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Missing him
Why do we miss those who hurt us the most? Why our minds are wired to the good moments which were limited compared to the abuse and emotional pain we felt by how they treated and disrespected us? He was a narcissist and he succeeded in walking out of the relationship convincing me that I was the issue. He is living his life today while I sit here questioning and crying over him……
Am I a loser
No matter what I’m doing she seems to be able to creep right into my thoughts and it’s been a whole year and I’m still thinking about her. I feel at a loss because the last time we spoke she told me she didn’t love me in a romantic way but more in a friendship way and I was BALLING MY EYES OUT in her car in my driveway like a pussy. I can’t move on what do I do now. Also sorry if ts doesn’t make sense I’m just typing my thoughts exactly as they are coming into my head.
Am I a loser
No matter what I’m doing she seems to be able to creep right into my thoughts and it’s been a whole year and I’m still thinking about her. I feel at a loss because the last time we spoke she told me she didn’t love me in a romantic way but more in a friendship way and I was BALLING MY EYES OUT in her car in my driveway like a pussy. I can’t move on what do I do now. Also sorry if ts doesn’t make sense I’m just typing my thoughts exactly as they are coming into my head.
Letting it out
Ex left me almost a month ago, he’s talking to someone else he previously knew. They’ve known each other for 11 years and have never met once. Due to her anxiety or at least that’s what she tells him but I feel like you would meet someone you are into no matter what. I still love him a lot. We live together as we signed a lease 3 months ago. But we do sleep separately. Not in no contact yet. Well the past few days he’s been talking to me very sexually and talking about stuff we use to. Well last night things took a turn and he was tub in my back and things happened. He waned it to happen and was planing on doing it well when we were doing he said we shouldn’t have done that. And proceeded to say this girl told him to do it for closure…. But like who would really tell someone go do it with your ex for closure if you were serious about them
Most painful break up I ever experienced.
Just ended a relationship of 2 years and 5 months. We experienced a lot together not until we decided to continue our relationship in a long distance because he said confidently he can do it. He just ended the relationship with me 2 months into our LDR stage because he felt that i was suffocating him and controlling him and that he admits he was tired of me from all the constant updates and being limited to be with his friends who are girls by the way. In me i understand he can feel that way but i hope he understands that i will obviously get jealous and will be hard to adjust not knowing what he is doing in another country far away from me. And i was very open to him about it but not in the way that im controlling him i was just opening up my feelings and asking for him to work together to fix this problem in our relationship but he doesn't want to or he's not very good at communicating with me. Everyday i felt this heavy feeling that he is hiding and lying his feelings about me, he wasn't very open to me and he always used the excuse that he doesn't want any problem to arise thats why he hides things such as pictures of him and the girls he was friends with, however i felt uneasy and he doesn't explain this kind of things to me because he is very convinced that he doesn't do anything bad or wrong into our relationship. i chased him and chose him over and over again but he gives up easily at times that i just need him to meet my emotional needs because i was used to him making me feel that way meeting my emotional needs. now i let him go for he wants to enjoy his life without any limit and i just wished he never agreed to be in a long distance with me if he doesn't want anyone limiting him or making him known to his boundaries when it comes to having a relationship,and im in the process of healing but it still hurts because its still fresh just 3 days ago. and worst of all i have no one else to talk to about this problem of mine don't have any friends because i let myself get attached to him only every day in my life. Worst of all is that we are legally in a relationship both of our families were involved and now all of us hurt both our families from what happened because they really thought we would be the one for each other and our relationship is the type of date to marry type.
Any advice?
So, my ex-boyfriend and I broke up yesterday, which is still really fresh. To clarify, we were together for 6 months, and I was literally planning to see him this month for his birthday, but of course that didn’t happen. Around the second month, I had to move to California, and that really took a toll on us. At first, we were so happy and in love, but that’s when things started going downhill. He was controlling and insecure at times, which I didn’t mind at first because I was okay with reassuring him. But then it kept getting worse. He would say hurtful things, and then I would respond with hurtful things too. It was really draining. I know that’s not an excuse, and I’m not going to act like I was an angel, but despite everything, we still really loved each other. He used to say he would never leave me—but he did. And now I feel so stupid for trying so hard, because he gave up so easily. I thought he truly cared, and it feels like I wasted my time. Now I keep wondering if he’ll come back, or if it’s really over. I don’t know what to do. I really miss him, but at the end of the day, it was his decision, not mine. I know I need to move forward, but I just don’t know how.
3rd break up but I think he will likely be back
The first time we broke up, it was out of nowhere. He just disappeared and then came back into my life a week later it was probably the coldest and coolest thing he could’ve done, but regardless because I was so in love with him I decided to get back with him. Throughout the entirety of our second trial, it was me essentially chasing him, but I had to hit a point where I could no longer do it and so I decided to break up with him, even though he tried flipping it and making it seem like he broke up with me. after that, I didn’t reach out to him for three weeks around which he decided to come back and try to talk to me. I kept things casual and wished him the best and told him that was right. However, he would reach out and then out in person finally realized how much we missed each other. At that point I told him that I still didn’t trust him and they we can talk if he fixes 2 things. After a month of fixing it he reached out and I tell him that our relationship with be slow. I finally started letting my guard down and he tells me that he is unhappy. Mind u the second time we’re together he was struggling financially and said that was the reason he ran away. This time too he’s in a similar situation where he lost his promotion at work and was too broke to buy anything for his new apartment. I told him that it might be other stress and to think about it but he broke up still. I think like the other 2 times before he will be back but I am officially done with this man child. On another notes when breaking up he said “sometimes I just want to be consumed by u and at other times I want to be left alone” as we broke up
Unsettling
I have been trying with the guy for about three years it started as friends with benefits then with in the last 6 months he started calling me his lady. And the last time we messed around he didn’t finish and he was okay with that. But same situation happened like a month ago n I had stopped him and he didn’t talk to me for weeks. So now it’s been twos weeks I haven’t seen him I was gonna to get a room for us but he stood me up . N haven’t heard anything idk how to move on . To me there was no closure n and it’s killing my self esteem.
She broke up with me
We dated for 2 years and it’s all gone now i really did try for this girl she meant the entire world to me i would buy her gifts n other stuff the reason why we broke up is because she wanted to do good for her future and that it was hard to love herself and myself at the same time which is totally understandable but at the same time i would’ve done as much for her but it seems like it wasn’t enough please anyone i really need someone to talk to everyday here’s my instagram ,tjh.eszz thank you all and have a beautiful life!
Struggling need help
Today we hit 3 months after officially breaking up. He was the one who ended things brutally and unexpectedly, and was so harsh on me. My reaction to the emotional abuse was blocking him immediately on all social platforms. I’m struggling to move on though, I still wait for him to come back, I still look at his social media from other accounts. He has a business account that I unfollowed but I keep looking at the chat status if he gets online or something because it comforts me that he might contact me through it, or just the idea that he might be stalking my social media i guess. I know this is bad, and it’s not helping, i genuinely want to move on, it was a toxic relationship with a narcissist. It will take me days to write down all the harmful things he said to me, and the fact that he was never an apologetic person. I know I shouldn’t care, but why do I care??? It hurts me so much that I care, And why am I waiting for someone who hurt me deeply and had me walk on eggshells for 2.5 years? Only to leave me after all the promises. This is so painful, I need help and advice. How can I get him out of my mind😭😭😭😭
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