I can’t stop contacting her

I struggled with this too. For me, it helped to pay attention to how I was feeling when I was reaching out. Usually I would call him when I was overwhelmed with sadness or anxiety from the breakup. It’s natural for our attachment system to reach out to someone we’re close with when our emotions are overwhelming. You’re trying to soothe yourself by contacting her. Instead, have some tools that can help you to self soothe. Which could be meditation, a comfort movie/distraction, call someone else like a friend. Also making sure you’re taking care of yourself by eating enough, drinking enough water, exercising and getting enough sleep can help with the intense emotions. If that doesn’t work you may need help from someone close to you to help you stop contacting her. My brother helped me make a breakup plan and held onto his phone number for me.

same here man

Same boat