the space to. I miss him a lot, so much. Idk if what I decided to do was the right thing.
Need advice
I love my ex so much, i tried everything to get over him and i mean literally everything, its hard to stop loving someone that you put your whole life into i gave this my relationship my everything, and he just left me like i was nothing for another girl. i started going to therapy because it was so traumatic for me we where gonna move in together and start a family talked about marriage just to wake up one day and leave me. If there is any advice on how to deal with this please help.
Need practical and genuine advice from men
So I was with this guy for more than a year almost 1.5 yrs. In between we broke up several times and it was sometimes from my side from his. We had almost everything in common so many things but or ways of seeing things was different. He has anger issues. I understand that. He has apologised about that several times. We both tried to make it work. It’s that we are in the same College and ofc we have to see each other everyday. For me small gestures matter he never paid attention to them. Yesterday it was something extremely big. We had to fill our forms related our studies. But night before that we had a fight because of something he had done. I still called him in the morning to wake him up but later I found out that he was already there. I asked him to atleast have informed me while I was calling him to be there. He said “why would I care about you?” I said nothing and left. I have blocked him. How do you make a man realise that he was at fault atleast?
Help
Me and my husband have bin together for 13years and have 1 bio child together but we have always had a complicated situation because he cant stay out of trouble stays in and out of prison constantly this is his 3rd time but he’s now at a work release program where he’s aloud a real job and a phone and a-lot of freedom well he got there 2months ago and since he got there all he has done is accuse me of everything in the book every 2-3 mins non stop,making me show screenshots of everything i do calls,text,facebook messages just everything and it slowly just got worse never said anything nice to me…always mean and hateful he had the opportunity to go on home furlough ms here at our home but chose not to acted like it didn’t matter at all witch was weird and off cause cmon we could have done u know what and him spend time with the kids his kids but chose not to…well finally he dumps me 3 days ago trying to flip everything on me saying I’m the cheater I’m the one doing this and that,that i ruined our marriage and I’m not dumb i know he’s bin cheating this entire time and having woman come to his job to screw him well I’m heart broken trying so hard to push these feelings down,i want to scream and pull my hair out i feel so un worthy and omg just horrible i feel so ugly and un attractive gawd i need some advice badly please cause this ripped me into a billion pieces i just don’t understand where all this came from out of no where i also believe hes using drugs in the facility and maybe thats why hes acting crazy and idkno
A year later
A year later im missing him, searching for him every where, though it was the best decision not to continue with the relationship. How can someone just stop thinking and searching for someone they miss, probably not miss, its more of an anger, sad, frustrated feeling that i want to vent it out on him
I can’t stop contacting her
She asked me to leave her alone but our last conversation ended so badly I had to let her know I didn’t mean what I said and I’m sorry. Does anyone else have this issue?
I feel weak
It’s been 4 months post break up. I found out she’s been seeing other people and has slept with someone. I’m trying my hardest to move on but feel as if I won’t be able to do better. She’s very physically attractive, smart and has qualities any guy would want. I broke up with her way too many times to count and cheated. She gave up on me and now I feel like I’m unable to move on. My confidence/self esteem is low and I want to just get away from everything.
Mentally cheating? I need help
I'm in the process of taking a break from my boyfriend. It happened 2 weeks ago, I found out he used telegram to join the group and watch another girl's clip. Even the group mentioned video call, service. After I found out, I was very disappointed and sad. He watched during the time and day that I worked.I talked to him. Then I realized I was pregnant. During the argument, I chose to stop fighting. We decided to get an abortion pill. He swears that he never watch porn or another girl again and hurting me. But I found out again today, that he did watch when I went to work. I feel he's mentally cheating. What should I do?
Ex
If you even read this I appreciate you. I got very close with this girl for like the past 2 months. She’s never had a boyfriend but has only brought over like 2 guys home before that her mom absolutely hated, they left because they thought she was scary. Her mom said I’m the only person she has ever liked out of other guys she has brought home. Keep in mind all the dudes she tried to date left because her mom is scary and I understand why which I don’t seem to mind it doesn’t effect me at all we get along like we’ve known each other for ever. Me and this girl dated for about a week, and she dumped me because of, “confusion school, worried she doesn’t want to hurt me.” Her mom is religious and I swear to god she could read my mind 80% of the time as we sat all together discussing the problem as she invited me over the day after for a talk about me and her dauther. I’m able to talk to her mom like a best friend and say anything I feel. I really love this girl she lightened something in me that just made me appreciate her like no other human. We always got along had have never fought.
Narcissistic Husbanf
So I currently have a protective order on my husband, mind you this wasn’t the first time he’d been abusive, but I told him the next time would be his last. Well of course he can’t respect the no contact, but today he told me to my face that because I won’t lift the protective order I’m not doing enough so I asked him to see himself to the door. If he had done the minimum we wouldn’t be here. Anyone dealt with something similar? How did you handle it… or how would you handle it?
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