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So my boyfriend of almost 2 years started acting weird last summer and at first I thought it was just because he was stressed with school and sports. (He plays baseball and fball and is an honor student) so I gave him his space fast forward a few months and we both ended up going to separate camps so we didn’t talk for three weeks and that was kind of our “break” but before he left for his camp we didn’t end on the best of terms.. fast forward after his camp he called me and told me all the things and stuff he did and was super nice. But what he didn’t know is while he was gone I almost moved and of course I would have told him sooner but I didn’t know for sure so I decided to keep it a secret. (We NEVER keep secrets from each other) so it was hard but once he came back from camp I filled him in on everything and I ended up not moving. Fast-forward a few weeks and he invites me on a family trip with his parents. After thinking about it for a few days I decided to go and I had a great time with him and his parents the day I got back from that trip was the day I had to leave for my camp so as soon as I got home, I called him while I was packing told him goodbye and we ended on good terms and he told me he would talk to me as soon as I was done with my camp fast-forward my camp. Everything was great. I had fun. I called him And he was just kind of acting like he didn’t really wanna talk. He was saying he was busy, so I was kind of mad about that, but I didn’t really care fast-forward quite a few months and everything was fine. It was just kind of off and his contact would go on and off sometimes I wouldn’t hear for him for days. Sometimes it be hours he’d read my messages and never respond back or say he was busy that day and have a bunch of lame excuses well fast-forward a week before my birthday, and he came over and ended up spending the weekend. We had a great time he got me flowers. It was very, very sweet. We celebrated my early birthday together and then on my real birthday he had football practice and so he called me after football practice after I begged him to call me and when we finally dig it on the car, he was making up a bunch of excuses, saying he was tired and he literally said that he didn’t wanna be on the call and he would rather be asleep so I hung up on himbecause I was pretty upset, but it was my birthday so I wasn’t gonna let it get me down and I just hung out with my friends instead well about the next day after my birthday he texted me good morning and I was just still kind of upset about what happened in the previous night so I didn’t respond back to him and I guess that got him upset because we didn’t talk for about a week after that and I was more upset by the fact that he didn’t call me or text me to make sure I was OK since we hadn’t talked for a week so by the end of the week, I decided to send him a breakup text because I knew I wouldn’t be able to break up with him overall and all my friends told me I should break up with him so I sent him a text and he never responded back to it and then after I texted him, I decided to text his mom because I had a really close relationship with his mom doing the whole relationship and so I just wanted her to hear what happened from me before he could say anything bad about me and she responded back almost immediately. She was sad but understood and told me that she still loved me and all this stuff and she was just very sweet about it fast-forward a few days and he never ever responded back to my message or call me or anything and he knew what happened he knew I broke up with him. He never said anything exactly a week after I sent him that write up text. He calls me at seven in the morning and basically was like I’m sorry I never texted you. I wanted to but like I just couldn’t. I was so busy and just like a bunch of excuses just like how it was in the relationship He’s like please take me back. I promise I’ll be better. I promise and I was like please don’t make Don’t make promises. You couldn’t keep while we were in a relationship and I just kind of shut him up and then I hung up on him fast-forward a few weeks and he kept calling me and he just kept staying very diligent and I finally answered his call and he was like I’ve really been working on myself like I want to try again and I ended up taking him back and not even a week. He was still doing the same stuff so I broke up with him for good. He asked if we could be friends. I said I don’t know if I can do that and proceeded to block him on everything help what should I do and did I make the right decision?
4.5 years together . 6 month marriage
We had a great Christmas vacation. Then New Year’s Day he wants to move out breakup and divorce. Saying it’s not going to workout. We had incredible compatibility. I was his first love. We had so much fun. Never fought. Today he text saying only wanted to communicate if important. No more texting. That just wrecked me so bad. It’s so stressful at work. I’m hanging by a thread. Emotions are wrecked.
My wife betrayed me.
We are together 12yrs and gos blessed us with 3 beautiful daughters.7,9,&12 yrs. On the 1st of December when I was randomly looking at her phone I came across a bunch of messages on Snapchat, where I saw more than 2 months she is cheating on me. And she cheated a multiple me nearly 10times. She told me she was going to do the Xmas Shopping. One time she said she is going for coffee with her work friends. But in reality, she carry her lover spurned in my car and park anywhere and have sex. Some days she had sex before coming home from work and come quietly to sleep beside me as if nothing happened. There was so much detailed dirty messages where they kept talking what did, how good was it….. wish do to something more crazy next….. like a lot. Praising each other body parts and all. After the confrontation, she says to me she is sorry and it a mistake, she depressed and got carried away after few drinks. I would convince myself if it was 1 time mistake. But what to you call when it’s been done repeatedly and fully planned. I don’t know what to do. Help please.
Still need to see him every week
So he dumped me and said I am not focus on him… I feel desperate and in emotional pain. But I have to see him every week for work. What should I do ?
Asked them if they want me in their life.
