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how do i get over it?
my ex and I can't leave each other alone we have such a back and forth at the moment sometimes we are together and then we break up again but I can't leave him I don't want to be without him I don't know what to do if I'm honest he's always trying to change and I notice that he's trying but because of his past it's difficult for him and in the end we always end up at the same point. A lot has happened between us which always comes back up and you can't undo it but I don't want to lose him because of it, it feels like he is perfect for me
8 days no contact
I’m on 8th day of no contact and pregnant with my ex. I ended things 9 days ago and said I didn’t want a family with him due to his issues. He didn’t like that and got super nasty with me and I haven’t heard from him since. What’s more heartbreaking is he hasn’t even bothered to call me to check in or text, I know I’m the one who ended things but still, it’s not like this situation is as cut and dry as a normal break up. I just need to know he still cares
wtf
Yesterday it was my birthday, he didn't even wish for me. He broke up a month ago and said that I would always be the most important person for him. I think he was lying.
help
He observed another girl on Instagram. this girl has photos in bikinis and other controversial ones. it hurts. very much. I haven't entered his accounts since the last time and I don't know why I did it today, I hurts herself. it's been a month since the breakup, what if he broke up and lost feelings because I didn't have enough for him? It hurts so much. why do I still have to love him so much despite everything he does? How to stop waiting for him? When will it pass?
i cant
Hey, I can't cope. he broke up with me 41 days ago and day by day it's getting worse, I swear. there are better and worse days, but for the last few days it's come to me that maybe it's actually the end and it tears me apart from the inside. he broke up with me because he lost feelings, but a few times right after the breakup he wrote to me to try again, but after a few days he thought about it. we met once, two weeks after the breakup and everything was fine, but then he said that he had mixed feelings after that meeting and to give him time. a week after that I wrote to him what's next and he wrote to me that he feels completely burned out and doesn't want to hurt me. we have no contact since then and I can't cope. I really wanted to fix it and make it like it used to be. Our relationship was not perfect, especially at the end because it changed and I felt bad then, but still I think that if we tried it we would be able to fix it. I love him so much and I can't go on I just wait for him all the time. I have a birthday in a week and I'm terribly afraid of that day, we had our first kiss. What can I do? Nothing helps me because I really think it could be fixed. after a week he added girls on Instagram and with one of them it is very possible that he talks. it hurts me a lot because I can't even imagine myself with anyone else. I've been to a psychologist twice, but so far I can't afford more visits. I just can't cope and I don't know what I can do?😭😭😭
Missing the one that broke me makes me a foul?
I feel guilty by missing someone who broke me in too many pieces, i feel frustrated because i loved him so sincerely that i can’t hate him not even a little bit and that hurts like hell because everyone tells me to move on, everyone it’s constantly saying to me the shame I should feel for everything that I allowed him, they’re telling me “he never felt anything for you and he never will so get over it”… but I have so many questions, if he never felt anything why does he stayed 4 years in a row searching me, writing me, apologizing, telling me that I was important to him, asking to see me, spending romantic moments with me ??? I’m so confused, because even when I blocked him he made the impossible to reach me and apologize to me after a couple months of no contact, and now suddenly he doesn’t want to know anything about me and he hates me? I know sometimes I can be sensitive and he called that “drama”, but i have spent the last 4 years trying to be enough, trying to be chosen, trying to be loved by him, justifying every hurtful moment, every hurtful word or action… and that consumed me, made me insecure and made me feel that I’m not worthy of love because no matter what I do he will never ever chose me and he will never see me as a valuable girl. I can’t stop asking myself …Will he one day regret letting me go?, does he miss me even just a little bit?, did he really felt something or it was just empty words to have me and then leave me?
Overwhelming feeling of sadness
I broke up with my gf of 5years due to lack of love being reciprocated and attentiveness was not shown. Lack of communication and past traumas holding us back. The pain and distress and sadness I feel has got me in a chokehold. I’m not like seeing a way out of this feeling. Ik people say it takes time and energy Will shift but I’m missing her like crazy and I just want to text her and say I’m sorry and not get back together but just know how she is and if she’s eating and feeling and sleeping. Ughhhhhhhhhh
Anger
I dated someone for 7 months. It started off good. I thought we had a connection. I asked where we were going and he reassured me we were going somewhere. He told me to be patient so I was. Twice he got stressed and pulled away. Each time I was confused. We seemed to stay connected the first but this time seems different. He told me he was stressed, having family issues, job issues but there appears to be something he doesn’t want me to know. This time he has It pulled away and it appears he intends to stay away. He got a loan from me and paid most of it back so I thought just maybe I had become someone he cared for and trusted. I don’t understand how someone can tell you they adore you and you matter to them one minute then treat you like you don’t exist the next. I’m angry. I hadn’t dated anyone in seven years and I thought I had something wonderful. Now I know I don’t. I reached out on Friday to say, I know you have been through a lot. I’ve been patient. If you are still going through them take all the time you need. If you have moved on I wish you well. If you want to talk I look forward to talking. Have a good day! His response, I’ve called a few times but I have no record of those calls.
Nearly 9 years together and he decided to breakup
My ex dumped me after i found him at this girl’s house during thanksgiving. he lied to me and cheated on me. when the door swung open and found him with this girl in her house, he was smiling - as if she won. while my ex grasped me tightly, threw me to the gutter and told me to leave. I texted him after 24 hours and again today. I feel dumb after doing that. he asked for space and time and i learned that he is an extreme avoidant. after my last long text to him, i decided i need to stop so i downloaded this app to help me start my no contact countdown. i still hope that he comes back to me at the end of this.
No Contact - Does It Work?
I’ve been trying No Contact after listening to a really good YouTuber talk about using No Contact as a self-regulating technique to calm down after a breakup and to also give time s d space for your partner to calm down and realise to see if they really miss you and reach out. Can I ask of any stories on No Contact working? And for how many days or months it’s taken in not contacting an ex and then they come back? I’m not asking about narcissists or narcissistic exes, as they always come back to abuse. I’m asking about normal and genuine partners that have broken up with you, but in an amicable way with no drama split-ups that have led to argument. Many thanks.
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