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Situationship
I was with my ex for 14 years. Despite having complicated on and off periods, I still consider him as my best friend. I chose to move to another state in the mindset of finding new opportunities because everything about trying to 'survive' within societal terms absolutely sucks - but I was moreso running away from trauma, negativity and fear (now that I had time to reflect on my decision). My ex's love language is physical touch, thus he was like "if you move, that's a dealbreaker because I need someone to fill that need." Being the rational person I am, I solemnly agreed that we should break up because I can't and won't be able to provide what he needs. Looking back, I still wasn't able to even when we was just an hour away from each other because trauma holding me back from prioritising our relationship, showing up for him physically/ intimately, etc. But, even then, he still understood and put effort into trying to make it work while I. just took everything for granted and didn't realize I was codependent with him until it was too late. Of course, I blame my upbringing and emotional neglect from family/ friends; but that's a childish excuse, I feel like. Anyway, even though we should have just departed as friends, we decided to go the 'situationship' route. And, I should have known that was going to trouble - at least on my end. I still had romantic feelings for him but I should have saw the signs that he had moved on without me. Change in behaviour, lack of communication... falling in love with someone else. The one thing we promised each other was that, since we were going to be in a situationship, we would at least tell each other ASAP when feelings were developing for someone else. So that there wouldn't be any confusion or conflict; like me, wanting to see him over the holidays and have sex. But, he told me that he has a girlfriend last minute. It just feels like he didn't have any regard about my feelings so l feel hurt and disrespected. Is this on me? Yeah, most likely. However, his excuse was that he wanted to wait until NEXT TIME we say each other in person to say anything. If I didn't plan on visiting back to my home state, WHEN would the next time would've been? Would he have just left me in the dark? I don't necessarily care that he has moved on. I'm just hurt how all of this was handled. You would think more than a decade together would warrant some type of respect tbh.
A lesson
This is the only guy i feel connected to he is perfect in my mind everything goes so well we talk everday and everything but eventually we have to stop for a reason bc of complicated things and honestly it’s hurt me so much i miss him alot but i understand why he did that and i will have to move on but its so freaking hard
How can I ever trust someone again?
She went off birth control on purpose and got pregnant. I ended up coming around and wanting to go through with it. We talked names, and I got a ring to propose to her. She decided she didn’t actually want it and aborted it. I was so against that, it felt wrong to do. We ended up fighting over it, and it got to the point where she started to physically hitting me. I had to end the relationship but I miss her so much
First day
Broke up today. We were together for three years coming right out of High School and I loved her so much. Long distance, but we talked everyday, played games together, and watched shows/movies on FaceTime. She came to visit this last weekend and it didn’t feel right. It was a little awkward at times and we weren’t talking as much as we usually would. We still enjoyed each other’s company and had fun but today was so different. Little talking, and constantly staring off thinking and a familiar giant pit hung in my stomach. I could tell she felt what I was feeling too. We grew apart into different people slowly, which wasn’t necessarily a bad thing. Her future path was different from mine and she didn’t want to waste my time if she couldn’t fully commit to us. She was going to optometry school and I was still finishing an engineering degree. We would only get farther away. I said “this seems like something we cannot fix” and we agreed to cut it off (hardest thing i have ever had to say). We talked for an hour, cried,held each other, made jokes and talked about what life would be like without each other. Eventually we said “I love you” hugged, and kissed for the last time. She left, texted me when she made it back and that is that. I wish I could be mad at her, but this is supposed to be the best for both of us. I just want to see her texts messages again, and hear her voice again. Scared to go to sleep tonight because I will dream of her and wake up to absolutely nothing. I miss her.
364 days
it’s been 364 days and i still miss him,i never say it to anyone because it feels so stupid why can’t i forget abt a stupid boy we literally dated in middle school for a year and then we were on and off. i’m pretty sure we met when i was 12 I’m abt to be 15 in June and i can’t forget about him. the first time we broke up i was actually heart broken sounds stupid to say as someone so young but it hurt bad, and after that i’m different i just don’t care as much about things he was my first boyfriend ever and i haven’t dated anyone since i just don’t care anymore and i don’t find i trust in even having a stupid high school crush. The hard part for me rn is that we always go no contact wtv but he always breaks it i know he does so i got used to it but this time he isn’t breaking it last time we talked was in December and i remember i was the one who coasted him again cus i remember all the bad parts of our relationship. It hurts cus there’s no way in hell imma reach out and i know I’m young and have so much going for me but idk i just want him to get me again but also i feel bad because i’ve changed i genuinely don’t care about abt most stuff i used to be crazy abt he thought it was a act at first of me being yk showing him how he hurt me but nope that’s just how i am no w. Now that im a little older i see that i was a bad girlfriend to we were both bad but can u blame us we were kids. So idk its not like i cry at night for him and yea i guess I’m happy but idk in the back of my mind i secretly pray that he’ll text me again because besides everything unfortunately he’s my comfort person and not having that is yk not the best. but i still wish him the best and i have so much love for him mabye when we’re older i can start loving him again.