It’s been a rough go but confusing. I broke it off back in October because lack of communication and another unfortunate situation where they should have shown up for me but didn’t. Since then, we have taken turns in reaching out weekly or biweekly but no real conversation. Just “good mornings or how are you”. When i try to engage in the conversation, they disengage. I was supposed to see them in December and they ended up having work. Since then, i have just felt they dont want contact with me and i have been asking but the response is always ambiguous. I also noticed they turned off their read receipts. Finally on the 26, i asked in a voice clip “do you want me in your life” and explained the confusion of feeling confident one day and then not being sure if the other person even wanted to speak to me. I hadn’t heard back so nudged again asking for a response whether good or bad. They replied saying they were away but would contact me once back. They then said they listened to my clip twice and was pondering. I am sitting on my hands at this point and would be lying to say i worry they just disappear. I guess i want some closure and them being clear with me would answer a lot and make me feel comfortable to just go.
I feel so lost and alone
So all my relationships have ended bad. I’ve been cheated on 11 times by all 11 girls I’ve dated. I told myself that I’m done dating. But then ima call her Nichole came into my life. She was amazing I feel in love with her so fast we talked 24/7 for 3 years. We got married had a son and started a life together. She ended things at the beginning of the month. I have no clue how to much on. She’s moving on just fine like nothing even happened and I just don’t know how. I can’t do no contact because we have a kid together I can’t not see her because she picks him up every weekend. Why do I feel the way I feel? Today she picked up our son and I later texted her is it hard for you to see me? She said it is and I asked do you hope the love comes back? And she said maybe but I am happier on my own. That hurt so much it’s been a month and she’s already moved on like the past 3 years ment nothing to her. Why am I so stuck why can’t I just move on like I’m even at the point of wanting to relinquish father right just so I don’t have to see her anymore this is the hardest break up I’ve ever gone through and there was no cheating every time I see her I want to hug and kiss her but she doesn’t even let me touch her how long until I feel normal again how long until I feel like myself again will I ever recover or is this just who I am? All I think about is I’m gonna be the guy that wishes he was with his ex I saw an episode of family guy and it was a dad and son at a mall the son said to the dad I wish I was with mom and the dad said me too why is that gonna be me I’ve lost everything I lost my home my stuff my wife my son my job my car I’ve lost it all and now I have to rebuild my entire life but what am I rebuilding it for am I rebuilding it for myself if so I don’t want to I don’t want to get my own place I don’t want to get more stuff I just want her I just want her back in my life but that won’t ever happen and that breaks my heart even more I have so many questions and no one to talk to about this I hate my life I just want to be home in bed with her one last time holding on and never letting go but she doesn’t want me because she sees me as a disappointment and that hurts even more what do I do
And so it’s over soon after beginning!
It had been 6 years since I’d dated anyone. And 12 years since I’d fallen in love! We met randomly in the city and he was so confident. I wanted to stay single. He perused me til I gave in! Intimacy was selfish on his side at first. I taught him how to be amazing which he always knew, he just needed to be open with me. He never really trusted me with his heart. I fell for him quickly but not really for him but who I wanted to be in love with. I think he always knew this and resented it! And so he’d abuse me. With name calling, gas lighting and eventually physical abuse. It couldn’t continue. We only lasted 4 months. Yet in the final month he talked about proposing! We were co-dependant from the start. How do I learn to be alone again?
Recently broke up
We broke up in the start of this year. She said she was tired in the relationship. I tried to work on myself for so long. Started surprising her more often, drove hours and hours to see her parents three weekends in a row. And last weekend she said she still feels tired and nothing changed. I feel like nothing was ever enough. Also her family was against me from the start. We broke up Friday. Saturday she texts me she misses me so much. I reply I miss you too, and she says: its better to not have any contact anymore, because it hurts too much. I’m feeling so empty
Personality disorder
recently went through a very painful breakup with my partner, who has been diagnosed with paranoid personality disorder (PPD). Throughout our relationship, I always tried to be understanding and supportive, but it was incredibly challenging. He often reacted to situations with mistrust, anger, and accusations, which made open communication very difficult. I admit I made mistakes, including lying to him a few times, which caused him to withdraw emotionally.This dynamic was present throughout our entire relationship. He would often put me down, seek out conflict, and insist on being right, even at my expense. I tried to fix things by giving even more of myself, but this led to me neglecting my own needs and feeling drained. In the end, I started standing up for myself, which he didn’t take well. He began to accuse me of sabotaging the relationship and blamed me for everything going wrong. I’m struggling to accept how things ended, especially knowing that he now likely resents me. I still care for him deeply, but I also realize that our dynamic became toxic for both of us. I feel torn between sadness, guilt, and the need to heal.
How to avoid pushing
I am struggling to find the right thing to do. My husband of 15 years decided to leave. Said he wants a separation and told our 10 year old daughter he wants a divorce. He moved out October and he has yet to file anything he came to an agreement to pay an amount for child support but just said last week that we have to revise it because he could barely pay his bills and rent of his new place. (He makes triple of what I make in a month) I have more responsibilities with our daughter. He is to have her every other weekend but she is wanting to spend less time with him and wants to be home with me. I’m struggling myself to make ends meet. My family has been helping me out since he moved out. I have hopes in reconciliation but I feel if he continues to push to pay less in child support I will have no option to reach out to a lawyer/mediation on how to proceed. If I do this I don’t know how to calmly communicate this to him and I really don’t want to push him further away. He is well aware of my financial responsibilities as I shared with him everything he left me with. I also just don’t understand how a husband can walk out and do this to his family.
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