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I ruined everything
I want to start by saying I cheated on my ex. When she found out, it hurt her so much but she tried working through the issues with me. We were together for almost 5 years and throughout our relationship I was so indecisive. I would break up and get back with her multiples times to the point where she would never know what was going on in my mind. I broke up with her for the last time on July 17th and absolutely broke her trust by going out on a date with another person 5 days later while we were still living together. She asked me not to do this and I promised her that I wouldn’t🤦🏾♂️. Even after that happened she begged for me back as I moved all of my belongings out of the house and I completely ignored her as I did that. Finally 2 weeks later I reached out trying to fix things and she made it clear that it was over. I can tell how difficult it was for her because she never had the courage in the past to finally end things. It has been 3 months now and I have been heavily working on myself. I lost over 30 lbs, have been consistently taking therapy, and have been reflecting on my past behaviors because I truly do want to change as a person. We still stay in contact due to the fact that we own real estate properties together but I’m hoping 1 year from now she will still be there and will recognize that I am a completely different person. I hate who I was in the past and never want to do that to anyone ever again. I know I don’t deserve any kind of sympathy but I truly want to be different and would ask for anyone’s support/advice through this difficult time.
Got cheated on
My boyfriend of 4 years cheated on me. With his CNA I’m an RN and it shows that titles ain’t nothing. I told him to leave the house and he did. Didn’t even hesitate. He packed his bags and left, however he came back 5 minutes later and said do you really want me to leave I’m here, I was strong enough to say yes leave. immediately blocked his number even if we have a daughter and that is only because I need to heal and put myself first for my daughter. It’s been 5 days and he hasn’t tried one way or another to contact her.
Sad
I miss her. I text her earlier today telling her that I wanted a friendship from her if she was open to having one I told her that maybe we could go get food sometime or go shopping and that maybe if she wasn’t open to it right now maybe she will in the future. I genuinely feel lonely. I know that everybody in my life has their family and their significant others. I really wish I didn’t feel lonely. I wish that I had some kind of motivation to go to the store and get necessities or go to the park and take a walk but as much as I want to, I can’t bring myself to do it. I don’t know if she misses me. I know she’s been listening to breakup songs and I know that that doesn’t mean anything. I wish that I never told her to move out because now I feel like I have absolutely no one. I wish I knew if she felt the same as me. I wish she would reply back sometimes because sometimes she does and then sometimes she doesn’t.
Dreams
the last months of our relationship i didnt treat her like a real gf. i couldve done so much differently. she’s now in college and told me she will never come back. no contact for 5 days so far. i keep having dreams about her and waking up with a hole in my chest just wanting to text her. i miss her so badly. it was 4 years and we knew everything about each other.
Advice
Why do I consistently feel like he's going to come back, I've seen my therapist and he told me its my emotional side of my brain taking over my rational side of my brain, it's like I feel it deep in my soul that he might but I'm not sure if that's what I want! How do y'all handle this? I've been doing self-talk with my rational side to squash the hope but it doesn't go away and I keep waking up every morning since almost having a full-blown panic attack because of it!! I just want my emotional side to stop, I keep telling myself he's not coming back and it wasn't my decision.
“Space”?
My bf of 9 months broke up with me on September 26th because he needs to put himself first and needs to focus on his career and future, he’s 19 and graduated this year from highschool. He said right now he needs space but tmr we are seeing eachtoher to just talk and catch up with how we are doing. It really came out of nowhere and I’m so crushed by it. He said he’s coming back for all of me and he left me his 300$ chain with me.
Pain and discomfort
Me and my gf got married before I moved a state away a few days before I left from one state to another even in the court office she kept threatening divorce now that I’m in a whole new state she’s gone completely ghost on me so now I’m just kinda in my head dwelling
Help me stop crying
Mybf of 5 years left and he was the only person keeping me going
The weight of the world
My boyfriend decided he wanted to take a break after our one year anniversary! He became so distant and was very vague on why we were taking a break, he told me that he was needing to take time to gather his thoughts but kept telling me that when he come back from his break he wants to retry and wants to fall in love twice as hard but wants me to keep working on myself, halfway through the break he posted a 5-minute rant hinting towards me on Snapchat and it shot be down so many pegs but I still held out hope! But after two weeks he just called me last night and told me he doesn't wanna restart again and he needs time alone and to be by himself, let alone he's the one that proposed promise rings and asked me if I wanted to move in with him when he goes to graduate school and I told him yes I would, but comes to find out, all that made him stressed and he's making it feel like it was my fault! He ended it on, right person wrong time, he told me he doesn't wanna block each other and he still wants to remain really good friends, he still wants to hangout, text all the time and he doesn't want to get rid of any of my stuff and wants to keep all my love quotes up and he told me in the future he wants to start again because he wants to see us both grow old together! Fyi-(I don't know if this makes a difference but we are a gay couple) Any advice? Would greatly be appreciated because it feels like my emotions are a twister and I can't keep them straight!
I wanna know if I did the right thing.
So this man I have been talking to for a year from a distant place. He is very nice and talks to me everyday and video calls with me. We have a mutual understanding that we will only be in a relationship after we meet in person and it’s already scheduled and he already bought a ticket. We have shared a lot of things to each other and even send cards to each other’s address. It feels like a romantic relationship already although he refuses to put a label yet. But recently, he told me that he is gonna spend an entire weekend with a friend who is a girl whom she met at the same platform that we did. And he really did even though I acted cold. And he didn’t noticed I was upset and he even sounded very excited. He said that she is not her type and he don’t like her after some time of talking because she was annoying. He ensured me that it’s only friendly. But it bothers me a lot because it just don’t feel right and that a man and a woman spending a weekend together. Who is he fooling? So I decided to end it. But now it gives me second thought wether O was just overacting and they are really just friends and he just want to show her his place?
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