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substantialdoordy
7mo ago
Seeking Advice

Most painful break up I ever experienced.

Just ended a relationship of 2 years and 5 months. We experienced a lot together not until we decided to continue our relationship in a long distance because he said confidently he can do it. He just ended the relationship with me 2 months into our LDR stage because he felt that i was suffocating him and controlling him and that he admits he was tired of me from all the constant updates and being limited to be with his friends who are girls by the way. In me i understand he can feel that way but i hope he understands that i will obviously get jealous and will be hard to adjust not knowing what he is doing in another country far away from me. And i was very open to him about it but not in the way that im controlling him i was just opening up my feelings and asking for him to work together to fix this problem in our relationship but he doesn't want to or he's not very good at communicating with me. Everyday i felt this heavy feeling that he is hiding and lying his feelings about me, he wasn't very open to me and he always used the excuse that he doesn't want any problem to arise thats why he hides things such as pictures of him and the girls he was friends with, however i felt uneasy and he doesn't explain this kind of things to me because he is very convinced that he doesn't do anything bad or wrong into our relationship. i chased him and chose him over and over again but he gives up easily at times that i just need him to meet my emotional needs because i was used to him making me feel that way meeting my emotional needs. now i let him go for he wants to enjoy his life without any limit and i just wished he never agreed to be in a long distance with me if he doesn't want anyone limiting him or making him known to his boundaries when it comes to having a relationship,and im in the process of healing but it still hurts because its still fresh just 3 days ago. and worst of all i have no one else to talk to about this problem of mine don't have any friends because i let myself get attached to him only every day in my life. Worst of all is that we are legally in a relationship both of our families were involved and now all of us hurt both our families from what happened because they really thought we would be the one for each other and our relationship is the type of date to marry type.

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AmyJune7mo ago

I’ll never understand it. Men are wired differently. And when they say they feel suffocated it is because they don’t want to put the same effort into the relationship. I’m sorry to say it but the more you try to pull him close the worse your situation will get. Focus on you and try to stop worrying about him. He’s not worrying about you. You deserve more than that. 🤗

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luckydotg7mo ago

This is exactly how my fiancé was I was so in love with her. I stayed through all the bad and chose her even on her worst days but anytime I brought up something I was uncomfortable with she would tell me I was being controlling and all I wanted was her time it truly breaks my heart when she claims to love me but is so easy to lose me the next second. I still love her but I think it’s time to move on I didn’t deserve anything that she put me through I’m tired of pouring all of myself into someone that will give me a drop here and there.

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AmyJune7mo ago

You sound like you are on the right path as hard as that can be. You do deserve someone who will love and respect you the way you would them.

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