Please give advice
Ive known this kid since the beginning of last year. We had a few conversations but didnt leave too close so never saw him. We started a talking stage in may 2025 and then started dating. Everything was perfect he treated me better than any of my other exes i got so attached and we were so in love. I had no friends so he gave me his as my own and i finally wasn’t lonley and we had so many plans for the summer. Fast foward to the second week (this week) everything was fine until friday he started arguing w me about how i was overthinking too much and was controlling (i wasnt or didnt mean too) it was my time of the month (tmi sorry) so i was obvi a little moody. Time goes by after that and he says he needs a break, i have trauma from that bc my first love said the same thing and never came back and blocked me on everything. So i started getting scared bc i didnt know what i did wrong and i stayed up all night without any sleep. It was the next morning and i asked if we can talk it out. He said no im done and unadded me. I tried to text him on messages throughout the day and he ignored me. It then came today and he himself and many other ppl said hes done with me forever hes never talking to me again and never being my friend or anything. Ofc since he doesnt live nearby(25 mins) i dont expect to ever see him again. His ex is posting “quotes” of their convo on her story and its hurting me. Please, how do i get him back, hes the only reason im alive ill do anything for him to give me another chance.
break up
so basically we broke up bc im 3months older than him (he broke up w me) and we broke up then got back tg and broke up again and we broke up again 3 days ago and I’ve been crying every night about him and nothing is helping me I’ve started cvtting again and I was slowely getting better but I’ve gotten worse so ya
breakup
i think i might have bpd but i kept putting him through a cycle of my insecurities and accusing him of cheating. on monday we had gotten in another fight after i had been doing super good and as i usually do i say”let’s break up then. we’re done.” expecting him to chase after me and he didn’t. he left.
Betrayal
I was with a guy that I loved very deeply. We broke up yesterday. He left me. He was everything I wanted in the beginning of our relationship. When we first got together 10 months ago he was so good to me his communication was consistent he was affectionate caring and just everything I wanted. He owns his own business and lives 2 hours from me so he is very busy. After about 5 months his great uncle died and he was very very upset about it so I did my very best to comfort him and after that bad things just kept happening to him like wrongfully going to jail, his grandpa getting cancer and more. He began pulling away from me little by little. His replies got shorter and he took longer to answer and stopped seeing me as much. It didn’t take me long to realize he wasn’t good with talking about his feelings and he was extremely emotionally unintelligent and unavailable. I asked him so many times to call me more or just send a few more texts checking in just so I knew he loved me cause I overthink a lot and have bad anxiety. For a while he made an effort and changed. Then he stopped and the whole time I was being neglected I was nothing but nice. What was really confusing was when I would see him in person he was so loving and nice to me and then he’d leave and his communication would just suck. These past two weeks were tearing me apart he would barely speak to me dodge saying I love you back avoid talking about why he was acting this way and then last night he sent a text saying he still really liked me but it wasn’t fair to me that he was putting his business before me and it would be best if we just parted ways. He also said he still loves me and maybe down the road we could try again. I wish he had never said those two things if it’s over I just wanna move on but all I can think about is how he still loves me apparently but couldn’t give me what I wanted. I blocked him on everything. Everything I see reminds me of him. I thought he was going to be my husband. He would reassure me so much before this saying he will never leave and he wants me forever we would always talk about our future. And he just threw me away like I was nothing. I know what I have to do and that’s heal and never take him back. I don’t really know what I’m looking for from sharing this maybe someone who can relate? If you’ve made it this far thank you for reading. I am so hurt.
breakup.
hey guys. so me and my ex dated for 2 years, and been in love with each other since 7th grade. on monday i found out he cheated on me. he had told me and my mom he didnt know the girl. tuesday comes around & the girls friend texted me asking me to take his name out of my bio. i asked her why, she makes a gc with the girl. Abbi. she begins to tell me her and my ex had been talking for 3 weeks, she sends me ss. they had hung out, and were touchy. he even sajd i love you in 3 weeks. i texted the ss to him and asked him to never speak to me again. to this girl he cheated with I was just the crazy ex from 5th and 7th grade that wanted him back. his excuse to me was that the whole time he was texting her he was pretending it was me. and that we were fighting a lot and wasnt feeling appreciated and loved. the whole relationship was toxic to everyone else, and me at some points. we couldnt go a week without over 5 arguments a day. i wasnt allowed to wear what i want, be around my friends. i know it was toxic but he keeps reposting tiktoks about me. and i miss him but i have to come to terms that what he did wasnt ok. and it’s unforgivable because i wouldnt have ever done that to him.
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