Need advice

Hello, I’ve been passing the same. I was actually already living with my ex and we still are. It’s just so hard. Unfortunately I know that only time will cure and only if you start working on yourself. I’m going through the same, but I know that it will get over eventually, I just need to keep trying

There's a high chance he has narcissistic tendencies. This kind of behavior is veryyy common with narcissists and cheaters. And if he is neither of those things then its a sign he has very low empathy for the people closest to him. People who are capable of this are usually really good at compartmentalization and having double lives too. I recommend watching videos from Mental healness, chump lady, or Dr. Ramani. I was in a similar situation and learning about narcissism has helped me. Also not allowing myself to look at their social media or contact them has helped me a lot. Focus on rebuilding your life through the pain. Sorry you're going through this ❤️

Also… people who abandon partners suddenly to date someone new usually do something similar with all partners, or tend to not treat the next one great either. This isn't about you. This shows who he is.

It helps me to think that it wasn't my decision and it's not my fault. I don't want to blame myself for what another person did and I had no influence on it. After a while he just showed his true face, and during the relationship I thought he was different. During the relationship he had no eyes only on you so he was not worth you. It allows me to move on.

I just broke up with my fiance because there was microcheating. He downloaded dating apps even though he didn’t use them, I still felt disrespected enough to feel like we needed a break. Our break is a year and I’m hoping one of us moves on by then lol. It happened today on my birthday. We were so toxic, the highs were so high but the lows were so low. I wish we had gone to couples therapy or something. I’m really struggling I had planned to move to TN for him and had gotten a job there and everything. We were planning our wedding, it was next winter. He wanted to get the apps for validation bc I never showed enough gratitude. He was always deeply insecure